Is it wrong for a 19-year-old girl to fall in love with a 43-year-old, unmarried man?

Question

Please give me some responses. anything will be welcome.
thanks a lot in advance.

well, as a matter of fact, this 'old' man is my boss .

Answer 1

you got freedom to fall in LOVE with whomever but DONT LET IT be taken any further...just dream on and have your fantasies.....dont sleep with the guy,probably he is some teacher or friend of your parents I quess.First of all it will be illegal for him in most countries to have sex with you and I hope he realizes it but maybe he isnt in love with you.. probably doesnt even know about your feelings for him..I quess to be secretly in love with somebody who you cant have allows you to have this little dreamworld.....personally I think you are still in late puberty so dont worry....just enjoy this feeling and sensation by yourself ok.Dont act on it.Deep down you should maybe ask yourself why this older guy,do you live with your dad? you could be looking for some father-figure,if this is the case you will have some issues later in life but cross that bridge when you come to it again LATER

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with a 43 year old man being with a 19 year old woman. They're both legal age adults. I am 43 and i would love to date a 19, 20, or 21 year old woman. Many relationships work out good between older men and younger women and the vice versa. When i worked at Wal-Mart, i had a female co-worker who was in her early 20s and she was married to an older man in his 50s. they are still married and have kids. People who bash older men 40 and above for dating young women 18 to 25 are just a bunch of stupid trolls. This is 2016, not 1956. Just don't force a young women at 19 to date you. If she wants to be with young guys her age, let her do that. Lots of 19 year old women like older men 40 and above.

Answer 3

Is it wrong? No, you're not stealing a husband or breaking any laws.

BUT the problem here is not whether its wrong or right. It's are you guys right for each other? The maturity levels between the two are pretty significant, as well as many other things. At 43, he has probably already established his career and independence, and is ready for stability in a relationship like marriage or children. At 19, you still have so much left to accomplish. You may not be ready for something so serious. I don't know either of you so I can't say but these are generic differences. Hopefully, you can work it out but I really suggest trying to date some more before getting into anything serious with someone old enough to be your father. The experience and maturity you gain will be useful in not only this relationship but others as well.

Answer 4

I have mixed emotions. I can understand that a young girl would find a mature man extremely sexy. Hey, they are! He is a hell of a lot better in bed than a 19 year old boy.

I wonder if it is anything other than lust though. Just enjoy this man for a while but do not fall in love. I think the age difference is too vast for a long term relationship. What would you possibly have to talk about? Eventually you will get out of bed and conversation will be necessary. He is probably not interested in Paris Hilton.

Hold on to your heart sweetie and always use protection.

Answer 5

No it's not wrong but you may want to ask yourself how much the two of you have in common. You are young and may like to go out clubbing and do other things common to girls your age and he may be too old to have much fun or feel awkward around a bunch of young college aged kids. He was never married but does he have kids? If he doesn't have any does he want to be a father some day? You are young and will probably want children. He will be an older dad but there are a lot of older dads these days. I say if you two love each other, have a lot in common, and don't care about other people's opinions then date him. Your parents may not approve but you are an adult now and are capable of making up your own mind. By the way, why hasn't he married before?

Answer 6

No not wrong,but perhaps unwise. Age difference is a factor,irregardless of love.In 20 years the girl would be 39 where as the man would be elderly and retired. I am old and certainly would consider dating a much younger woman,only if she were to be much more of a mature mind then her physical age. Of course love is a mysterious thing that nobody can really understand fully.

Answer 7

Ya that is and some guys around your age actually got a old soul in someways thats aways what my friends tell me and im 18 years old.Here email me and I will prove that u can fall in love with a guy like me.I mean just add me to your messagers u will have a better chance of talking me here they are [e-mail] and [e-mail] ok?Atlested I think I can prove my point so give it a chance and I would never date a 43 year old thats like trowing yourself at him just because u want get lucky.
So give me a chance and maybe u will fall for me ok?

Answer 8

Uh not wrong but kind of gross. Does he feel the same way about you? Anyway i would say that you should wait a few years (if you can) because your age wont be such a problem when your older.

Answer 9

if you were 40 and he was 63 then no one would say anything. try it .maybe it works. dont listen to moralists.
no man is a pedofile if hes running after a 19 year old!

Answer 10

i`m not gonna say its wrong but its weird..the age difference is huge..of course you will have those people who say age is just a number and that age dosent matter when it comes to love..but i think age dose make a difference..most 19 year olds really dont know wht true love is