I am 13 years old. I am in 7th grade going into 8th. He is going into 7th. I love him so much. I have never felt this much in love with my family or anyone. And, I am not sure if he completly likes me. Can someone help me?
2007-07-20 17:11:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you are, I hate to put it this way, only 13, you have your whole life ahead of you. What you feel now about love is just the begining of what you will feel as you grow and mature. Right now you feel that you have become a true teenager and are finally becoming an "adult", you look at it that you are no longer a child, but believe me, you have so much to look forward to in your life. So many relationships, some wonderful, some that may make you miserable, but you will learn from everything that happens to you in your life.
The one thing you have to learn, even early on is that there is no way you can ever make a boy/man make him love you. Love/like is just something that happens between two people. It is a form of chemistry that happens between two people. When it happens to you, you will know it, there will be no question about it. You can't push a situation. As much as it hurts, there are going to be times when you develope a crush on someone and it isn't going to be returned. Trust me, I may be a adult now, but that doesn't mean that I don't remember being your age and I don't remember my first crush and how it was not recipricated. We were just friends and that was all it was ever going to be. yes, I can think back to that time and still feel the hurt, even though I've been happily married for quite a long time now. I can still feel a lot of the hurts that happened through my life, but I learned by all of them, and I know that there were men that I must have hurt along the way. Growing up is hard at times, but there will be enough good times to offset the bad ones. I hope things work out, but if this doesn't someone else will come along to give you that wonderful feeling.
2007-07-20 17:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sweety, you are in puppy love with him. You don't even know him that well. You like the way he looks. What matters is the person he really is. Looks fade. You are too young to be "In Love" with someone. Love is a strong word and has a deeper meaning. You can like someone a lot, think he's hot etc. At your age dating is just hanging out and getting to know someone else. Getting to know yourself and what you want from a boyfriend and future husband. But to be honest sweety, if he didn't ask for your number to talk over the summer and maybe go do something then chances are he isn't into you right now. That doesn't mean that he never will but then he may not ever be into you. don't be so desprite. Relax and enjoy this time in your life. It goes by fast.
2007-07-20 17:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by KM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately one of the hardest things to learn and accept is that you cannot make someone like or love you. First of all you have to love/like yourself. I know that sounds cheesy and believe me when I was younger and was told the same thing I used to roll my eyes and say "whatever". But it is true!
Some guy who can't even be nice enough to say he either likes you or doesn't and can't seem to make up his mind. Well, sticking around and waiting for a guy like that is giving him the power to make you feel unsure of yourself. I would give up on him and go out there and decide you deserve someone better! That person will come along when the time is right and you will be surprised at how much happier you will be for not playing the waiting game with this guy.
Good luck! Smile and remember you deserve better than someone who cant make up their mind! =)
2007-07-20 17:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by Just_Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is try to _make_ someone like you, let alone love you.
You're 13. It's early to be talking about love. If he's not interested in you, find someone else. "Maybe next year" isn't a very promising or rational statement.
2007-07-20 17:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, sweetie, but you can't make anyone love you. They just either love you or they don't.
Love is a very strong word. The most you can do right now is make him develop interest in you. Try to hang out with him or spend time together. Maybe in time he will get interested.
2007-07-20 17:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Moo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't, do it, he's setting you up, he doesn't know the meaning of love. and sorry but i don't think you so either. Be his friend get to know him more, its cool to hang out together. Go to each others houses as friends, and sometimes a great relationship as friends, one or both of the parites get emotional feelings and you'll get what you want no doubt.
2007-07-20 17:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Sweetpeach, but you don't love him, you have a crush on him. He's CLEARLY not interested in you, and you can't make anyone love you. I suggest getting involved in other things and forgetting about him.
2007-07-20 17:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend first of all keep you study further.
When you will move to collage you will meet several guys. In collage you will get your true love. But first Concentrate on your study
2007-07-20 17:18:56 · answer #8 · answered by chikas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i don't think that you love him since you guys aren't even dating yet. but anyways, i would just ask him to hang out with you or cook with you or something like that
2007-07-20 17:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by the mentalist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.well. heres a goooood tip, when your around him, act like you dont care if he likes you or not. DONT be a ***** to him, just let him no that your going to live life no matter what, with him or without him, act like you dont need him. ALWAYS act like your having fun,so he knows what kind of girl you are. be outgoing and creative.
2007-07-20 17:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by siearra 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋