help!!!!!!!!!! please soon!!!!?

Question

Okay my friend's mom recently was discharged from rehab sometime yesterday cuz she wants to kill herself (it's currently 10:38 on july 20th in the USA) and her Dr. didn't even see her, he just let her out before seeing her. I went over to her house and talked on the steps for a little bit and she told me her mom tried to slit her wrists this morning. She doesn't wanna go back into rehab, her dad went out to play poker tonight and he went out last night, obviously two bad nights to go out and play it he wont stop going. I was gonna go t a harry potter party w her from 11 - midnight at the library but here is the problem. she is supposed to have someone watch her so she doesnt kill herself at all times. if they go to the party she may do that however i dont know if she will thats at least what my friennd was doing i dont know if its dr. recommended or what. her mom might stay if im not there because my friend is 13 and her brotehr is 11 and he has bipolar and attention-defici

I don't know if it's that that that bad that the kids need to be displaced. That might make the mother more depressed and then she might kill herself.

I'm not even supposed to know about her issue.

Answer 1

I know what she's going through. I had the same situation as a child. Your friend is too young to have all of that responsibility laid on her. Her father needs to be smacked.

What some of you don't understand is that you CAN NOT call the police, and just HAVE her placed in a mental facility. The girls father might be able to do that because she has threatened suicide, but this child can't. They can ONLY hold her against her will for 30 days, unless she proves herself a danger to herself or to others. How do you think she got OUT of rehab? Does she sound READY to you?

Answer 2

You are being drawn into a situation that you should not be a part of under any circumstances, and quite frankly - neither should your 13 year old friend, Shame on the father!

Get on the Phone and call the Suicide Crisis Hotline and ask for assistance. Then Call the Police. Tell them that she, (the Mom), is threatening to commit suicide with a knife - and that she has also made threats against the daughter and you with the knife, (Yes I know this is a Lie - but I consider it to be a life saving white lie ) - that might be the only way to get her hospitalized and get her the treatment she needs. Since she is obviously NOT yet free of her suicidal tendancies.

Then you need to talk to your 13 year old friend about life at home - and life with Dad. Is her father there for her & her 11 year old bi-polar/ ADD affected brother? Can he cope? Would he try / be able to care for them both - now that Mom is back in involuntary commitment? What does she think her Dad will do? Will he "step up" and be the responsible parent - and make sure that they are fed, the laundry gets done, the home stays clean, the grocery shopping gets done, THat he takes them to where they need to be, monitors their school work, takes them to extra-curricular school activities, the doctor, - and all of the things a single parent needs to do, including taking the kids and going to see Mom as a family as she is in recovery? If she thinks that Dad can do all that - then she needs to call him and tell him whats going, and ask him to come home right away.

If the answer is an unequivacal NO. Then is there a favorite Aunt & Uncle or Grandma & Grandpa that can take her and her brother in for a few weeks? If there is, - then when Daddy gets home she needs to talk to him about what happened, and talk about all the stress he's under, and suggest that he consider calling his brother or sister,or the grand parents, to explain whats going on, and ask if they can take care of the children for a while; to allow him some time to just do his Job at work, and see his wife at where she's at to get better, and that he would not have to worry about the kids welfare and care while he and the wife get through this together.

This is a lot for any family to deal with, and a lot to put on the shoulders of a 13 year old, - but it allows her a chance to help "save" her family, and draw the family closer together, and in the years to come - I thinks that this experience will be a tremendous boost to her self-esteem, self-identity, self-worth, self-confidence, and leadership-skills.

So this is one way to approach this problem, and it takes a LOT of courage and perhaps more mental fortitude than mosts adults have, but if you think that she's up to it - with your help - this might be a way to consider handling the situation. LOL. I'm pulling for you.
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Answer 3

Call the police. All states have a law that says if they arrive at a scene and the person is suicidal they (the police) have a civic duty to make the appropriate call to ensure the safety of all involved. Meaning, they will place her in a hospital to treat her, which is where she should be. Her children are not capable of taking care of her and her husband is no help. It is not the responsibility of your friend to deal with this situaiton and it could have a serious effect on your friend for life. Do the right thing....call the police!

Answer 4

Call Mental Health Crisis Assessment Center...She does not need to be by herself.because she is suicidal...Her husband is not giving her any support (may be why she wants to hurt herself)... & yes calling Child Protective Services is a very good idea...there is also Adult Protective Services to call. If someone is supposed to watch her at all times, she needs to be in the hospital...All of that is too much responsibility for you & your friend to bear. Call 911, Call the police...You all watching her all the time will not stop her from killing herself if she wants to. It sounds to me like there are more problems going on than just her wanting to kill herself...her husband being one of them

CALL SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY...911 & the Police would be out there quickly...let them take over...What she doesn't want as in going back to rehab is beside the point...she needs help or she will kill herself....................

Right now you young ones have more sense than the adults...
Be grown up & MAKE THAT CALL...

Good luck...Nala

Answer 5

This situation is too serious for 13yr olds to be dealing with.
Call 911 or the suicide hotline and tell them EXACTLY what she has done, threatened to do, and what she is currently doing or saying. If they find she is a danger to herself or others, they can take her to the hospital to watch her.

By no means should she be unsupervised by ADULTS,
and most likely she needs to be taken to the psyc ward for
atleast a few days.

This is not something you and your friend can wait 'till morning to act. Act now, in this next hour. Call 911.

If she is being "watched" by your friend, and she succeeds on harming/killing herself, your friend will feel guilty for years to come. You have got to get adults involved. -- Tell your parents what is happening.
It's obvious she is not in any shape to care for herself.

ps. By law, when a person's life is in danger, there is no such thing as keeping it secret! Tell your parents & 911 now.

Sorry about the Harry party. There will be other parties in the future. Tonight you two need to save a life.

Answer 6

She needs to placed in a secure mental health facility, for her own protection, and medicated, and receive therapy, since she is obviously clinically depressed. Her family should take the appropriate steps. See suicidal thoughts, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 5, and try some of those hotlines. Call her doctor, 911, and the county/local mental health agency. Then contact your friend, ASAP, with info.

Answer 7

This is not a situation that your friend should be put in, she's not her mother's mother. You need to convince her to call for help someone in her family and if her family doesn't want to help than she should call the police so that they can get her committed to a hospital that will take her seriously. IF something happened while your friend was supposed to be watching her your friend would feel guilty all of her life and that's not fair to her. Help her to make that phone call and in the long run she will feel better and be of more help to her mother. As for her father she may not be in great hands with him either, maybe there is someone in the family that could take her and her brother until their mother stabilizes enough to come home. I will be keeping her in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 8

Honey, if your freind's mom is in such bad shape, this is not where yall should be. Look at the phone numbers book she may have, and call her doctor. And then call an ambulance. Make sure her Dr. knows you are calling an ambulance. They will send police and rescue personnel to help. And they will try to get hold of her dad. Good Luck, Baby.

Answer 9

1-800-273-TALK (suicide prevention hotline)
and below is a website with a list of toll free national helplines.
Call now! Otherwise, call the police. On this website you can find listings by state. I repeat: CALL NOW! please you need to ask someone proffessional to help, you are not a proffessional and could do the wrong thing. When this is all done, go do something fun, okay?

Answer 10

Whatever state you live in, someone needs to call child protective services or the state and let them know what's going on. Those kids should NOT be put in that situation with their mom and dad being like that. Have your parents call or call yourself. Look up the child abuse hotline for your state online by typing "child abuse hotline" into a search engine. Call immediately.