When I found out that his love to me turned out to be so obsessing and kinda possessiveness I decided to ask him to return back to be friends or to depart one another. This is after we have been knowing one another for 7 months. He just wants me in a so crazy way that scares me so much. We didnt have sex upon my wish and he seems to agree coz my point is to postpone it after marriage. He keeps calling me daily, floods of sms, gifts in ocassions and for no reasons. He appears to be so clingy yet he still tells after offering me a golden ear-ring for no reason "This is just a gift coz its just too far to be a husband. I can be your boy, if you want of course." Knowing that I didnt ask him for commitment at all, we are just trying as we agreed and it was him who initiated the love theme coz I was totally distrusting men regarding love issues. I cant understand his contradictive mind. Just wanna be his friend only am scared of him coz he is mad about me saying "I want u so much" any help?
2007-07-20 22:47:44 · 12 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cutting all ties with him is a bit drastic and harsh but well if that would make him get the message that he is not your type.go ahead,be cruel to be kind.
2007-07-20 22:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not happy with this guy ... you may feel flattered by his attention, and obviously he is a caring guy, buy I dont see a long term thing here, imagine how he will be in a few years, he is going to think your having an affair with any guy you smile at !
Sadly it seems this is not something you can cool -
He just dosent know how too ; I guess he is too imature,
Take a break from him, if he grows up maybe you can link up again in the future, but it sounds like he needs a very passive, subservant woman, - which isn't you !
2007-07-21 05:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by TPE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your afraid of more than just having a friend.It also sounds like your having a problem with recieving gifts.Are you not used to that? You deserve to have someone flood you with nice things.
If your not ready to be in someones life , or like you said "hes to clingy break it off or only see him a couple times a week. Tell him you need space! Good luck!
2007-07-21 05:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by nancy r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great to be wanted but this guy is going a bit too far, it seems creepy. Maybe cutting all ties is too drastic just now, try getting the message across that you just want to be friends and tell him if he can't accept that you will have to leave his life.
2007-07-21 05:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away fast. He knows where you live and he knows your phone number. He calls all the time and sends gifts even when you tell him you just want to be friends. He is a potential danger to you. Just my opinion but a controlling, possessive person is not anyones Ideal Mate.
2007-07-21 05:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Judy F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this young man can ever just be friends.Follow your instincts ,and break off with him.He is stalking you,and it could get worse. Maybe he will never harm you.But,why take the chance.Get rid of him.Talk to your father.Tell him you are afraid of him.You are a nice girl,a good girl.Keep your self whole until marrage.Some man will get a wonderful wife,but,not this one.
2007-07-21 06:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut all ties with him if hes clingy and possessive now it'll get worse if you decide you want to stay with him. return his gifts and tell him you arent ready for a relationship dont ans. his calls. if he persists get a restraining order
2007-07-21 06:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by marianne l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to put him off a bit, go on date wearing really scruffy clothes,pick your nose ,fart and belch as much as you can and he might give up the obsession when he sees you being a piggy!
2007-07-21 05:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by missfattyfudgecake 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hope that your heartthrob is not the kind that thinks love could be bought. You sure the situation will not change the day he gets what you are holding back?
2007-07-21 05:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by UST 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return his gifts and cut ties with him. He thinks he's waiting for you to change your mind about him, but he's really putting pressure on you to stay with him.
2007-07-21 05:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋