ok so i think i kinda like this guy i just met at my part time job a month ago. he tries to get my attention a lot and says hi to me all the time and talks to me a whole lot. sometimes he talks about random nonsense just to talk to me. one time we were talking and he was like "so where's ur boyfriend?" but it was in a joking way. i kinda just brushed it off lol, but i still wonder if he was serious. so does he like me? i dont know cuz im not an expert at this relationship stuff..so what do i do? need advice please..
2007-07-20 16:34:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FROM A GUY'S PERSPECTIVE... first, try to be subtle about letting him know that you're interested in him. This is a somewhat delicate situation. Like any other situation, there can be two sides to it: one, he really is interested in you and is trying to determine if he's got a chance with you [a lot of guys hate rejections], building up his courage to ask you out... or two, he's just really nice to you, thinking you could be a good friend. Try to see OBJECTIVELY if he treats all women like he treats you or if there's something extra or special in the way he treats you.
This happened to me with one of my best friends. I spent lots of time with her, talking to her on the phone for hours, talking to her about her suitors and crushes, even talking to her Mom for hours while waiting for her to get home. However, I only saw her as a good friend, nothing else. Before some of you girls bash me for misleading her, I didn't do that intentionally. I was just being a good friend to her. Luckily, back then at the peak of our closeness, we didn't get around to discussing about getting romantically involved. However, recently, with both of us seriously involved with other people, she asked me (just out of curiosity) if I was into her before coz she said that she was. So I tried to be a gentleman about it. Seeing as there's no way for anything more to happen between us [I'm happily married and she's had a steady BF for years, and we and our partners are all good friends], I told her that I was interested in her before but just didn't want to risk ruining our friendship. That way, I didn't needlessly embarass her.
What am I driving at? By being subtle, you:
a) ...give the guy a chance to take the initiative.
b) ...don't scare off the guy [some guys are intimidated or even turned off by aggressive girls].
c) ...don't back the guy into a corner if in case he doesn't like you.
d) ...save yourself the embarassment and have deniability if in case he just sees you as a just a friend.
e) ...find a way to to work into a conversation that you don't have a boyfriend.
How do you let him know you like him without being over the top?
a) spend lots of time with him, make time for him; a guy knows if he's high on your priority list
b) show interest when he's talking to you; it shows if a girl is talking to you just to be polite or really wants to hear what you've got to say; make eye contact; meet him halfway--it's not easy for guys to carry the conversation by ourselves
c) show interest in things that interest him
d) be sensitive and caring [not too much]; ask him how he is; share his happiness or sadness
e) try to avoid drooling over other guys or talking about your crushes when you're with him; this can be confusing for us guys
Now, if the guy still doesn't respond to your subtle advances, your next step is to try to determine if he's just too inept to make the first more, or really isn't into you. If he simply needs help getting things along, you can go the extra mile and maybe ask him out on an "innocent" date like going out for coffee after work. If he really likes you, then he shouldn't have trouble saying "yes".
Good luck! I hope this helps!Ü
2007-07-20 17:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by yokarin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you!. Now what do you do? Tell him there is no boyfriend, but he would make a great one for you..so how about going out for coffee for starts? See what he says to that.
2007-07-20 23:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you....ask him out on a date. You won't regret it!
2007-07-20 23:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you.
ask him out.
2007-07-20 23:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Edith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-20 23:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋