Last night myself and my friend had an arguement. The arguement was on, "Whether is it right for a teacher or lecturer to marry his/her own student". I argued that it is right and my friend says it is against the moral. I said, if that person is teacher or lecturer it is his/her profession and has nothing to do with his/her life or love.
I want to know whether it is correct or not?
2007-07-20 20:08:15 · 15 answers · asked by Shinoj Kumar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think its considered unethical for a teacher to go out with a student. But after the class is over, when the student is no longer a student of that teacher, then it's okay.
2007-07-20 20:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
What does "mythical" have to do with the rest of the question?
It's immoral. Typically, no it does not matter, but if a teacher/professor/lecturer is dating a student, it's a conflict of interest. It is VERY important for education to be as pure as is possible.
Say you have a teacher who is dating a student. If the student does well, it can be quite hard to judge if the student did well on his or her own merit or because the teacher is biased. If the teacher and student break up before term is over, did the student really deserve the "D" on his or her term paper, or was it a way for an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend to get back at the other?
Not to mention, are the other students in the classroom who are NOT dating the teacher being given a truly fair education? If the one student is monopolizing all the time or energy of the teacher, you can have a real problem, because they deserve to get a fair, objective education.
If a student and teacher fall for each other, it is in their best interests and the best interests of everyone else in the school setting that they either wait to begin a relationship until the term is over, or the student or teacher transfer. They should not date if one is currently being taught by the other.
2007-07-20 22:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a conflict of interests for a Teacher to be involved with their student during the period of time where they have the student/Teacher relationship. Being a teacher is a position of power and influence, and it is far too easy to take advantage of that position. So, while the Teacher is actively teaching the student, no. There should not be any involvement on a dating/marriage level.
However, once that teaching relationship is over (IE: after graduation) there is no reason the two people can not pursue a relationship if there is mutual interest. They are no longer Teacher Student..they are just individuals.
2007-07-21 06:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age. Between two consenting adults, I'd say that the teacher needs to restrain themselves until the class is over, to avoid any hint that the student's grade was "bought" with sex. More for the teacher's reputation than the student's, really -- no teacher needs the reputation that they can be bought with sex.
I had a teacher in college that I really clicked with in a subject that we were both passionate about. But he made absolutely no sign of interest until the day after the final exam -- when I got a call from him telling me that he had graded all the exams and filed the final grades with the provost, and would I like to go out to dinner with him? I thought that was classy :-) Didn't marry him -- didn't even date him for more than a few weeks, but we ended up being friends and corresponded infrequently over the years.
2007-07-21 04:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think its ethical,there is an age gap and experience there.Plus it just seems very unethical for a teacher(person in authority) to be in that kind of relationship with a student.However in to days world seems to be no real moral standard to judge by so I would say its up to the individuals them selves to set the standard,and many don't.So once again its amoral issue more than a profession issue
2007-07-20 20:25:34
·
answer #5
·
answered by peppersham 7
·
0⤊
0⤋
You can get fired for dating a student at most universities--at least the ones I've worked at--so I can't say it would be worth the risk to my career to get frisky with one of the co-eds. As a matter of course, I actively avoid social situations in which students/clients will be hanging out because I don't want those lines to get blurred. And after having to dodge a few cute students advances it can be quite flattering but you are in a position of power if they are still in your class and even if they aren't you could effect their grades in other classes if you have a reputation, good or bad, with another professor. If I ran into a student 5-10 years after I taught them that might be different--well not now as I'm happily dating--but not while they were my student.
2007-07-20 20:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both these fulfill the conditions for a legal & valid marriage nothing wrong as far matrimonial law applicable them is concerned. As far morality or ethics are concerned it will be different according to the society where they live. In a socially advanced society no one bother about such matrimonial union but in a society where the customs & usages are prevalent with regards to ancient thoughts it will be definitely be an objectionable issue. Let bring one case where In the State of Haryana a Jat man & Jat woman belonging to same Gotra married & the village Panchayat not only debarred them from the society as according to them they were brother & sister because were belonging to same Gotra, but even facilitated the people who actually killed them after few days. Now what will you call this act of few people of such society. In the name of social morality & ethics blind believers can go to any extent in such matrimonial union. Case of Batuknath & Julie from Bihar is still not so old with regards to a teacher indulging in love affair with his student & all know how he was degraded on camera by blackening his face by his other students although after much publicity both of them have become celebrities now.
2007-07-20 20:31:08 · answer #7 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
While the persons are student-teacher, they cannot have a relationship. Once the class is over, they can do whatever they want. They cannot have a relationship while student-teacher because it can lead to favoritism. The same applies for a worker and boss.
2007-07-21 05:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The topic of arguement you had with your friend has nothing to do with "Mythics". It has to do only with "Ethics". If one takes into account the ethical factor then your friend is right. However, if you consider the modern trends in tolerance and the indifference towards moral values then you are right.
2007-07-20 20:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ganesh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My best frd fell in luv with our lecturer....but thr was no looking bak for both of them...till the time ur relation is strong and withstand every aspect of life....its gr8...so professions dont matter.
One condition being that they should respect the age barrier.
2007-07-20 20:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by piya_4u_in 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋