I need help dealing with my dad's girlfriend!! HELP!!!!?

Question

My dad and mom got divorced a year ago. THe worst part of the divorce is that it happened on my birthday. My mom got re-married to Charlie.My dad is dating again and he has a girlfriend named Della. She keeps on trying to step in and be my mom. I have no idea what to do. I hate her to she is the fakest thing on the planet. We even had to change churchs so we could go to hers. WHatever Della wants she gets at a blink of an eye. I just can't take it anymore and neither can my siblings (13,11,). I need advice. Please help me.

My dad and mom got divorced a year ago. THe worst part of the divorce is that it happened on my birthday. My mom got re-married to Charlie ( which is fine because he actually understands me).My dad is dating again and he has a girlfriend named Della. She keeps on trying to step in and be my mom. I have no idea what to do. I hate her to she is the fakest thing on the planet. We even had to change churchs so we could go to hers. WHatever Della wants she gets at a blink of an eye. I just can't take it anymore and neither can my siblings (13,11,). I need advice. Please help me.

I don't mind about my mom getting re-married because my step-dad understands me.

Answer 1

This is really bad advice but I just cant help myself.....put itching powder in her clothes.

Answer 2

Like it or not, your dad is going out with Della. However, she is not your step-mother. Talk to your dad, tell him that you want to go to your church, and you will take care of your siblings. Be polite and respectful of Della, she might be around a long time.

I really think you should talk to your dad about how you feel. Be sure to tell him that you feel like he picked his g/f over his children, and while you like her(lie), she isn't your mom, you have a mom. Tell him you would like to be friends with her, but you shouldn't have to change church.

Enlist your mother if you need a go between.

Answer 3

The best thing u can do
is talk to ur dad about
it
if u dont want to talk
write a note and have all of ur
siblings pitch in and help u write it
tell him how u feel if he's
a good dad he'll try to not give her everything
or dump her

Answer 4

PRAY! I believe that everything happens for a reason. Wither it be good or bad and even if it happens on a good day or bad day. I believe that things will work out for you if maybe you could just try to give her a little chance. Maybe she doesn't realize what she is doing to make you so uncomfortable. Have you tryed to just sit down and talk to her? Maybe there is just alot of mis communication. I hope I have helped a little bit. Good luck

Answer 5

it sounds like the problem is not della it is your jelous of her taking your moms place. you are carrying around resentment and a burden of feeling left out. you should give della the benifit of the doubt and respect her as someone who is going to be in your dads life. she makes him happy. be glad he has her and she is decent and nice to u than him being by him self and alone. or della being on drugs and mean and not caring about you. so be glad he chose someone decent ok.

Answer 6

my dad and i are close and he always asked me how i felt about his girlfriend who ever she was. now he's re-married again and i like my new stepmom she's nice. take the time out with your dad and tell him you want a day for just the two of you and in that day(if it can happen) tell him what you think of his girlfriend, im assuming your probaly older than 13so he should difinetly respect your opinion and honesty of what you have to tell him. if not then im not sure.
hoped i helped. good luck

Answer 7

she may be just trying to connect with you , you should talk to her and let her know that in no uncertain terms she is not your mother and maybe work from there