My wife and I are in the process of purchasing our own apartment... and to save money, we are planning to move in with her family until the apartment is built, which is not until July 2008. We are currently renting atm... So, one year I would have to stay with her family. Not sure how our living arrangment gonna be like, prolly like two rooms... one is her old bedroom and the other is the guest room, if lucky. but we have a lot of junk... i mean a lot... so i would have to get rid off a lot of them... every thing from dvds, to electronics, such as tvs, computer, etc... so, it's not that I don't like her family... they are great... but, not sure, if it is gonna be worth the cost of our privacy and doing what ever we want at what ever time.... you know? any good advices?
2007-07-21 03:25:02 · 5 answers · asked by Lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
only do it if you MUST financially.
I moved into my moms with my fiance in March. We BUILT (at our own expense) a bedroom in her unfinished basement
The SECOND the paint dried she demanded $450/month rent (where while we were building it, she said "contribute whatever you can per month)
We had to walk upstairs to use the kitchen/bathroom/anything.. there is NO privacy. You know, walking around naked, sex, all the good stuff? Forget it.
And if you would have alot of stuff, consider putting it in a small storage unit. It would be worth the $40/month to do thatrather than sell everything now just to buy it all again when you move.
Hope my experience helped.. good luck
If i were to give any advice, i would suggest discuss living arrangements/rules/rent (if any) BEFOREHAND and PUT IT IN WRITING.
2007-07-21 03:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before, and I mean before you move in, all partied involved need to sit down and talk about the living arrangements, like rent, food, splitting utilities, bedroom, etc etc.
If you all don't sit down and discuss the living arrangements before you move in, don't compain when surprises spring up.
If you think you might be uncomfortabe living with inlaws, best to live on your own. In the long run, a good relationship with the inlaws is worth the sacrafice.
As for all the things you will have to get rid of if you move in with the inlaws, rent storage space. If unable to do so, have a yard sale and alteast get some money.
A year is a long time when you have to live with someone. On your own its not.
2007-07-21 03:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by airlines charge for the seat. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While my knee jerk reaction is - "ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR FREAKING MIND?!?!" - I've taken a deep breath and will respond as follows:
It all depends on how well you get along with your in-laws. Their little quirks WILL get on your nerves. If you want to be intimate with your spouse, will you be able to under their roof and without them hearing you? If they had a two family house where they were upstairs and you were downstairs, I would say that's not a bad arrangement. But if you're sharing a bathroom, sharing a kitchen, etc., unless you really love these people, it could become a difficult situation.
If you can suck it up for a year and save the money, more power to you.
2007-07-21 03:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to never ever ever never move in with family unless you are dying soon. Its a mistake, don't do it. Sell your junk off and put it towards your apartment, but stay where you are until you can afford your new place.
2007-07-21 03:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one year without privacy is not a life. dont move ... dont move... its too difficult to live with others... even if they are your own family it will be very difficult too. try to find small apartment to rent. who knows living with your in-laws will cost you more than you imagine.
2007-07-21 14:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by zagi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋