I AM IN MY MID 50’S AND MY DAUGHTER IS GETTING MARRIED SOON. SHE IS HAVING A BLACK AND WHITE WEDDING. I AM HER MOTHER. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF IT IS O.K AND APPROROPRIATE TO WEAR A BLACK DRESS FOR HER WEDDING?
IS BLACK IN ANY WAY OFFENSIVE OR DISTASTEFUL FOR THIS HAPPY OCCASION? I NEED YOUR ADVICE ASAP. PLEASE REPOND SOON.
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2007-07-20 11:30:28 · 26 answers · asked by US 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No it is not distasteful, especially if it is a black and white wedding. It will be elegant!
2007-07-20 11:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by jaye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While it may seem odd, black has actually become a very popular color for weddings. I'm assuming the bridesmaids dresses are black, right? I feel sure she's doing some color pattern, however, in the flowers she chose. I would talk to your daughter and ask her opinion about what color you should wear. The mother of the bride is a special position and you want to look your best. Usually the mother-of-the-bride doesn't wear the same color as the bridesmaids. If they are wearing black and you are too, it will look like too much black I'm afraid. You can't wear white for obvious reasons, so you need to go with another color. Since it's a summer wedding, I would choose a light color - pastel or something. But like I said, talk to your daughter and see if she has any preferences. It might even be great for her to go with you shopping. That way, she can't throw a fit because what you picked out wasn't appropriate
2007-07-20 11:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally it would not be appropriate to wear black to a wedding as it would be a sign of mourning and disapproval. I suppose an exception might be made as your daughter's wedding is black and white. Even then, the mothers don't generally wear the wedding colors. My greatest concern would be looking like I'm part of the wedding party in the wedding photos. Other than that, I'd probably allow my daughter's opinion to dictate.
2007-07-20 11:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is having a black and white wedding then I think of a more formal wedding and would think that you wearing a black dress would be appropriate. All the weddings I have been in that had that theme the mothers wore black dresses.
2007-07-20 11:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend had a wedding theme similar to this about 4 years ago. Her mom (age 55) wore a black floor length gown with some beading on the top. It was gorgeous. I know it might seem unusual but especially with that theme people should not think anything of it. People will care more about how a dress flatters you or if it looks nice rather than the color.
2007-07-20 11:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is just my opinion and thirty years of going to weddings, but to me black is not appropriate for a wedding. To me black depicts mourning and death. Why do young women choose black for their bridal party? I cannot understand it. If your daughter is convinced that black is the color she wants, then probably you will be advising on deaf ears, but if she is still open to suggestions, then ask that she change her color scheme to another color. You as the MOB, I would not wear black. I would wear soft pink, silver, gold, beige. Every wedding that I have gone to through the years that had a black and white color scheme was a disaster in photos. The black dresses of the bridal party come out so morbid and dull. So, again, it is my opinion and I have given it on "Answers" at least 20 times.
2007-07-21 09:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the time of day really. If the wedding is in the summertime at 2pm, then black will look a bit funny, not to mention be very uncomfortable and warm. However, my wedding was in November and both of my grandmothers wore black evening gowns. My mother (who is 51) wore burgundy and my husband's mother ( who is 58) wore champagne. I had a very formal evening wedding that began at 6:30 pm. I would say if it is an evening wedding, then black is very appropriate. It also is a wonderful way to highlight the bride in pictures (mine turned out beautifully). Congratulations, and enjoy these special times with your daughter.
2007-07-20 11:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by heatherfalcone@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not wear something in black AND white? There are plenty of dresses out there either with white trim or a pattern of white thru the black. That way it wont look so funeralish and you will be within the color "limitations" of the wedding party.
2007-07-20 14:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by MMAARREE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should matter what colour dress your daughter is wearing. The only thing that matters is that she is happy and that she is surrounded by the people who love her and wish her the best. Fashion is only on the outside, but love comes from deep within, and since this is a marriage, isn't it important to have the love there, without having to worry about material things such as fashion? Love is skin deep, and when your daughter and her husband look back on their wedding day, they won't look back on the colour of her dress, but only the love they share for one another and the ones who made their day special. Good luck.
2007-07-20 11:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if her wedding is black and white I don't see it as a problem . I attended my aunt's wedding last month and wore a black dress . As long as it doesn't look like a funeral dress then you should be fine ... Now a days black is what you wear to weddings .
2007-07-20 11:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly acceptable for you to wear black. I'm having a black and white wedding in a month and that's what my parents are wearing. As long as you and your daughter are happy with it that's all that matters.
2007-07-20 12:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋