Ok so i'm 15 and I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now and I really love him and him and I are thinking about having sex. But I have just found out that there are laws in different places in the world about the age of having sex. I live in Ontario,Canada does anyone know how old you have to be to have sex?
Thanks :)
2007-07-20 14:31:49 · 51 answers · asked by Caitlin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Can't help you with the age thing, but I can tell you that 15 seems young to me. But if you are so sure, which at 15, most think they are, remember to be safe. You don't want a child this young. My sister and a friend of mine both had children at ages 14 and 15, watching them, I know how hard it was. One raised them, the other gave them up...hard either way. If you cant picture spending the rest of your life with this guy, I wouldn't go the next step. And I don't mean "oh he is so great and I just love being with him and the world is rosy great" I mean the rest of your life "he lost his job, we lost the house, he was disfigured in an accident and I still want to be with him as there is no other for me" kind of love.
2007-07-20 14:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by jade2311 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Since I live in the States, I can only tell you the age of consent differs from state to state. Some states it is as low as 14 and where some states it is as high as 17 or 18. I am sure it holds true in Canada and what your local provincial laws are.
Biologically you are ready to have sex now. Mentally and maturity wise you are not ready to have sex until you are a little older. You have to factor in other things besides the fact that you are "feeling it" for your boyfriend. Little things like risks of pregnancy and STD's.
I know this is something your parents might say. Or at least should be saying to you. Wait until you are at least 18.
2007-07-20 14:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everyone here is pretty much saying wait for the ring. There really is no age where its allright to start having sex. It all depends on the people involved. There is nothing more intimate than two people making love. But, make sure that this guy is special, becuase you can never regain your virginity. to me, 15 seems a bit young, but if you and your bf truelly love eachother, than age is only a number. just use protection, it would really suck to be knocked up at 15.
2007-07-20 14:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by rognbiz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, if you're looking at it from a legal standpoint and your bf is older; I know in US you have to be 18yrs or he could go to jail if your parents report him or something else.
Speaking from experience, as I was 15yrs when I first had sex...I wish I would have waited until I was older and new more about what was going on; I don't mean it from a prudish point but from the point of you're "doing it" but you don't really know what you're "doing" so you have no idea if it is good sex or bad sex -- you just think that's the way it is "supposed to be".
Wasted a good couple of years because of it and I just don't think girl bodies are ready at that age -- but that is just my opinion.
Plus, if you really love each other sex is just the *bonus*; not a necessity -- found this out too just a few months ago...and I'm 34yrs.
2007-07-20 14:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Malachi 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are way too young to even be thinking about that. I would tell you to wait. Love is a wonderful thing but if he really loves you he should be able to wait too.
So, how old to you have to be to have sex? That depends on you and your partners maturity, being safe, and how old the guy is. I don't know anything about Canada's laws regarding sex and minors. But forget the law, do what is right and wait for awhile. Just my two cents worth of advice.
2007-07-20 14:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by justasking 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The most important thing is that you need to be emotionally ready ro have sex. 15 is very young. Sex will change everything, believe me.
Women release bonding hormones that men do not when having sex. Its always possible that you will feel more bonded after sex but your boyfriend will not. You will feel more emotionally vulnerable and your boyfriend may pull away. Big changes will happen in your relationship. Some you may not like. It will be harder for you to think more objectively about whether your relationship is good for you or not. In other words, you will loose your objectivity.
The sex drive in adolescent boys can be all consuming. You really don't know if he is thinking clearly about sex. You don't know if the sex will be meaningful to him as it will be to you. Boys see sex very differently than girls do particularly at your age!
Boys can separate love and sex but girls tend to connect love and sex.
Also, you have to be extremely careful not to get pregnant! Even ONE instance of unprotected sex can very easily result in pregnancy. What do you plan to use as birth control?
If your boyfriend hurts you after sex you will feel much more hurt than you would before sex. Are you really ready to make yourself that vulnerable? Do you really trust that your boyfriend will stay at your side after sex? That he will not start using you for sex?
2007-07-20 14:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by KathyL 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old do you want to be when you get pregnant? Are you ready to deal with AIDS, or other sexually transmitted deceases? Having sex is an adult decision. Are you ready for the possible down sides of it? What are you planning to do for "safe sex"? I bet your boyfriend is suggesting this. Do NOT be pressured into having sex. If you value your virginity, and if you would like to give this gift to your husband on your wedding night, then think twice. There is no "going back". If you and your boyfriend break up, you can bet that all of his friends will know that you "put out". If he loves you, he will wait. If you want to experience sex, buy a vibrator.
2007-07-20 14:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lee D 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's no age limit..i dont think but i dont live in canada..but lemme tell you something....I READ THAT IF YOU HAVE SEX TOO EARLY *COUGH COUGH* 15....BY THE TIME YOUR OLDER..YOUR VAGINA WILL BE MORE WORN OUT THEN A GIRL THAT SAVED IT UNTIL 18. JUST LIKE WHEN YOU STOP GROWING AT APPROX 18 -- SO DOES YOUR VAGINA..DUH! AND SWEETIE..YOUR ONLY 15..I KNOW YOU IN LOVE BUT ALL MY 15 YEAR OLD FRIENDS ARENT VIRGINS AND THEY ARE NOT WITH THE BOYS THEY LOST IT TO. YEHH YOU MAY THINK THAT YOU ARE IN LOVE AND WILL LAST FOREVER BUT NOW A DAYS..YOU MOST LIKELY WONT. ITS NOT LIKE HOW IT WAS WHEN YOUR PARENTS WERE YOUNG WHERE THEY STAYED TOGETHER FROM 15 UNTIL NOW. SORRY TO BREAK IT TO YOU HUN. BUT DATS LIFE
2007-07-20 14:42:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can honestly say I think its wonderful you have dated a guy for a year and still have not had sex. Having sex does not prove you love him anymore then you already do. Love comes in stages and love builds and grows and LOVE WAITS.
Stay true to yourself . Sex is meant to be shared with the one you intend on being with for the rest of your days.
I know right now you feel you will always be with this guy but things change and sometimes p[eople move on and you should wait it out and if he still is around in another few years and you decide he's the one then maybe. But hang on , your still young.
2007-07-20 14:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
canadian law dictates that anyone 14 years and older is legally allowed to engage is sexual acts with anyone. Exceptions are : between 14-18, sex cannot be between an adult over 18 in a position of trust such as a coach, teacher, minister, camp counselor, boss.
My opinion is not whether to have sex but to consider if you get pregnant the ramafications of child support, visitation, adoption, or abortion.
2007-07-20 14:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋