I don't want stinky ciggarettes funking up my reception. I am not a smoker, HTB is a former smoker but quit for me. Orginally it was no big deal since the covered patio was attached to the reception space. With our new location there is no designated smoking area and people have started to gripe.
The smoking/non-smoking people on the guest list is about 50/50....how do I handle it so half my reception isn't spending all night in the parking lot? Can they go a few hours without lighting up or am I having a bridezilla moment?
2007-07-20 16:16:33 · 46 answers · asked by pspoptart 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
your not having a bridezilla moment.. currently i smoke, but i'd like to quit, but even being a smoker i wouldn't want it at my reception.. just makes it feel trashy and low class if you ask me.. they won't mind having to smoke outside, as long as the weather is alright. the drinkers who are also smokers will go out more often, but you could have someone be in charge of letting the smokers know when something important is about to happen so that no one misses it.
2007-07-20 16:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't have smoking if I had to, the stuff makes me sick as soon as I'm around it. I'm lucky that where I live there is no smoking in any buildings, except bars. The only people who will tell you this is a bridezilla moment are the smokers, I hate to say. Have a no smoking reception if that's what you wish. It's it's 50-50, you're going to have about the same ratio happy & unhappy with your decision. The smokers won't like the not smoking, & the non-smokers, likely, won't like to be in a room with smokers lighting up. If they can't go a few hours, they can go outside to the parking lot . Good luck!
2007-07-21 02:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, if your HTB quit smoking for "you", than your marriage is off to a bad start. He has to do this for himself.
Most places do not allow smoking inside at receptions and people are going outside no matter where or what the situation is. Something you can't control. I too am a non smoker and feel like some things should be put on hold, this being one of them. But, remember, smoking is an addiction.
2007-07-20 17:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Nana 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not having a bridezilla moment in the slightest! The nicotine addicts should have the common decency to keep their stinky poison death sticks away from your reception. If you haven't sent out the invitations, I'd add, "Smoke-free reception to follow..." Also, I'd say "Smoke-free reception" on the programs, have "No Smoking" signs around and designate a relative or two to politely enforce the no-smoking policy.
If they disappear to the parking lot, no big deal. It beats breathing their second-hand carcinogens. And more cake for everyone else. :-)
You might want to create a smoking tent for them somewhere, but don't feel obligated. You're not obligated to accommodate other people's addictions.
2007-07-20 16:59:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it will be a problem.
I went to one wedding that had plenty of smokers. The older generation just smoked in the reception area, while the younger people congregated outside. This was in an area that did not having smoking laws at the time.
Maybe have designated smoking breaks that the DJ anounces, so people do not miss cake cutting, ...
2007-07-21 00:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a smoker and I certainly can get through a wedding and reception without leaving to smoke. OMG I can't believe anyone is complaining to the bride. Where I live there would not be any smoking permitted in any public place except the parking lot.
2007-07-20 18:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a bridezilla moment. For some people, cigarette smoke is life-threatening. It is your wedding and your reception. Ask your venue to provide a designated smoking area for those who cannot live without lighting up and let your guests know that you have a no-smoking policy for your reception.
2007-07-20 23:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by artesianangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate smoking too. What I would do (and what I probably WILL do at my wedding) is put up a sign near the entrance that says something like "We would appreciate no smoking indoors. Thank you". Make it noticeable but so it kinda blends in and doesn't ruin the look. You could make it yourself and decorate it with your theme or something. I'm sure the smokers won't spend all night outside, though. They may step out for a quick smoke but they should spend most of the night indoors with you. It's only polite to smoke outside anyway. Hope this helps!
2007-07-20 17:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having no smoking in the reception site - where I live there is no smoking in any public buildings. You have nothing to handle... those who want to go outside somewhere for a smoke will do so, you can't really 'manage' them! Just make sure close family members know when certain things are being done with the program, cake cutting, special dances - so they don't miss out.
2007-07-21 02:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first location, the guests had a place to smoke- outside. In your current location, the guests still have a place to smoke- outside! They probably will sneak out for a quick smoke, but they wont be gone long. Talk to your site manager and see if they provide ashtrays outside. Theres nothing worse than smokers leaving butts all over the place.
2007-07-20 17:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋