you and your life. Has caused you much heartache, depression, anxiety, and stress to the point of physical illness. Would you cut them out of your life? If they had physically and emotionally abusive to you your entire life, manipulative etc. would you be better off cutting ties and trying to get away, even though it's difficult. Or would that be wrong because they are your parent and the Bible says to Honour Thy Father and Thy Mother??? And what about the other parent? Are they just as much to blame for not protecting you as a child from this type of abuse? What would you do?
2007-07-20 12:38:46 · 7 answers · asked by cuteness 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This is a difficult question and one that has to be answered on a case by case basis.
I know exactly what making this decision means....I had to make it myself. I believe that if the parent admits to what they did, admits that they are responsible for hurting you and is truly sorry, then they should be a part of your life, and you should do what you can to build a relationship.
If they refuse to admit, accept and apologize, then cut them off, making sure they know that you are open to a relationship with them in the future if they change their mind. I don't think God expects us to have unhealthy people in our lives just because they share some DNA with us.
2007-07-20 12:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to leave a situation like that emotionally. What they have done may be with you a long time after you leave.
Having lived the same kind of life, I would say leave their home if you live with them and find you own way financially so they have no ties to you for your physical needs and separate with them emotionally so that they can't hurt you inside anymore. You will never get away from them completely because someone will always be bugging you to make up with them, etc. and you won't ever be left alone. If you are able to move out and not let them know that you want to sever your ties you have a better chance of getting away. If you break with them in your mind, your mission will be accomplished because they can't hurt you anymore when you don't care. Just visit when you have to, act like you are just living your life and the only reason you can't see them more often is because of lack of time. Eventually they will get used to the fact that you are not there anymore and as long as you find new people who really love you...friends and friends' families... you will be free of them.
The parent who is letting the other parent get away with the abuse is weak and cowardly and doesn't know what to do. It's as hard to place blame on them as it is to not place blame on them. Who knows what would possess a person to not protect their own child. I have yet to figure that out. It took me until I was an adult to even realize that my weak parent should have helped me. It must be a syndrome...how else can that inaction be explained?
2007-07-20 13:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already I would confront this parent. Tell them what they are doing to you and to your life and how it makes you feel. Not confrontational, but conversational. So that they know that you're not trying to make them angry. If it doesn't help or stop, I don't see how you would have any other choice then to at least greatly loosen ties with them. I don't think that I would cut them off completely, but there's something they have over you if they have that much control over your life and that's the part that you need to cut off.
2007-07-20 12:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Kara 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would get out of the house as soon as I was 18 and I would start blaming my parents for the emotion abuse and I would blame the other parent because they didn't stop this.
I would wait until I would get 18 to start blaming them to because it would end the stress of living with them and also be angry at them all the time.
2007-07-20 12:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should honor your mother and father if they are honorable. i don't think that God would want to put you in a situation for you to forever be tortured. this might be a situation for you to learn from and overcome in Gods eyes. how do you overcome this? some people need to cut off negative people from their lives indefinitely, others might feel that they just need distance from the person. this is up to you and your comfort level.
what you need to think about is the present and the future. their parenting skills might not have been great, but can you see your parents as good people in general? if you can then you can work on today for a better tomorrow.
2007-07-20 12:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by mimi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-30 09:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get away from it and cut off all ties, you should. You don't deserve to be treated like that.
2007-07-20 12:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋