I found it hard to phrase this question..Basically, when you fall in love with someone, it's a great feeling, right? But..Does that feeling always last when you're with that person? Or does it gradually fade away or do you end up seeing them as you see everyone else and not feeling that special feeling you felt before.
2007-07-20 22:32:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. People change and you change and that can make that feeling go away. When you have a long term relationship with someone, you really have to work at keeping it in good condition and keeping that love alive. You will love a lot of people in your life. Being in love is special and worth the work.
2007-07-20 22:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No!
(Sorry but it's true)
If you think of love as a feeling - then sometimes you feel 'in love' and sometimes you don't. The in-love times come and go depending on other events in your life.
If you think of love as an action - then you are always acting in love. Sometimes you don't feel 'in love' but you still do loving things - then you are still loving that person. However becuase of the shared life experience you have with that person, you never quite see them just like everyone else.
If you feel anger (etc) towards your partner, but you still get up and make breakfast (etc) then you are acting lovingly. When you forgive them what they do, you are acting lovingly. And the actions you do lovingly often spur on the 'in love' feeling - But not always.
Love is a commitment that continues through the hard times, and the easy times. And is not dependant on the feelings you have at the time. Someone many centuries ago said this
"Do not love with word or tongue, but with our actions and truth."
2007-07-28 19:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by mumontherun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That feeling changes a lot. You are still in love with that person, even more so as time passes, but the feeling does change. It will only die out if you let it. You have to think of all of the things that you love about that person and be sure to show him/her how much you still love them, and them the same. If you find yourself getting in a rut, and you most likely will, then you know it is time to get back on track and do something to charge those feelings back up.
2007-07-20 22:39:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone is not a static thing. It is dynamic, i.e. it depends on maintaining up-to-date exchanges of energy, activity, intimacy, fun, space, etc
That way you always are fuelling the fire with new things to love someone for.
It only seems to be the long haul drudge marriages where the couple do the same old things the same old way and don't share anything new and real anymore, that fail and get dull.
It is like finding someone who is also good at the sport you are good at. It is only by playing the sport with them that you maintain that enjoyment.
2007-07-20 22:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by John S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly its like because of fact its so uncontrollable at that degree, although mountain climbing is extra intentional than falling over so the similie is used to falling because of fact a surprising and unexpected marvel comes? however the ppl say love grows gradually, so per danger the difficulty-loose asserting potential you're taking conceivable by making use of leaping/leaping into the unknown like a dive? ok this sounds embarrasingly unhappy now!! too plenty thinking on the difficulty Lol!! effective qn yet!
2016-11-10 01:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by weberg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, ONLY if she will help the love to grow, because one cannot wash itself to be clean, but when two hands wash together then it will be clean. Love cannot be on one side, fall in love at first and it will last many years also it can break within a twinkle of an eye. Love is too fragile more than egg yolk. But Boy2 can handle it very well...
2007-07-28 19:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Boy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really believe in falling in love. I feel that perhaps in the beginning you feel all warm and fuzzy. The kind of love that is about the lifetime commitment of marriage is more about the choice you make to be there for one another, no matter if you 'feel like it or not.'
2007-07-25 17:25:54 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes that starry eyed, butterflies in the stomach feeling will gradually fade away, that feeling feels good but it's just the beginning, the real feeling starts to creep up on you after about a month or two after that starry eyed feeling goes away, that's if you both really LOVE each other ,not just lusting ,but if you both love each other and you feel your love is starting to fade away you better believe she's feeling it to but she''s not saying anything about it because she doesn't want you to think she don't love you anymore because she does ,but unfortunately alot of us when we get to this point in our relationships we try to ignore the feeling because we are afraid of what it may mean ,but you tend to to ignore that feeling to long and both of you start assuming all kinds of things which leads to mistrust ,which leads to arguments,and you know the rest .but all that can be avoided only if you just talk to each other ,don't be afraid to be the one to start the conversation ,that's what a woman wants is for her man to not only protect her body from harm ,but protect her heart from pain.. good luck
2007-07-28 19:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. boyer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to explain, you still love that person more than anything in the world. But that feeling doesn't last forever. I guess it's just another level of love, a much higher one.
2007-07-20 23:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by Rahima Liverpool 4 life 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If its true love you will love and cherish that person for the rest of your life. It never ends, has no boundaries and never fades away.
2007-07-28 16:32:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋