Does anyone else out there feel like they are HUGE LOSER MAGNANTS? I attract the loser guys I guess its cause I settle and don't wait for the right ones. I seem to push away the good guys and cling to the ones who dont have nothing going for them. Why is this? I so wanna change!!!!
2007-07-20 12:00:07 · 12 answers · asked by dragonlille79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tell everyone all the time that I am a loser magnet. It is so true, unfortunately they don't come with a sign on their forehead that says 'Loser,' it takes me a while to figure it out and then I feel trapped. But live and learn I guess.
I am definitely guilty of settling as well. I try to at least learn from my mistakes so hopefully when I finally settle down and get married it will be with one that deserves me.
It might be acceptable for you to date losers, but whatever you do avoid marrying one. Divorces are so much harder on you then just ending a dating relationship.
2007-07-20 12:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you even asking this question? You answered it yourself "I attract the loser guys I guess its cause I settle and don't wait for the right ones. I seem to push away the good guys and cling to the ones who dont have nothing going for them." Its cause you got problems yourself. It sounds mean but really think about it.
2007-07-20 19:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by no clue 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes I think it is the maternal instinct in some women that make them attracted to the losers, like we think we can help them or something. If you really want to change, you may have to be alone for a while. You need to figure out exactly what it is that you want in a man. Make a list, have the priorities on the top, sense of humor, steady job, whatever. Then when you meet someone, make sure they have more then half of the really important ones. Remember that you will probably never meet a man with ALL the top assets. You need to assess each man and see if he is better suited for you before you get involved. Take the time to really get to know them. Don't rely on what others tell you, good or bad. Judge for yourself, then pick the one that suits you best. Good luck!
2007-07-20 19:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by harleychic 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say you "seem to push away the good guys".....which tells me two things.
First, that you CAN identify the "good" ones and
Second, that you CHOOSE to push them away.
When you say "nothing going for them" I assume that you mean guys who don't work, who get drunk, who treat you like crap, etc.....how long does it take you to figure out these things about a guy? Not too long. And as soon as you know they have nothing going for them, you should be walking away.
The bottom line here is that THERE IS NO SUCH THING as a loser magnet. There are women who dump them, and women who tolerate them. If you tolerate them, you need to get some counseling to find out why.
2007-07-20 19:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was like that. Wow the losers she paraded through my livingroom lol. I know why she did it maybe it's the same for you...she wanted to help them and fix them. They made her feel needed. It always wore thin after a while though when she found out they didn't want to be helped or fixed. She finally outgrew it and married a very nice man that is very good to her and their four children. We all adore him. Good luck sweetie..
2007-07-20 19:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women are loser magnets because they keep going with losers. When women make the decision that they actually want guy that will not abuse them and that can actually provide a decent life, then plenty of nice (not wimpy) men will be there.
2007-07-20 19:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a big heart, and you see good in "losers". You feel that YOU can fix their faults.
That's sweet, but not only should you realize that their problems aren't yours, you should also recognize that you are powerless to rehab these guys.
Don't be afraid to date fellows that are more your equal in attitude and behavior.
You appear{from your picture} to be very cute with a friendly smile. Treat yourself to some nice, decent guys!!
2007-07-20 19:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to hang out with the "good guys". And bars ain't it. Join some clubs. Get involved with community activities. Plant some trees. Clean up some neighborhoods. Thats what the good guys are doing.
2007-07-20 19:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
simplest way to change is.. if you are really attracted to a guy when you first meet him.. stay away from him... go for the guys that there is a little attraction or no attraction at all... and at least that way you'll get a chance to get to know the guy and stuff before you get too deeply involved... what you're doing isn't working so try the opposite...
2007-07-20 19:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is because of patterns we create for ourselves. I didn't realize that I was looking for a "tough" guy and ended up with a loser. I broke out of that pateern and now have a great guy I have been with for 2 years.
2007-07-20 19:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by huckypeep2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋