My marriage is finished. Hubby wants to be single again, he says I should find someone new to make me happy. He only wants to be friends with me.
Easier said than done!!
I dont want to go to 'singles clubs', I lost contact with my friends while bringing up a family. So where do I go from here?
I cant walk into a pub on my own!
Need your help.
I don't want to spend my life on my own!!!!
2007-07-20 11:35:49 · 18 answers · asked by janie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend is 40, you can have him.
2007-07-20 11:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don´t say whether you have any interests. I´m a widower and went to a `singles, separated and divorced´club... it was a disaster!
For me it has been special interest groups that have proved the most rewarding. I like sailing.... I like reading ..... I like good food .... I like concerts .... and I like talking. So I started to get to know people associated with things I like where we had a common interest. Marinas, Library readings, Gourmet or food presentation parties, Musical events .... I found excuses to speak to people and made an effort to keep conversation going.
Learn at first to forget age, in the 21st century it is less important, and because one unlikely person may lead you to a more likely one!
I have had some failures, but am very satisfied with the result ..... with one person in particular, and I have acquired a host of new, interesting friends. YOU CAN DO IT! Make your husbands loss someone else´s gain!
2007-07-20 11:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Antony J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you think you have to have someone else to make you happy is exactly what will scare the men away. You need to be a complete person all by yourself. You need to feel joy in life without having someone bring it to you. When you are complete and able to spend life on your own, you will attract a similar person. Two complete people can be happy. Two half people brought together to make a whole will never be happy. They will be two half people insisting that someone else fill in the gaps.
Get over your alone and lonely issues. They will just make you a clingy, desperate woman. Men, especially in their forties, run from this. Single men like their freedom and independence. You had better learn to like yours as well.
2007-07-20 11:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you'd like the man you're looking for if you met him... I'm somewhat in your shoes, and basically it is a slippery slope being on your own at your age, and so fun to just watch everything unravel even more.
People get more complicated to the point they are a pain in the a-ss. It is a completely different lifestyle of challenges that you ought to be thankful for, but sometimes wonder why it has to happen to you... Put it this way, being single again isn't High School all over again. You are older, they are older... A rude awakening.
2007-07-20 11:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I asked myself that question yesterday ... I have no clue where to find a man in his forties either. That on line dating thing I find is for the birds because half are married... did that years ago. Ill hang out and find out too... Good Luck
2007-07-20 11:42:02 · answer #5 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of single mature people go get hobbies or take courses. And if you meet someone doing something you are both interested in you now have something in common!
Things could be anything like dance, art, music, a 2nd language, wine tasting club, etc.
2007-07-20 11:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you spent 25 years in the marriage curse. This is the curse of marriage and why I will never ever recommend it to anybody.
Good luck.
2007-07-20 13:48:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
usually your friends can fix you up. Also through work connections. You can also try going to church. Join a gym, that's a great place to make friends that can lead to dates.
2007-07-20 11:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent you got a couple of friends you can go out drinking with there are alsorts of places where you might meet people but you have to leave the house first, and be careful good luck
2007-07-20 11:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go back to school for higher schooling or something or pick up a new hobby like hiking or something you will meet new people dont frett about it go to a concert or something and just chill with some cool people
2007-07-20 11:39:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take the time to get to know yourself and make yourself happy.
Guys will swarm to you like flies when you least expect it.
2007-07-20 11:40:25 · answer #11 · answered by kNOTaLIAwyR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋