I am kinda dating someone right now... we met online weeks ago... and we just met in person on monday..... He asked me weeks ago if we could be officially dating and i said yes... then we were first supposed to meet over a week ago and he didn't show.... i thought he ditched me and i didn't hear from him for a week after that so I assumed that we weren't going out anymore but then after we met on monday, i asked him if we were still official and he said it was a dumb question. also, he has two kids already and i am totally fine with that. hes 25 and i'm 19 and he told me that he doens't want to do anything except 4 me to hang wit him when hes at work (3rd shift). his reason is that he doesn't want to introduce me to his kids until its the right time... i 100% understand this, but i want us to do more stuff outside of his work... and i want him to acknowledge that i'm his gf and i just want us to date like normal people... not just have me be with him when he's working. what do i do?
2007-07-20 13:22:36 · 9 answers · asked by Proud mommy of Logan! <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i just want to know if this is going to be worth the wait... i really really like this guy and he's super cute and very nice to me. :)
but how long do i have to wait till we can be really truely officially dating (like going on real dates and everything)??? i like to think its gonna be worth the wait, but part of me wants someone RIGHT now... and this other guy keeps asking me out and i told him that i want to be with my current bf, but i dont know how much longer i can wait...
what should i do?
2007-07-20 13:25:06 · update #1
trust me... he has NO WIFE!
2007-07-20 13:29:46 · update #2
trust me... he has NO WIFE!
2007-07-20 13:29:48 · update #3
i am sorry to hear of your situation ...a woman that stands by her man is priceless but i can tell you since i am a guy...........this gentelman is playing you for the free time he can steal he is a secret thril seaker (so to speak) i think if you want to find the man of your dreams he must match your level of energy ,asperations etc ..i have been in ssimular situations and i have always found them best to cut it off i know that aint as easy as it should be since their are many considerations as dropped contact with one or more to make a clean cut
2007-07-20 13:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by knightburst 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask him why he only wants to hang out while he's at work and talk to him about the situation. Something sounds kind of off with that. If he has his kids 100% of the time it's kind of understandable, but at the same time I would think that he's able to go out without his kids some of the time? I doubt he sits at home with the kids 24/7 ya know?
I know that I never introduced my son to guys until I really felt that I knew them and was comfortable with it. Even then they were only introduced as a friend and nothing more.
I have a friend who recently separated her husband and she is already dating and allowing her kids to be around the guy that she's seeing. But again, he's just a friend and they do nothing in front of the kids that would make them think any other way. So I guess it's really up to the person. Good luck!
2007-07-20 20:32:09 · answer #2 · answered by Kara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL wel ur 19? think about if ur redy 2 take care of kids first and secondly ask him wat the problem is and tel him u dont only want to talk to him while hes at work u want to be with him more and lastly tell him you want to watch a movie with him or have a picnic and dont say yes to the guy that asks you out, tell him your alredy with your bf and tht he needs 2 stop, also make sure u tell ur current bf u love him evry day mayb he will open up to the idea of the kids seeing u :-D
2007-07-20 20:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by hellooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We females get blind sometimes and we can't help it to a point and i dont mean to sound mean but hes using you he's full of crap and you can do better. All he wants is comany at work and thats odd i think hes married or with someone else. Because when you care about someone you call them all the dang time you dont go days without talking unless you really can't talk, i say let him go and wait for a real man that would bug you with daily phone calls and e-mails!
2007-07-20 20:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by naline20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone who deals with you DIRECTLY with respect and next time around, stay off the e mail love train and who knows, find a NON overpopulating, divorced guy without bagage! Then again, maybe you like being ORDINARY! Most people are!
2007-07-20 20:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player. It is too complicated. At best, I would be careful, but if this keeps happening, move on. Actions speak louder than words. Judge him by what he does, not what he says. There in lies the truth.
2007-07-20 20:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, Hello earth to "kcms_112005", Wake up, He has a wife, hello
If he really cared about you he would want the whole world to know.
2007-07-20 20:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought that maybe he only want you for one reason only.i think when someone tell you to wait,it's not a sure thing i wouldn't rely on it.just let it go and find yourself a real man who wants you for you and not make you wait.and play you off.and someone closer to your age and don't have children your still young.
2007-07-20 20:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by cris jc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is embarrassed because of your age.He either gets over it or you move on.You deserve more.
2007-07-20 20:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by wayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋