Last night after a quickie my boyfriend asked me if I came and I didn't. I didn't know to answer that so I tried to avoid the question. I don't want to have to do that again. I want to be upfront and honest with him in everything.
Guys, I'm pretty sure if I said "No, but it's ok" it's not ok and that's not something you would want to hear, correct?
If it should happen again, how can I tell him no without hurting him?
2007-07-21 04:16:02 · 8 answers · asked by Ersabette 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just wanted to add that I didn't fake that I had either.
2007-07-21 04:17:00 · update #1
I have been able to get off with him before so it's not a medical thing but thanks! I like quickies, don't get me wrong but last night there just wasn't enough to get me there.
2007-07-21 04:27:47 · update #2
I always answer that question honestly, I guess 'cause I figure they shouldn't ask if they don't want to know the truth...:) But seriously, there are ways of going about it without it being a pride issue....Like slyly say "Not yet, but you can probably help me with that...." then give your best seductive smile and guide him into doing something that will give you the grand finale too....then you're both happy, he is happy that he can get you off, and you are happier than if you go unsatisfied and just say "Sure I did...." Just my humble opinion. Another note on that subject, a lot of guys know when you lie about it, and that is prolly more of a pride-injury than honesty....
2007-07-21 04:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Bruja 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no other way to tell a guy that you didn't get off, but to tell him that you didn't. Some guys don't get there feelings hurt. I think the guys that don't get there feelings hurt is the ones there are just out for them selves. So if he's not that kind of a guy, then there is no real way around it , but to tell him the truth. And hope that next time you will get off. If you can't get off just about every time. Then i wouldn't say it's his fault. It would be a medical reason or there is something your stressed about. Or there is not alot between you all. Try checking into them 3 problems and see if you can fix the problem. Good luck, and keep us posted. Cindy
2007-07-21 11:25:09 · answer #2 · answered by mamaluv03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "Honey, you're terrific, but I need more warm-up time to have an orgasm. But I appreciate that you care about it, and we can try again." Or you can say, "You know, it's harder for women to orgasm than for men, and women don't orgasm every single time or just from intercourse. But I'm glad you care." Also, let him know what you need in the moment so he can try. Try reading, "ESO - Extended Sexual Orgasm" for some good ideas of what to do.
2007-07-21 11:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell him "No I didn't reach orgasm but you did feel good and I enjoyed it" You don't have to orgasm every time you have sex. Having sexual contact with him makes you feel close to him. Thats what you tell him. it should not hurt his feelings, your letting him know your being honest. he will respect you for that. Then the fun part comes, he will want to know how to make you reach orgasm.
2007-07-21 11:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by leliu5th 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him....hey honey, I wasn't done....
I'm always honest with my bf...if he came too fast, he'll ask me if I did...I'll tell him, no and that I wasn't done yet....we'll take a little break, and then go at it again, but this time, it'll last longer. :) I love long sex.
2007-07-21 11:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Kim W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've never had an orgasm, so my problem is much bigger... how do I keep him motivated to keep me satisfied eventhough I've never had one as yet? ugh, sex is complicated.
2007-07-21 11:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by businesswoman005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to please you, so tell him what he needs to do to help him. You will be surprised.
2007-07-21 11:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Rick H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him itll hurt but itll make him want to please you sexually and make him want to learn to please you if hes really into you.
2007-07-21 11:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Oliver_Thomas1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋