my nan died from cancer she was a lovely lady and i miss her so much when i was bullied she ws the only1 i could speek to i just turned 15 and i cant speek to my dad about it coz it as his mum and he breaks down when ever i want tpo speek to him about it.. i dotn want to upset any of the family as we all miss her loads she was a important part in all are lifes!.....
i miss her so mcuh and i cant stop speeekign about her i go to her grave 1nce a week every sunday and my grandad goes up there 2 times a day as she is buried in the church near him...
i cry everyngiht because i always want her back!
i hold all my feelings in becuase i dont like to let it out and when i speek about it at school to my friends i get so upset... i no your probabily sat there thinking " get a life little girl "but its not th easy for me and the fact that she suffered with it until the days he died and didnt tell any one make me want to cry i thought she was going to get bette ri fort it was just bug! :( :(
2007-07-21 02:52:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When I read your question, it felt as though I was reading from my own life. My gram was my best friend and I told her everything. I was an adult by the time she passed and I only lived two houses away with my son so I could be there if she needed me; we spoke on the phone every night at 10p. She has been gone for 10 years now and still sometimes when the phone rings at 10p, I first think it's her but I know automatically it's not. At some point you will find someone to confide in like you did with your nan but there is nothing wrong with your missing her the way you do or visiting her grave. It is where you feel close to her. I wish I could give you a quick fix to make it stop hurting but as much as you loved her it will take time. Slowly share these feelings with your dad even though you fear it will upset him. He's feeling a lot of the same feelings and together you may find a way to get past it. It worked for my father and me. Good luck and remember you're not alone.
2007-07-21 03:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by littleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone you care about passes on, it is hard on everyone. It is okay to let out your feelings. You need to do that. Everyone handles this differently though. For some, it is easier to let go than others. Do you thing that your grandma would be happy knowing that you are so sad? You have to look at this in a different way. Now your grandma is not suffering, or in pain. She is in you. In your heart and mind. She left you with many memories that no one can take away from you. If you feel that you need to talk to someone, try your school counselor, maybe a favorite teacher, or your pastor. It can't hurt, and may help.
2007-07-21 03:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by darlene z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is a hard thing for anyone to deal with. But it's helps to talk about your feelings. Maybe go to a teacher, or a pastor at your church, or a good friend. Talking helps. Try to focus on the good times that you had with your grandma, and all the laughs you shared with her, and dedicate your life to her by being the best person you can be. I too lost my grandma a few years ago, and it's very tough, but just know that she's in heaven, which is a much, much better place, and she's looking down on you and smiling and she's your guardian angel, so make her proud. Hope this helps, and feel free to email me anytime you want to talk.
2007-07-21 03:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by Candy Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you how to grieve, everyone does it differently. The best I can tell you is that over time, things soften up a bit. Don't concentrate on her death, that is not what she was about. Write down all the stories about her that you can think of, so that when you have kids you can share what she was like. Also, remember that when you are a grandmother, you can be just like her. Don't hold things in, talk to your dad, talk to your friends and family. In time, you will all move on. Life is like that. These things aren't instinctual, we have to learn them. Now you are learning to grieve, take your time. Best wishes.
2007-07-21 03:50:07 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Gram died many years ago, but reading your letter took me back to that time in my life. You mention cancer, so I wonder if there is a hospice near you? They have support groups for all ages to help you cope with your grief. You need someone to be able to speak openly about your loss, and it's obvious from your post that there isn't anyone in your family to turn to. I don't mean that to be cruel, everyone deals with grief in their own way, but you need to speak about her, and others can't deal with that now. I hope you find a willing ear. My sympathy for your loss.
2007-07-21 03:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Renae C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart let the tears flow and carry on her memory.. she will always be with you...talk to her everyday she can hear you..... As my grandmother was my best friend and i hers i cry for her,talk to her,wish she was here.. But I am grateful for her that the pain has stopped and she is in heaven with other loved ones looking over me.. I was blessed for i took care of my grandmother the last 4 mos of her life,no words went unspoken.... I love you GLAMORGAL......
2007-07-21 03:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋