my husabnd turned in to a witness and now doesnt let our 2 yr old daughter celebrate either but i feel like i have no rights or decisions in our marriage should i get divorced or not?
2007-07-20 18:35:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Marriage is FOR LIFE!!!!! Don't turn your back on your family
2007-07-21 00:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Turned into a witness? What's that? Do you mean a Jehovah's Witness, as in he changed religions?
That can often be a breaking point in a marriage. Would your husband consider marital counseling?
If you honestly feel you have no rights or decision making authority, then yes, I think that might be reason enough to leave. I doubt you want to teach your daughter that that is how women and any person in general should be treated. Good luck~
2007-07-21 01:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to give your husband a choice. His religion or his family. Its very selfish for him to make such a decision about his faith without consulting you. You are his wife, his partner nothing that drastic should be made without a discussion. No relationship or marriage should be like this where you feel that you have no rights as a wife. Give him an Ultimatum. But be ready to leave.
I don't agree with that religion at all. I watched my best friend suffer when i was a kid because all the kids could celebrate holidays in school and she couldn't. Very very mean. Don't let your daughter suffer please!
2007-07-21 02:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by USMCgrlandMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may well be the breaking point in your marriage but try and reach a compromise first. Perhaps you could agree that there will be no celebrations in your home but you are free to take her to family celebrations, Christmas parties, and holiday parades as well as to celebrate her birthday outside the home. Remembethat if you divorce him he will have visitation rights and will be able to infkuence her without you anyhow. In any case, she will need to learn that different people have different beliefs and you and your husband will have to agree not to put down each other's beliefs.
2007-07-21 08:53:13 · answer #4 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is in how much you are prepared to put up with and do you think you are in the best environment for your child. You must feel terrible having to make such a huge decision but if your life isn't as ideal as you would like then only you have the power within to change it. I think we all have more strength than we give ourselves credit for and if you decide to leave then just know you can do anything you need to make yourself and your child happy. Good luck!
2007-07-21 01:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Shazela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am happy that he is searching for something in his life. I hope it is not to late to show him that it is a cult and he really should not jump in with both feet. Take him to the book store and look in the religious sector.You will not find them. They are under the cult sections every place you turn. They are so misguided. I would try to make him see the true way to God. If you are not successful and you can not work it out. I would leave in a heart beat so my daughter would not suffer the same fate.
2007-07-21 02:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by storytimemommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to non-denominational Christians and most of the major denominations of Christianity, the JW's are a cult. I would say try to perservere and show him the light, but if you really feel trapped and he's not letting you be an equal, that's a red flag and you should get out anyway. Abusers do that just before physical abuse starts.
2007-07-21 01:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your marriage is a personal matter that only you and your husband can make a decision on. how did he become a Jehovah without your input? i do believe it would be hard to raise a child in a culture where everything around us is built on holidays and celebrations... you need to decide what is important in yours and your child's life... you're in a tough spot that is certain. i do wish you the best of luck in your decision making process.
2007-07-21 01:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, Kind of a weird place to ask such a huge question....I am an ex Jehovah's Witness, but I believe in and support marriage. If you are not being abused, you can work on how to manage and compromise in your marriage.
There is lots of help out there, you can e mail me...It is easy to dis-prove this cult faith.....stay in prayer for your family...ultimately, God is in charge....
Learn more:
http://watchman.org
http://freeminds.org
http://silentlambs.org
2007-07-24 22:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this something that you don't agree with? If you are having conflicting religious problems then it's going to be uncomfortable. You both have to come to an agreement on something. I know it can be tough. If he's unwilling to budge and you don't think you could live your life like this and you've tried counseling, then you might want to consider leaving. How long has he been practicing?
2007-07-21 01:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion can be a VERY strong factor in an individuals life....it can also destroy a marriage....and the choices of the rearing of the children if the parents are divided on their methods of parenting.
I recommend counseling...if he will not go, and you love your child ....you go for your sake and the sake of your child.
2007-07-21 01:42:47 · answer #11 · answered by cuch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋