My husband is in the army and so when they go out into the field for weeks at a time, all of the wives spend a lot of time together. Recently I was at one of the other wives' houses and my 2 year old daughter and her 3 year old son were eating popsicles and playing outside. So, naturally when we brought them inside, we just threw them in the bath tub. My friend happened to have taken a picture of them playing and today my husband saw the picture on her myspace. Needless to say, he wasn't too happy about the picture. He yelled at me saying that there was no reason for them to be bathing together, but I think it's fine. I mean, they are toddlers. Which of us is right? Was I wrong to let my daughter take a bath with that other little boy or is my husband exaggerating?
2007-07-20 15:30:23 · 19 answers · asked by candicekellie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Another thing I failed to mention, I honestly thought I had told my husband that they had taken a bath together because I don't like to keep any secrets or anything from him, and another was that I didn't think the picture would end up on myspace, I truthfully don't even remember seeing the picture taken but obviously it was (But it didn't show anything, and they weren't facing eachother, they were facing the same direction, toward the right of the tub so I know neither of them saw anything)
2007-07-20 15:43:31 · update #1
4 or 5, they need to learn to do things on their own so they can develop a sense of independence. As for the pictures, I feel that nude pictures of children regardless of age is bad taste. I know for the parents and family its cute, but on Myspace, thats ridiculous, there are a lot of perverts and predators out there.
2007-07-20 15:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a grip! Nudity is a problem because adults make it one. Taking a bath together is fine- as far as I'm concerned- until one of the kids doesn't want to anymore. My grandson has just recently started covering up with a towel and wanting more privacy when dressing etc and he's 11 /12 and maturing physically at a pretty fast rate right now. Before this summer, he couldn't care less who saw him. My almost 5 yr old grandson and 3 yr old granddaughter bath together several times a week- they are cousins, not siblings. They also both run around the house nude and sleep that way, too. Not a big deal. Soon enough, they too will become a little more self-comscience (a shame, I think), but I would guess that with our open and healthy attitude towards nudity when they become adults they will be comfortable again with themselves. So, what happened was no big deal, really- although I can't say that the other mom putting it on Myspace without your permission was a good idea.
2007-07-20 16:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by nanny411 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daugther will be 4 in Oct and my nephew will be 6 end of July. We stopped giving them baths together about 3-4 months ago only because they were making a big mess. Children are curious at that age but don't really know what is what. If there is an adult there, it shouldn't be a big deal. I would rather have this scenario than a 4 or 5 year old taking a bath with an adult.
2007-07-20 15:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My rule, which personally i think is great to go by. When they get old enough to touch or ask too many question then seperate them. If you're not comfortable explaining the difference between boy and girl now, then seperate them. I have a 10 month old daughter and a 3 year old boy. At first he would ask where her "thing" was, so i explained girls don't have it and explained what they have and what boys have, he hasn't asked again or paid any attention to her "parts" since them. So i still give them a bath together, but i feel sure the day is coming soon to have to seperate them.
2007-07-20 15:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a tub so me and my 2 and a half daughter shower together. Its not a problem. When I move and I get a tub we'll bathe together. If she insists. When she is old enough to bathe her self effectively say around 5 We won't and also if she gets to big and there isn't any room we won't bathe together. Your right it is efficient to do this.
2016-05-18 23:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I could ever bathe my child with another child outside of the family... but I'm more shy about things like that. I don't think what you did was by any means wrong. I would however stop letting them take baths together. I think at 2 when they can start to retain memories then it's time to stop bathing with the oppisite sex. However I would probably do the same sex bathing until they decided themselves that they didn't want to do it anymore.
2007-07-24 04:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by cassandrat_82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not make a big deal of it in front of my daughter, she won't remember. But the little boy may inadvertently do something harmful out of curiosity. I'm sure though an adult was present at all times. I probably would not have done it unless the two were brother and sister and even then not much past this age at all. I may be old fashioned in my thinking but I tend to exercise caution when I can.
2007-07-20 15:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by ersof59 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it truely depends on the parents and the child. I think by 5 yrs old is when the kids should be taking separate baths. and, if the child starts regetting the idea of bathing with another child than stop.
I think your husband is handling the situation in the wrong manner.
2007-07-20 15:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My twins where about 7 when they stopped having a bath together, my baby and 5 yr old still bath together theres no harm in it at all
2007-07-21 03:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by mumoffour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is and he isn't...................this is NOT a sibling is it and then the first he finds out about it is via my space and not even on your page..............so look at it from his point of view for a moment
with my two [boy and girl] they would bathe together until they was about 4 & 5 and at that point I would then have it seperate more for them to be able to sit and chat with me alone...........but really at no point would I have thought of bathing my kid with any one else's.......not saying you did anything wrong but it never came up as my two are so close in age they was each others playmates.
regards and best wishes to your husband
2007-07-20 15:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by candy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋