By time his love turned out to be a nightmare instead of that sweet dream I thought it was! After knowing one another for 7 months until now, I discovered that all what he wants is to possess me as if am not a human but a golden ring or some precious object. He keeps telling me "You're my treasure. I want you so much." I never deny my admiration to him at first as he was and still nuts about me, he keeps calling me often, sms day/night without missing a day until now, sending me gifts for special ocassions & for not reason at all. He told me "Lets try to see if it can be you & me in the future" He offered me a golden ear-ring lately without any reason at all and told me"This is just a gift but dont think about commitment. I am your boy now if you want that of course." I told him I wont have sex with him until if there would be a marriage and he seems to accept that. But the weird & contradictive thing about him is that he says so contradictive stuff: how could he want a future with me
2007-07-21 01:47:19 · 8 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and at same time he is not ready for any commitments?! Knowing that I never asked him or suffocated him with any words related to marriage or commitments? He turned out to be so angry lover and so mad when I asked him to forget about our love and try to be friends again. I dont know what to do with him? I cant understand him and sometimes so scared of him.. might he harm me for this excessive lunatic love and possessiveness? Should I leave or stay? and what can be the risk with such a weird mind?
2007-07-21 01:49:27 · update #1
keep dating him, however if there are behaviors that bother you let him know.I encourage you to remain celibate(chaste) for this will certainly prove his devotion to you as a human being. most guys just want to have sex so be careful. I would give it 5 more months and if He is still annoying you let me know.
2007-07-21 01:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by twin2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The contradiction? Simple. He doesn't want to lose you from his life, but at the same time, he's afraid of what the future might hold for the two of you. The future is unpredictable, after all. It's a double-entendre of sorts.
But, if you're too weirded out by his obsessive nature and want to call it quits, you've got to drill it through his skull. Simply telling him "lets be friends" isn't going to cut it. Not with this guy. He's going to want to hold onto you, no matter what, so you've got to make yourself clear, even if that means stepping on his emotions. Be concise, be blunt, and be forceful. If he won't take no for an answer, then start giving him the cold shoulder. Your actions may seem cruel and hurtful, and even if it's not the kind of thing you would want to do, even to him, sometimes, the harshest message is the clearest. The way you describe him now, he seems to be the "thing that wouldn't leave". Make him leave. Impose yourself on him. Show no mercy. Any act of kindness toward him will only drive his desire for you to grow even stronger. It may suck, but you're going to have to make yourself this guy's enemy, if you truly want him gone. We all can't be loved by everyone...
2007-07-21 08:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Niko? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask consider the answer No.Marriage dose'nt make poor relationships better.It make good relationships great.You wait for the right one or you'll be so sorry.Committment only holds up with deep love .Otherwise how do u overcome the thousand little things that love hides.I would rather be alone and content than ,commited and unhappy.He wants your best love, not luke warm.Then where are u when Mr Red Hot come along?
2007-07-21 09:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by oatesmokid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, good choice of not having sex before marriage! He DOES say some pretty weird stuff from what you said. It doesn't sound like you two are in love anymore, because it just sounds like he's trying to buy you off. The back-bone of a relationship should be love, not material stuff.
2007-07-21 08:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by Draco Malfoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously reconsider your relationship to this guy*... I believe you are in for being possibly harmed mentally, physically and emotionally with this individual*.. If you want to be miserable and unhappy or harmed in the future keep seeing him*....
2007-07-21 10:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear bird, i suggest you that you can talk with them about your feature and and told that life is not a toy it is a time which will change if you doing wrong with me than once you will face same problem it's just like a faces of coin .---deep heart lara
2007-07-24 09:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by lara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh i'd love to have a guy who treats me like his treasure.
2007-07-21 08:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have serious issues with love i have no anwser
2007-07-21 08:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋