Ok. Met a really cute guy I want. But I'm about to get engaged.?

Question

Back when I was like, 19-22 I lived my life like a dude, ok. If I saw a fine guy, I wanted to smash, you know? So, I'd push up on him, let him know the deal, and we'd handle it. Usually got what I wanted 'cuz I'm super cute. So, I met a good guy, he's a doctor, and he treats me like gold. I decided to be good. We're about to get engaged by the end of the summer according to him. So, I met this really, really cute 20-year-old white boy (I'm 26) and I know he's into me. I don't want to leave my man, but I want to cut. He's a male model, and he is sooooo fine! Should I get in one last fling before I get wifed up? Guys do it all the time. I KNOW they do. So what do ya'll think about me having a little fun before it's official?

Damn! Ya'll are evil... calling me ho's and all. I just said I was thinking about it.

Answer 1

if your in a relationship thats getting that serious, you should stick to it. if you cant do it now, what are you going to do after?? i mean theres no huge change that makes you a better person more able to resist temptation when you get married.
My advice is to leave it alone, but if you cant then break it off with the fiance, cause its just going to be heartbreak later.

Answer 2

Not all guys do it, only the losers. Only when a girl does it, she is called a whore.

If you are thinking about having a fling with someone else, then you should not be getting engaged. If you want to be a player, then get your tubes tied (so you don't screw up any children) and never get married and run around and be a floosey. If you want a committed relationship with this man then leave your skank ways behind you, stop looking at other men and focus on the one you have. You can't expect your man to be faithful to you if you are not to him. If he treats you like Gold as you say, then he will not have a fling, and doesn't deserve to marry a skank who would. The fact that he keeps telling you that "at the end of the summer" you will get engaged, leads me to believe that he is just stringing you along.

Answer 3

Do you want this new guy because he's cute or because he is white? Either way, you are not ready to get engaged. You are trying to justify having sexual flings while at the same time wanting to be engaged.I suggest you don't get engaged to your doctor guy( you said nothing about loving him only that he is a doctor and treats you like gold),continue to date him and any other man you want(be honest),until the time arrives when you feel that you have had your fill and want to now settle down.Though you are now 26, you are still in a state of 'raging hormones' that need satisfying and from all you wrote, one man is not yet enough.One word of advice:for every action there is a reaction.So be cautious.

Answer 4

Commitment is suppose to be total 100% devotion to each other...

What you described here is a HO. Why would want to go backwards instead of forward.

Male model? Otherwise known as a flash in the pan....very few male models amount to anything but paid escorts for rich older women and guys too....

Yeah he's a catch....

Lets see??? Doctors income or Models Income. Keep in mind the working career of a male model ends at 30. Doctors can work into 70s.

Do what you want.... but if you do it... you my dear are a HO. Why not break it off with the doctor and move to nevada. Make your hobby a carer path.... but I won't come to the ranch to see you.

Answer 5

I am engaged and getting married in August. If my fiance found out i would do something like taht that would just kill him. If i were you i would look and admire but not touch. you have your man and from what you say hes a good catch. keep him dont do something that may just me a fling. a flng will come an go. what if hes hot but hes a Jerk? or he just goes off and finds a new someone after a while. at least you know the man your with is good and he wants you and only you.

Answer 6

i think of he's out of order as he's clearly flirting with you. he's not promptly saying issues (e.g. how approximately we celebration, and so on.) yet from the way you have defined it he's appearing as though he's single. it is not top and he should not be engaged to this woman if he does not want to devote himself! you may inform him needless to say that what he's doing isn't suited and that he could heavily evaluate no remember if he could be marrying his lady chum if he thinks it is ok to flirt with you. i'd additionally distance myself from him and not wait till the placement escalates and you wind up being dragged into it.

Answer 7

Go on and have some fun but make sure that your fun doesn't end up in misery. What if you get sprung on model boy then your stuck. If you were going to continue to play the field then you shouldn't have said yes to your man's proposal. Life has this way of testing us and we always want what we can't have. I think you already know what your going to do you just need some reassurance.

Answer 8

The fact that you have to ask this question proves that you are net ready to be married. Guys who actaully want to get married (and expect to stay married) do not have "One last fling" before they get married and neither should you.

My wife was a virgin. I was not. That did not stop the fact that I was committed to my wife and from day one of our relationship, I have not had sex with another woman. Nor do I want to.

If you will cheat before you get married, what is to say you want cheat later?

Answer 9

What do you think the doctor would think if he ever found out? You have a good guy, stay with him. Don't do anything that might jeopardize your life in the long run. Common sense should tell you this.

Answer 10

it boils down to:

1) If there's a possibility that these 2 would are linked thru your friends? Layout your web of your friends and be certain both of them would never be present an occasion which would leave you HELPLESS.

2) If you have no sense of guilt, then go ahead.

3) Sometimes alternatives are GOOD.