Is my female cat too 'sexual' towards me??

Question

I am a guy and my cat is female ( this is the first time I have a cat)
well she gives me strange 'messages' and i am confused.

When i hold her in my lap - she starts licking her lips -- and sometimes lift her front leg and licks her leg 'suggestively' and then looks deep in my eyes....
Also when i go to take shower she 'insists' on coming in the bathroom and watches me take shower through the transparent tub curtains...( it seems she is glarting at my private area alot --- which embarrases me )
needless to say i have a girlfriend and i never gave any wrong impression to my cat other than patting her and kissing her on her forehead )
She sleeps with me and sometimes sleeps on top of me....

I never had a cat so i am confused ( especially when she licks herself 'suggestively' and looks deep in my eyes) ...
What do you guys think -- is it normal cat behaviour ???

Answer 1

Are you for real? Please seek help from a sex therapist. You sound like you may have some hidden issues that you need to deal with. Especially before you get married and have children. After I have worked all evening and I finally do get home my cat follows me thru out the house. She missed me and just wants to be with me because she loves me and I love her as if she was a child. When I finally do get to bed, my cat lays on me and curls up and goes to sleep. It is because she wants to be near me and she knows she is safe with me and by the way, she will sometime lick herself when she is laying on top of me. She is grooming herself before she goes to sleep for the night. Don't you do a little grooming before bed?.....P.S. I think you are safe, after all I have never heard of a cat raping a human, but you might not want to let her in the the bathroom when you shower anymore, because cats love to attack things that dangle, it is their instinct.

Answer 2

Cats drool sometime when they're really happy, so the lip licking is fine. It's the ropy tendrels of drool that are hard to adjust to if you get one of the dooler cats, they make a huge mess when they're purring and happy.

There's sothing suggestive about it, she's just grooming. Cats like to communal groom--they sit close or lay together with friends and one starts grooming, then the other, and pretty soon you have the whole group taking a wash down. The farm cats would all do this on a section of parking concrete next door to us when I was growing up--you'd have some 15 cats gather around 3pm when the sun was shining but it wasn't too hot, and they'd all be together doing the same thing. Yours is feeling friendly enough towards you to treat you as a cat friend, she doesn't mind grooming a little when with you. When she stops and looks at you, you're supposed to pet her and talk to her quietly. It's an invite to being close friends. Nothing sexual.

ALL cats do the shower thing. The humidity in the air helps to breathe good, they hear strange water sounds and see you voluntarily drowning yourself, so they sit on the toilet or sink and watch to see what happens. I call them my honorary life guards, but if I DO drown, they won't even consider coming in to help save me, so it's just a standing joke. When they get bored they leave. Some like to get into the empty tub later and play with the water dribbling down the drain, but most don't like wet paws.

She's doing cat things--none of it is suggestive or sexual. Don't be so quick to put human motives on a cat, they're cats, not humans.

Answer 3

They may just be determining pecking order, you may have to keep them apart for the female cat's sake and introduce them slowly during the day till the male cat stops attacking the female cat. If they are from the same litter they should be used to other cats but they might be marking their territory and the female cat may have been in the wrong. Continue to tell the male cat off using your voice only.

Answer 4

i'm a chick, with a male and female cat. they often like to come INTO the shower with me just to see what i'm doing and cause some mischief. and cats licking is a normal thing. they clean themselves that way. my one cat everytime i'd touch his tail he'd have to lick it like i made it dirty or something by touching it. anyway... cats dont give sexual messages in anyway. a lot are lap animals or like to lay with you. i get climbed on all the time. cats dont lick themselves 'suggestively' they are just cleaning. have you never seen a cat clean their own butt lol. even if the cat was male you might have the same things happening.

Answer 5

I lmao at your situation, and wondered if you aren't just being goofy. Too funny. But yes, cats are a strange breed. I have two males at the moment and they have deep penetrating gazes, almost like they can look inside you. They can see into your soul partner, don't forget that! lol...Anyway, it's truly normal behaviour for them to check you out in the washroom. My mom's cat gets up onto her lap when she's in the john. A previous cat of mine used to jump into the shower with me, as she loved the running water and liked to play in it.
You will enjoy your new kitty...just love her...she'll keep you entertained for hours! lol

Answer 6

Cat's are randy beasts, but yours doesn't sound too bad. I think your virtue is safe.

A couple of years ago I was staying at a friends place who had a young female cat who was forever "presenting" herself to me.

We all found it pretty funny.

Answer 7

Yes this is normal cat behavior ur cat really loves ur attention. I think ur reading to much into this.

Answer 8

she is just cleaning!! calm down...... everything is fine, she looks at you cause she either wants you to play or pet her. and she follows you and looks at you in the shower because she wants you to pet her and play! she is not hitting on you, she is a cat! she just loves you

Answer 9

she cleaning herself. calm down lol. she is NOT trying to seduce you, and the shower thing? think about it. if you lived with somthing big and looked totaly different from you, and then they mysteriously shed all their fur and went into a big glass box with water in it, you'd be curious too, wouldnt you?

Answer 10

your cat is acting normally......your reading way to much into this......all cat,s lick themself,s......this is the way they clean themself,s....they are very clean animal,s....looking into your eye,s.....she,s looking for your approval......licking her lip,s....mean,s she,s nervous or affraid......many cat,s will follow you into the bath......they are very curious.....she obviously care,s very much for her human friend.....when they see something that doesnt seem normal....they will observe ...intently....to be sure your allright.....they feel the need to protect....that,s why she sometime,s sleep,s on you....cat,s are not freeloader,s.....they feel it,s their responsibility to watchover you & your,s....& to alert of any danger.....at least what they percieve as danger....they will often patrol the household at night...[like dog,s]...to insure all is well....when she look,s into your eye,s....she,s looking for your aproval of her self assinged job...sort of a job rating...or she,s just trying to read you....she doesnt want to offend...cat,s are very intelligent [like dog,s].....they want to carry their part of the burdon of maintaining the household...this is the way they pay you back for room,board,etc.....they just want to be part of the family & carry their share of the responsibility,s.....she does love you...but not in that way.....give her your approval &youll have a dear friend for life.....if she rub,s up against you....she,s just marking her territory....they are very possive...all they see belong,s to you two...there is nothing sexual about it.....love her & she will do all she can to love you back.....think of them as a child....will do anything to get your approval....enjoy your pet!