Are there actually any good, single, Christian guys?

Question

Well, I'm 23, and I just came out of a very serious 6 year relationship. I'm a Christian and he wasn't. I felt like it was something that I would have to work out because I don't know any good, Christian guys. I'm a college grad with a good career, and I need a man who I can have lots of fun with, but still go to Church with on Sunday. Do these men actually exist?

Answer 1

"Seek and you shall find" - Jesus.

Answer 2

Yes, these men do exist, however, it seems like all the ones who do go to a church of some kind are the minister, they're married or are quite elderly.

Religious beliefs between 2 people who are in a relationship is quite important, as you have just found out. Men are too busy chasing down that promotion, chasing the new busty blonde, so I wished I could help you out.

Don't change a thing about yourself, get involved in your church, you never know who might find you and the right one usually finds you.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I mean I'm not lookig for a single Christian "guy," but a a good, single Christian girl.

I'm a relatively successful 20 something who seems to be unable to meet a nice girl. I was in a long term relationship that ended a year ago or so, and now I can't seem to find any "good girls." I suppose they're out there, but in any typical singles place you meet the "party" type girls, which isn't what i'm looking for. And all the nice girls i meet seem to have boyfriends at least.

Frustrating stuff, life and love.

Answer 4

Sure they do. I'm too old for you but I know many younger Christian men at my church who are devoted to personal holiness and living a life before God that is pleasing to Him.

http://www.alcf.net

Of course there are also the "tares" in most every church. People who profess to be Christians but whose lives don't match up with what the Bible requires of those who would follow Jesus.

1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: 4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour; 5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God: 6 That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. 7 For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.

Answer 5

Only 23? No other single guys in your church that age? Or are you the one that needs to change? Just some food for thought, you may as well hear it from an anonymous source if no one else is going to tell you. Make things better mentally and physically as well as spiritually. Network, be sociable. It ain't rocket science.

Answer 6

Find a church you like and attend Sunday school, oddly that is how I met my husband but he turned out to be an agnostic eventually...but he is a good man...very good...so keep that in mind...

Also, follow your interests such as hobbies, etc. and see who you meet that way...but I do not recommend dating services especially on-line ones...

Don't look too hard though because it scares guys...

Answer 7

I'll tell you the real truth: before the Internet Christian dating sites 'rose up' from people like you experiencing exactly the same problem, most pastors, priests, etc. and churches of a large number of denominations DID JACK SQUAT ZILCH-O to help anyone in your situation. They could have cared less. In my view, that was a tremendous failure on their part to represent God, of a serious enough nature, that it caused most young people to QUIT GOING TO THESE CHURCHES ALTOGETHER...

Most churches still could care less about your situation, all they want is numbers in the pews and an environment that is safe for their activities (and people who have money to toss in the offering plate get the most love). In many cases, they'll still outright work against people 'hooking up' in church--trying to keep everyone there doing 'Godly' stuff instead or traditional mindlessness. Nonetheless, they'll tell you to 'pray about it to God' and 'wait for the right one'

I should know, becasue I was a pastoral intern for many years myself--and I was the only one my age that attended. It was total BS. The truth is virtually no one in there 20s or even early 30s attended church in a number of churches I knew...other than the great big mega-churches or churches designed for the young people.

None of the kids of those in these churches attended...many of them had kids in teens 20s 30s...but none of them attended after high school. The youngest group after high school appeared to be people about age 40 with kids (it should be noted that people from 20-40 don't have money yet to donate to the offering in many cases.)

Yet churches gladly wanted me to sacrifice myself to run their organization. Total BS.

Answer 8

I used to be a good, single, Christian guy, and look how I turned out? ;)

Honestly, there is always someone out there, just don't rush to find them, or you may end up with a toad instead of a prince.

Answer 9

Have you considered the possibility that a single 'Christian' guy, does not presently go to 'church'? (Too many deviations presently from God's word for him)?

Answer 10

Yes of course. I suggest you wait upon the Lord and He will provide. Instead of looking for Mr Right, seek God's heart and timing for you. Bless you.

Answer 11

Yeah of course there is. Join a christian singles group on line or look for one in your hometown.