for how some women act?
for me, i don't like going out anymore and sleeping with however offers, i want to change, bUt i find it hard because i can't escape from men like that.
WHERE ARE ALL THE DECENT GUYS? COS ALL THE GUYS I MET ARE TOTAL JERKS
im 19 and i want a proper relationship but when guys promise me this its all lies.
2007-07-21 01:21:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope, it's all your fault.
2007-07-21 01:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy Benson 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It can and can't be a womens fault of how they act.
You just need to find a man who you can trust all men arnt like that. I know how men act sometimes they can be jerks and i feel sorry for you because that isn't what a man should do to you. The decent guys are out there. Go to clubs, out going places. Do you have a job? That could be a start i suppose.
Unfortunatly men can lie its not right I know. Like I keep saying all men arnt like that.
Hope you get a proper relationship!
2007-07-21 08:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by DaisysMumma13 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words are cheap honey, if you want to be treated different then act different and get some self respect. it is not the guys fault all the time and you have just as much responsibility for what does or does not happen to you. There are plenty of decent guys around but maybe you don't go to the places they go to. Stop acting like a victim and take some care with yourself just because guys give you the attention does not mean that you have to give them sex. guys are just doing what they have always done some are jerks some are not. its up to you to tell the difference and until you do then it will be tough.
2007-07-21 09:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by pri1orn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its partly their fault but also our fault for being guilable yet again. i know how you feel though im 18 and so far every man ive been with has messed me about after basically promising they will be better than the last. theres a particular type we know we like and fall for, no matter what we here or see of them beforehand. once we set our sights on a man we will do what we can to get them right? then its not until youre with them you realise what theyre like but its too late and you think itll be worth it etc. the best thing to do is take a very long time getting to know them before having a relationship so you know what youre getting yourself in for, this can reduce disappointment. but i know its not always possible cos i done that with my ex and he still turned out to be a knob. were still young weve had experiences of the jerks and now we just have to be patient for the decent ones to come along! dont give up well get there in the end. good luck
2007-07-21 08:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure...it makes sense that it's a guy's fault *sometimes*, but not always.
Which ones are they in your case? We can't know for sure....heck, you don't even know. One of the difficult things is...we find it easy to counsel other people and their behavior, but we can rarely do it for ourselves.
We're on the inside and that makes it difficult. So, the better you know yourself, the better and more accurately you portray yourself to others. Know yourself....and know yourself well.
Honesty is important. Being honest with yourself. Nothing works when falsehoods lurk about who you think you are and who you think others are.
Even when we try and put our best foot forward there will be that oddball out there that won't take us the way we intend.
If you are always with bad guys, then you need to make changes in yourself. Do different things, behave differently, maybe even dress differently, speak differently. Re-invent yourself a little bit. It's not all that hard.
In other words....learn from this....grow....then maybe you will start attracting the kind of guy you like. And if you do meet one you think is a good one, and he turns table on you and this keeps happening, then it may be a sign that you are giving queues that you aren't aware of or want to give.
Good luck to you...dating never gets any easier, so the more you can do now and for yourself the better it will be for everyone later.
:)
2007-07-21 08:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not necessarily the guys who affect women's behaviour.
A man will promise a relationship if he wants to get his leg over. You presumably tell them that's what you want? So they agree with you and get laid. You then feel like rubbish and it all starts again. Am I right?
You can just say no. It might make the guy respect you and want to get to know you better.
They're not all jerks, trust me. You just have to take your time getting to know them before deciding whether they're jerks or not.
Just take it slow, get to know the next guy over a few dates - dont say that you want a relationship straight off cos it could look a little desperate which will lead to one of 2 things - man thinks yay easy lay, or man thinks yikes, runs away.
A few dates, get to know them, DONT shag them. you're still so young, you have plenty of time to find a great guy. Just concentrate on having fun with your mates etc. the good guys will find you, you just gotta help them along when they get to you.
good luck x
2007-07-21 08:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by samantha j 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it is not the men's fault.
You need to get your own head on straight. Learn to act like a lady. Find out where you want to go in life, have goals, and be able to take care of yourself.
Then you might meet someone who can appreciate you for being a positive, well-balanced person instead of an object for sex.
We set our own stantards and have to be responsible for our own lives. This is what makes the difference between being a strong female and being a needy little girl.
2007-07-21 08:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
a slapper is as she is and sorry but although it takes two, some girls (not saying you do, just generally) put it on a plate and some guys toss it away after the first bite cos cheap cake isnt as nice as the cake you have to shop around for.
if you want a proper guy, go somewhere you're likely to meet the kind of guy you want - not a nightclub for one night stands - and keep your knickers on - it gets you more respect.
2007-07-21 08:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Draconia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ima decent bloke but all the girls i meet are stuck up their own ****, slags or idiots. when i do meet someone i like then il do my best for them
2007-07-25 06:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by BILLY D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like it's more to do with your choices, if you let them they will treat you like that, try an older man rather than a boy
2007-07-21 09:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by P-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all been snapped up and are married with children
2007-07-21 08:27:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋