Teenage anger?

Question

How do you deal with a teen who's lying, driving too far away and too late, yelling, being sarcastic, disrespectful, and cussing at his parents?
Ways besides counseling(already doing) and spankings(too old for that)
mature answers please - preferably parents/adults

Btw, this isn't my teen, it's my brother
when we try to take away privileges, he gets really mad...and that's the problem

Answer 1

financial punishment hurts teens the most. If you take away the car, cell phone, computer, money for shopping trips, and other fun things that are not needs, but priviledges, your child will see soon enough that you are in charge, and that life is hard when he/she doesnt respect you.

The counseling is a good idea. Also, set a good example for your teen in your other relationships. Remember that most people grow out of this stage (with patience, discipline and love)

Answer 2

Number one, take away the driving license. It is not any teenagers right to have one, it is a privelidge that they need to earn. Is he in anger management counseling, too? That may help along with basic counseling. I am a mom who raised 3 kids so I have some experience with teenagers.......some boys going through puberty and the teen years show a lot of their frustrations through anger. I gave my teenage son options to work off his frustrations. He chose very physically demanding sports: punching body bags, weight lifting, bmx bike riding for hours, anything that worked up a sweat, and that he could put his anger into in a way that did not harm himself or any one else. As far as being verbally disrespectful and following the rules, the parents need to lay down rules and consequences and follow through with them 100% of the time. Not being consistent ALWAYS only teaches him to keep testing them to see if this is another time that they will give in or ignore his bad behavior. Also the parents should be made aware that his bad behaviors affect the whole household, not just him and them.

Answer 3

You need a counselor who uses tough love. Take the car away first off. Set rules for behavior at home and in public and when he breaks them, he gets the consequences. If he comes in after curfew, lock him out. If he breaks a window, call 911 and have him arrested. Let him sit in jail for a night.

Your parents have to love him enough to want to save him.

Answer 4

mkay.. well.. im not a parent but these are some of the things my mom does to me/my sisters

late home- takes away their car

slams the door-takes door off

locks door when you need in-takes door KNOB off

Lie about where you are or what you are doing-no cell

overall disrespect-takes away my laptop

stay calm in all situations.. when they yell talk soft and DONT yell back

thats what they WANT

it drives them crazy

i hope i helped.. even though im not an adult/parent

byee

Answer 5

It's all on the way he or she was raised.. thats it.

you have to set things for him or her.. like if he is late again.. take away his keys.. if you just keep letting him or her get away with it they won't care.. be in control.. not them. they live under your roof and they need to straighten up.. sit them down, have a serious talk with them if you haven't.. and say like "if you do this again, then im going to do this..." so they know their consequences.....

NEVER yell at them, yelling does nothing and only makes it worse.

Talk to them in your regular tone voice but also be firm and in control.

grounding them does NOTHING.. you have to take further action in making them a better person..

Really, it's just how they are raised..... not trying to say your a bad parent... but the way people grow up and how they are is driven from how they were raised.

oh and give them love and show them that it really hurts you that they are like that...

Alright i can go on forever but If you have any other questions feel free to ask...

Goodluck!