My boyfriend, Matt, went out of state.
One night on the phone we got in an arguement over the stupidest thing....I told him that i didnt care anymore..and he said about what...and i said i dont care about anything (cuz he was being really mean)so he breaks up with me...the next day he asks me back out...and I say yes....
I do like this guy and i wanted everything to work out...
But he broke up with me for nothing....and then the day before yesterday i asked him if he would mind me going over to my best friends house (garrett).....(i havent ever done ANYTHING with this guy) he tells me that i cant go and if i did he would have this one girl that he slept with a month ago come over....that really pissed me off!
Matt doesnt care if I get mad at him...He has a hard time apologizing....And he gets mad too easily....Im not fully comfortable with him....
we've only been going out for almost 3 weeks....
Should I stay with him or should I move on and let him go??
2007-07-20 12:21:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you both sound too young to have a relationship......... just hang out with friends and chill
2007-07-20 12:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lupita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some-body's jeal-ous... And I'm not talking about you. It sounds to me like this boy has been getting a little action on the side, and now he's feeling a little paranoid about what YOU might do.
I can't believe, though, that you would ask him for permission to go see a friend. You inform him that you'll be out with a friend and back later, end of story. He doesn't run your life for you.
This guy is a disgusting, sexist, and a control freak. End it. Now. Before he rips your heart out, because I promise you, he will.
I usually believe that there's hope for any relationship, but that's assuming that both partners are honest, decent people. The guy you've hooked up with is not. It's not your fault, you didn't know; but chalk this one up to experience and move on.
Let him have his little one-night stand. Tell him they deserve each other. And then hang up and never speak to him again.
You can cry afterward, when you're alone. Take the time to grieve, or you might never get over it.
I know it's hard. I've been there. I've been in that kind of relationship, and I've seen it in action over and over. You HAVE to let it go, or else he'll end up destroying you.
Good luck.
2007-07-20 12:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by Riven Liether 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go.....If these kinds of problems are occuring this early in your relationship then you have to wonder how its going to be in 3 months, 6 months, years from now??If you cannot communicate your feelings to him, or express fustrations, then you will feel like someone is pileing bricks on top of you. Whoever is a good match for you should be able to be compassionate towards your feelings and be comforting instead of confronting!Its not fun to argue and be dramatic.....some guys are more than girls and those are the ones to stay the hell away from if you want to be happy and have fun with someone.
2007-07-20 12:30:56 · answer #3 · answered by madlexo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.. if he is displaying this kind of behavior already, this relationship is doomed. He doesn't seem to care about you at all. I'm sorry, I know that hurts, but if he is already mean and verbally abusive, in less than one month... how abusive do you think he'll be in the future? You do not need this. Move on, I am sure you can find someone WAY better!
2007-07-20 12:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tina W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, if he's being this controling after only 3 weeks, what do you think he'll be like if you two are still together in a year or two from now. I believe you should make your own decition, as hard as it may be. But if you want my opinion if I were in this situation, I probably would loose him and find someone more trusting.
Good luck!!
2007-07-20 12:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by dizzy01101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my friend,
Think about just one thing, you are for choose any guy you would like to , NOT TO BE CHOSEN BY ANYONE.
Imagine if you have only 3 weeks with him, whay will happen in 2 months?
Those kind of stormy relashonship dont leave you anything good.
2007-07-20 12:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by bat_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he move out of state, or just go for a while? If he moved, there is no reason to stay together. Sounds to me like you two can't trust each other, if so, you have no reason to try to work it out. A guy that uses ultimatums is very immature.
2007-07-20 12:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest sweetie i think he's playing games sayin u can not go see ur mate. it sounds like he always got the upper hand, does he always use other girls against u? ok people argue but iv never heard of that. he comes across to me as a player, if i was u i would keep garret as a mate and **** off matt. u deserve better huni
good luck!!! ps..he's missing out not u... what goes around comes around sweet n he will find that out..
2007-07-20 12:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by prettygal32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much do you like or possibly love him? Do you see enough good things in him or you two to go fowrrd? Relationship is often time not easy. If you think it's worth the try, you can and you should make it work.
2007-07-20 12:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by miuchan_miu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have these kinds of doubts about him already, I would move on. You've only been together for 3 weeks, so it's not like you're losing much of anything. It sounds like from his actions that you could do much better and should do so.
2007-07-20 12:25:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. Long distance relationship are hard. And you don't have too much time on the relationship and it's going down the drain.
2007-07-20 12:45:19 · answer #11 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋