when peole decide to cheat on their partners, do they become like really inconsiderate towards the former partner?
and after they have finished thrie affairs with the new partner, how possile is it that they get forgiven and start a new life with the former partner?
just curious.
2007-07-20 22:48:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When someone cheats, they are not happy in their relationship and are missing something that they may have found with another person (conversation, attention, flattery, etc.).
No, they don't always become inconsiderate. It depends if there is arguing and anger towards their current partner. Sometimes guilt makes a person behave different.
If the partner knows about the affair, they can be forgiving. BUT the trust will be gone. And there will always be doubt when the partner is late coming home, or 'has to work late' that they are seeing someone again.
The old saying is true...'you can never go back again'. It will never be the same.
2007-07-20 22:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mama_Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no answer to your question.
Each person is an individual and has different limits for how far their partner can stray or when they call it cheating. This can vary from talking to someone on the phone to having sex.
When a person is cheating they are usually nicer to their former partner in hopes of not getting caught.
When the affair is over with the new partner, the chances are slim that they will be completely forgiven and can start a new life with the former partner.
2007-07-21 06:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the beliefs of that someone. If he/she is a strong person whom really loves his/her partner, the person will not be able to cheat on his/her partner, because when you love someone truly, you don't want to cheat on him/her. Unless if you just want to play around, then you feel you don't have to stay truthful to your partner.
After the affairs finished, though if you still love your former partner, but there are things that can affect you, because now we have things to compare between the new and former partner. Sometimes, it all depends on how you accept and view things. But it is always hard to start a new life with the former partner, especially if he/she acknowledge about our cheating. Need someone with a big heart to forgive the affairs that involved with his/her partner.
I did that before and later on in my life, I kind of regret it and now that I have someone very special to me, I try my best to cling on this relationship and stay true to him.
2007-07-21 06:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by volvol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally when a person cheats on a partner yet doesn't end it with them, it's either because they really do love them (but are trying to get what they are missing from somewhere else), seen their mother/father do that sort of thing when they were a child (which makes it kind of normal to them), or because they have kids and other things tied in with that person.
I'm not saying that there is any correct reason to cheat, but it can be a number of factors. Like the typical every day guy who tells his girl he's going to go out with a friend, and sleeps with some girl. He most likely had a father that did that (but if that is the case, the guy didn't treat the girl he is with, with much respect or love at all).
The man that loves his (treats her very well) wife and goes and cheats with a younger (or any) woman. His wife may not take care of her appearance like she did before, she may not want sex as much, or small arguments the two have may cause in intimacy issue with her where he does not want to be vulnerable emotionally to her (because of sex). The girl he is messing with, he doesn't care about, or has to respect.
The man who has a wife and a child, and cannot leave because of the guilt he will feel of abandoning the mother of his child and that child him/herself.
The man/woman who cheats because the think it is ok, they most likely don't treat their partner well.
The man that has lost interest, knows he still loves his wife and separates sex and marriage, so being good to his wife after an affair shouldn't affect his treatment of his wife because being attracted to her doesn't matter seeing as he has taken sex out of the marriage equation.
The guilty party, is probably more distant emotionally and sometimes physically (but not treating them badly) because of the guilt they now feel from the affair.
I think a person can love somebody but go as far as to have sex with another person. The reason is what differs from man to man or even woman to woman (sorry boys, not trying to attack your credibility with the man cheating scenarios, women do it too). Can be fairly normal because they were raised with a parent who did this sort of thing, could be a person feeling less attracted to their current partner, or from guilt.
Those are typically the three main reasons, I don't think any of them are right, but that sums them up in three categories. The worst one being the man/woman who cheats, but never treated their partner with love and respect anyways. Which leaves the question, why did that other person stay with them? Could be he same reason as the men, guilt and fear of raising a child alone, financial stability, or just the fact that they believe to some degree that they love them and grew up with a father/mother who cheated so it isn't that alien of a concept to them.
2007-07-21 05:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, the trust will never be there with the former partner. The love may still be there but dee in their mind there will always be that doubt.
2007-07-21 05:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by jmoore289 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes when they cheat they do become inconsiderate & it depends on the partner's personality. i, personally would NEVER forgive a cheater.
2007-07-21 05:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Black Winter Night Sky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think taht if the partner left you then he or she was with you just for time pass.
and if the what to join again then i don't think that i will start a new life with him because its not sure that this time he will not leave you .
2007-07-21 05:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you ae not just curious I just wonder if you are the cheater or the one being cheated either way you cant win you only will loose and in the end you loose your mind
2007-07-21 05:53:17 · answer #8 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if ur guy cheats on u that he wouldnt act any diffrent...
every case is diffrent but everyone deserves a 2nd chance
2007-07-21 05:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very far...
Pray for your loved ones,don't cheat on them!
2007-07-21 05:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by tatal_nostru2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋