I think I'm ready to have a Baby?

Question

Somebody talk me out of it... Well me and my boyfriend has been together for to years. We have a really good relationship. We are very happy and comfortable with each other. My cousin who doesn't even like kids is pregnant and I can't help but wish that was me. I have been on the birth control pills for about 4 years and is afraid that I won't be able to have kids.2 questions: I'm I crazy for being (jealous) of my cousin. And will I be able to have kids?

Answer 1

You're experiencing baby-fever. This generally occurs in women ages 28-35. Don't worry about the birth control thing. My wife was on birth control for 10 years. She came off the pill and was pregnant in 2 weeks! I won't preach to you about pre-marital sex. However, having children is something I feel should wait until you're married.

Answer 2

Just because you and your boyfriend have a good relationship now does not mean that you are prepared to have a child. A baby changes eveything in your life and can put tremendous stresses on relationships- are you sure that you and your boyfriend are able to handle a baby that will take up all of your time, love, and money? Two years is awhile to be in a relationship, but are you sure that you will be together for a long time, or forever?

Furthermore, I do not see age as as much of a factor as maturity. Personally, I do not think you seem mature enough to handle a child. What are you reasons for having a child? Is it simply because you think you are "ready"? Have you thought about every aspect a child brings to your life? Do you or your boyfriend have a full-time job to support your child? Do you live on your own with the resources to raise a child on your own? These are all things to seriously think about- the last thing you want to do is burden your parents with the responsibility of raising YOUR child, so if the answer to any of these questions is no, then you aren't ready.

I'm not trying to be harsh, I just want to be honest with you. You have your whole life to have a child. It's natural for you to be jealous, but that doesn't mean you should necessarily try to have a child of your own right now. When the time is right, you will know- you won't be on a board asking people to talk you out of it. (:

Answer 3

Just having been on birth control pills will not stop you from having a baby, unless there is something gynaecologically wrong with you. But having a baby means taking on the responsibility of bringing him up, which can be done best if the two parents are living together. So why don't you get married first ?

Answer 4

well deary...

i think what you are feeling is normal but honestly i would suggest waiting.

and to those suggesting "marriage", well **NEWSFLASH** that doesnt always mean everything will work out..look at the divorce rates ppl

..my parents have 5 children between the two of them have been together for 29 years and guess what?? aren't married.

now if you think your ready then ask yourself this...

are you financially stable enough to support yourself without anyone elses help? and if you are will you be able to live comforatably while supporting another person?

have you completed school yet? (it can be very hard to do so while expecting of caring for a small child)

is the feeling mutual with your man?
does he want kids now?

please know that it's not as easy as it seems..you seem young too and trust me when the time is right it will happen for ya!

good luck!

Answer 5

you need to have a baby for you and your partner.. NOT because your cousin is.
ask yourself a few questions... if you and your boyfriend are REALLY ready to have a baby, why not get married first? and are you really financially ready? and does your partner feel the same? a marriage you can undo, you can divorce and never see the person ever again. but once you're a parent, you're ALWAYS a parent.
although you and your boyfriend have a great relationship, you two will be parents for your whole lifetime if you decide to get pregnant.. so why don't you two get married first, and do things the right way?

Answer 6

I believe it is maternal instinct to feel longing for a child. Remember this - once a parent - always a parent. It doesn't end once they are 18-21-25-30-50. You will always be their mom and you will be the one they come to.

I am old school and believe in marriage before pregnancy.

As far as the length of time on birth control, if you are ovulating monthly, you should still be able to have children.

Answer 7

No your not crazy for being jealous of your cousin. I know when i see a newborn baby, i think i want another one. i think it's a maturinal thing. then i snap back to reality. kids are a (good)major life change not to mention expensive.
i wish my husband & i had more $$ in savings,a better job, and a bigger house when we had our kids, but you roll with the punches, and hopefully will be happy.
I don't think you'll have any problems having a baby because of your pills, but definately talk to your doctor.
remember, you'll never regret having a child, only not having one : -) good luck

Answer 8

sort it out, commitment should come before deliberately choosing to have a baby, u sound young for a start, having children is no esy feat, it`s a full time, never go home job, My youngest is 2 & im still getting up for her at night, i havent had a reoccuring nights sleep since my first was born 4 & half years ago, parenting is wonderful, difficult & demanding but a very beautiful thing.

Answer 9

You will be able to have kids. Dont worry about that.

Suggestion: if your relationship is so wonderful with your boyfriend, why don't you get married first?

Answer 10

My advise I tell all, You have your childhood, they don't. No matter how many children your friends or young family have does not mean you. You still have your childhood till your 25. They wished they had they'res.. Please wait and YOU and your BOYFRIEND enjoy the last of your childhood, it will never come again. Good Luck in your decisions.