ok i always go out with nice guys but the break up with me for one of my friends and now i just stopped dating i haven't dated in 3 years and now every time i see my friends with their bf i just want to cry bc it hurts me inside to know i'm nothing.Everyone tells me to look for a mama's boy but i don't want to go out there and look i want them to find me.My friends tell me i'll always be single bc i'm trash and a lil rich girl that gets her way but i'm not i do have feelings and i may have money but im not rich.I just want to prove them wrong but i know they're right bc i haven't been asked out in years.What do i do?I need some advice or something....
2007-07-20 12:32:07 · 21 answers · asked by okiebaby93 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your "friends" are keeping you down. They are conditioning you to believe what they think you are. Telling you you are trash, eventually you'll start to believe it and feel like you're nothing which you already do. For some reason they don't want you to do well, most likely out of jealousy.
First step is to stay clear of the "friends" you currently have as they are only causing you more damage and to find some friends who will support you and encourage you to do well and make you feel good about yourself.
Once you start to feel good about yourself you'll be surprised how you will attract the men! It will all come in time (being single isn't really all that bad!) but you seriously need to surround yourself with positive people.
2007-07-20 12:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you have heard from me before and I hope I can help. There may be a reason for these guys are going to your friends. IT IS NOT BECAUSE OF YOU. These so called nice guys are not so nice after all are they. It is good to that you have such good friends to take these gigolos off your hands. Now is now and the past is the past. There will be a special person for you a knight in shining armour, just be patient let your friends take out the garbage. Money is not an ingredient in friendship or love. As for not being asked out all well, you are obviously wasting your time on "the nice guys". Wait for a feeling you have never felt before and follow your heart ask that guy out, you will know when the time is right. I wish I could have a chat with your friends it sound like they need some advice on friendship. Friendships are give and take good and bad but remember no one is perfect and friends make mistakes. Keep asking questions, you may find the answer you are looking for!!
2007-07-21 02:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by Canuck1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do. Go to mostly public places that brings you into contact with eligible persons just by the fact of being there (the show, a coffee shop, museum, night school, etc). Smile warmly to every guy you see (I don't mean a smile just to smile but a comely welcoming smile). Hold eye contact just a little longer than usual (3-4 seconds). Eventually you may even get bold enough to flirt slightly and someone will be curious enough to flirt back. When that happens don't freak out and kill the moment. Eventually sheer numbers will make somebody come along.
It's a shame that you want someone so desperately and don't realize there are guys out there wanting to meet you. Just give yourself and them a little encouragement. Don't listen to people who're taking shots at your self-esteem.
2007-07-20 19:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....You
Are
Not
Nothing
you are not trash, you are not worthless, you are not without feeling or humanity.
A marrage is to a friend, not to a body or a wallet. If your mate was incapacated for life, would you stay with him/her and never be untrue, even though they were unlikely to wake up again? find one that would do the same for you
Love is others before self, We before Me.
Your friends are not your friends it sounds like for the statement said above, your friends help you and uphold you no matter what, even if it means doing something you say not to, like telling a paramedic they need help for something they don't want their parents to know about ect. it's what a friend would do.
Don't rate yourself on what others say think or do. Not on your dates or achievements in school. your self respect may be low...but your self worth is the same as it always was. You are still worth worlds. As the scripture says.
Even if you aren't one for religion, There are those who care, and want you to be well, even if you don't know them, somewhere out there a friend is smiling at you, crying for you, hurting with you, and may help to heal you.
find them. Be a good person to find a good person, be happy with yourself, be okay...please don't be depressed, it's not an easy thing.
Don't take what others say. Decide what you are, and you are it. They are wrong. You are a person worthy of being loved and cared about.
don't ever ever forget it.
don't accept what the world tells you you are, calls you or makes others see you as.
Be well friend, please ...smile for yourself..let a light shine again. Life is not about dates and popularity, I had no dates till I was 20. By choice.
Life is much much more.
Love is not the same as a date, or sex. Don't forget it okay? you are something.
someone special to someone somewhere. If you believe in God, he always loves all, no matter what. if not...believe that not all are as hard and blindly crude and mean as those who you are assailed by.
Live, let the words be heard and instantly dropped, you know it's not true, so why even let them be able to enter into your mind. raise your head and know that you are ...someone. and can be happy again.
2007-07-20 19:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by Reft 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know what you seem like a really nice lady. I know how you feel cause i always see my friends with their guys and I just feel like crap cause i dont have one. I wish i did and i also understand when you say you want him to find you. there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And it dosent matter what your friends say and if they are calling you trash and saying mean stuff like that to you then they are probably not true friends anyway. But like i said there is no shame in taking a break and waiting for him to find you, but get out there and have fun with flirting and just be yourself that way if this guy you want is around then he will se what you are really like and he will be interested. I pray you find what you are looking for bye bye.
2007-07-20 19:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by courtney mortney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get in your car...not a nice one!!!!
get in your car, and go out "crusing" in a nearby major citry, around 11pm-2am.
you will meet guys...oh and dont dress with short shorts or skirts. jeans (yes can be lower riders) and a shirt (not too low cut)
and some sexy shoes (not open, not dressy like some nice dress boots) dont wear any expensive jewearly...the main ideal is, dont let the guys know your rich by looking at you. if they look at you and tell your rich, they know your bragging about it.
and also. dont have sex with that person the first night just get their number and call them a few days later, and ask if they want to get something to eat...work your way up.
2007-07-20 19:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by CuTiE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the people you hang out with aren't really your friends. They call you trash and take your boyfriends? THEY are the one's with problems. You need to find a new group of people to hang with and forget those fuc*ers. Once you start having fun with new people and feeling ok about yourself you'll find guys are more interested in you.
2007-07-20 19:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by hello reality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to find new friends. If they are treating you that way, they aren't really your friends. When the right man comes along, you will know it and it will be well worth the wait. Tell them you are comfortable being alone and you aren't wanting to settle just to be with someone.
2007-07-20 19:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by harleychic 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your decesion is correct. Just wait, dont rush things. The right man will just come. Trust me. Love is just catching a butterfly the more u wanted to catch it the more it will fly away from you. So just be patient everything will be fine, dont be jealous or be pressured by your friends ok.
2007-07-20 19:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they cannot support you in your time of need then they arent worth worrying about. you are an amazing, beauiful young lady and there is no rush to have a boyfriend. just be happy with you first and relax. the worlds full of guys. im sure mr rights not far away and he will treat you like the princess you are. :)
2007-07-20 19:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋