We are in a long distance relationship and meet every 2-3 months. He is planning to move back with his wife for his children and also he is going on a vacation with em for 10 days. He wants me not to cal him while he is on vacation n once his wife moves in. He says he wil talk when he can, i really love him and he also says the same, but do u think he really loves me? Even now since few days he promises to meet me online and then comes for few minutes n has to rush to be wid children and friends. When i want to be in touch wid him and talk to him over the phone he says i m being clingy. He thinks says i have gone mad or psycho. After a fight he avoids me for long hours, if he hangs up on me he never bothers to call me again even after hours, Please help, is he the guy for me? What shud i do? i think of leavin him but i cant coz i really love him...please tell me what to do.
2007-07-20 22:21:02 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you know deep inside yourself that your are his mistress and from the sound of it, he and his wife are still together.
you are young, don't waste your time on someone who can't give you security.....
goodluck
2007-07-20 22:32:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥wildflower♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave your wife so that she will have a chance at a happy life with out you and your confusion. Most women would have dumped you along time ago because of the agreement you made. Then you go and make children with someone else. That is unforgivable and underhanded. If you felt like you were in love with the next woman you should have broke it off with your wife and lived your life. Now you have messed up your wife's life and the life of your children. Do the right thing and give your wife her freedom. She is the innocent one in all of this. At this point you can't turn your back on the children so be with their mother. Just get the confusion over with as soon as possible.
2016-05-19 01:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by amelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear the pain your going through but if you stay with him that's all you will ever have.Because you feel you love him you cant see what he is actually doing to you. To him you are a dirty little secret (which is why he doesn't want you calling him cause his wife will bust him). The advice you have been given is so right but not what you want to hear. Yes it will hurt for a little bit but you will get over it. Your his booty call. Go and find yourself a single guy who is worthy of your love and devotion. Your deserve more and the chance to be happy you will have no LIFE with him. God bless go and get happy girl. PS Always remember Karma When you finally meet the man of your dreams, how would you feel after you marry him to find out he is sleeping with some one else? it really hurts and you mustn't inflict this pain on any one.If his wife ever left it would have been because she caught him up to no good in the first place.I wish I could think of the right words to get you to listen to us and believe we are being honest with you He is not.
2007-07-20 23:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a tough spot to be in.The other woman.Unfortunately that is what you are a plaything for a man going through some type of identity crisis. You have to ask yourself is that the type of relationship you want one lacking in re-assurance and love . Will he support you when you need him most .Will he love you the way you want to be loved. Can he love you the way you want to be loved. Do you deserve this treatment. I don't think your clingy I think your trying to hold onto something that was very special to you.You should walk away from this and go find someone that can give you what you need.Be a little bit selfish for once and put you own wants and needs first. Good luck to you.
2007-07-20 22:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by brian m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LEAVE HIM!!! He obviously wants to stay with his wife and kids. You can do so much better!! If you stay in a relationship with a married man, even if he did end up being with you, could you ever trust him? There are plenty of decent men out there, don;t waste you time on a loser.
Good luck.
2007-07-20 22:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by doggie love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this guy is a loser so u need t lose him now he dont care sounds like he was in it for the sex or what ever i would be willing to bet his wife has lived with him the whole time this is classic bull crap he is feeding you if he cared even one iota he would make the effort and u bet he would damn sure make and find the time to talk and be with you cuz think about it "would'nt you if it was turned around "u know u would this guy is a smuck i know it hurts bad but move on and be happy it will take time and time heals all
2007-07-20 22:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by retlaw132002 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No he doesn't love you. He's moving back in with his wife because they agreed to work it out & it's not solely about the kids. You are being used as a convinient lover. He thinks your clingy b/c he no longer wants you, only when convinient for him. He has no respect for you. He's not for you when he is married to someone else & has made it more than plain you are to only speak with him when he feels like dealing with you. You don't need to worry about leaving him b/c he's already left you & you are too foolish to recognize that you are being used & you are allowing yourself to be played.
2007-07-20 22:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have some self-respect for yourself. You deserve someone who will be there for you. This one won't. He's just playing with you. If he really wanted to be with you he would find a way, and obviously he's going in the other direction. You can love someone single as well as someone who's married. And the next one may be worth waiting for.
2007-07-20 22:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mama_Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please leave the man alone and get on with your own life. He is going back to the wife and family. You have a lifetime ahead of you. Next time try to find a man who is available to you. I understand and have sent many men running back to their ex-es, wives, girlfriends, etc. Then I met a wonderful man and married him. Stay away from this one. He will only mix you up when he "needs" you, because he is a user.
2007-07-20 22:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should get away from him...If he cant give you the attention and time you need its not worth it....You honestly think that he wont still be sleeping with his wife! He sounds controlling and dishonest..if that's the kind of person you want to be with then you might have something wrong with you...
2007-07-20 22:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by itzmeturtle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may not want to hear this but you don't have to worry about leaving him because he has left you and gone back to his wife. Sorry you are going through this pain . Try to move on.
2007-07-20 22:29:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋