This guy I have been dating has been divorced 6 months. He doesn't want his ex-wife to know he is sleeping with me. On the weekends he has his daughter (she's 10), he doesn't want us to be on a date anymore because it upset his ex-wife. He wants us to go in separate cars and for me to pay for my own dinner and movie tickets. Now we are suppose to go on a weekend vacation and he wants me to stay in a different hotel, not different room, but a whole different hotel, so his ex-wife doen't get upset and think we are sleeping together. I feel like the mistress in this relationship and told him I would think about going and decided last night not too. Do you think he is being disrespectful to me? Do you think I should dump him?
2007-07-20 11:12:20 · 36 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I met him 4 months ago after his divorce. I had nothing to do with his divorce
2007-07-20 11:20:02 · update #1
Yes he is being disrespect to you. WHo does he think he is to be the one telling you what and what not to do so his "ex-wife" wouldn't get mad!? Hello?? Aren't they divorced?? why does he still care what his ex wife thinks? It's none of her business and If he wants a relationship with you at least have a healthy one. What's the point of being with eachother but not being able to go everywhere in the same car or sleep on the same bed?? He gots problems, either he's not divorced and made you think he is or he still love and care about his ex-wife. Good luck on that one sweetie =)
2007-07-20 11:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by M@caroni 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you already know the answer to this question.However, you seem to want the people at Yahoo Answers to put into words what you know in your heart.This guy wants to date you but does not want his ex-wife to know that he is dating, has a lover, is going away with his girlfriend, is more concerned with his exes feelings than the woman he is supposedly interested in ,wants to not only stay at a different room but a different hotel---why not ask you to stay in a different state and even a different country while we are at it.And you ask if he is being disrespectful or feel that you are the mistress. He is not even treating you as a mistress. Should you dump him? If you have no self respect, no self love, don't want a man who is all yours---- a man who loves you , respect and supports you, thinks you're the "cat's meow", then the answer is no. But if you feel as I do, then run, don't walk, away from this menace.You deserve much better than you are getting and don't deserve this treatment that you are taking.Best of luck.
2007-07-20 11:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety are u slow!!!! didn't u read what u was typing!! Is he he is more then disrespecting u his clowning u. Acutually he is still dealing, and have feelings for her. If u have to pay, b in a diff hotel, drive ur own car come on what do that mean!!!! ur nobody ur just a booty call without the benifets. Look u r letting him bring u down to a standard that ur not and that is a piece of cheap ***. Let that go asap!!!!
2007-07-20 11:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by GSkillz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a loser. Lose him.
If he wants you, he wants you, and shouldn't give a care about an ex. Why the hell would he listen to an ex wife more than you? They're separated for a reason. She shouldn't control his actions, or even influence them (unless it's for the good of the child).
He's a loser, though. He's not respecting you. You need respect in relationships. Tell him to get his act together!
2007-07-20 11:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by theVisionary 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he still hasn't come to grips with the whole divorce thing, he really needs to understand that it doesn't matter what his EX wife thinks about him dating cause i mean their divorced right!? Anyways, you should talk to him about it and how you feel about the whole thing and if he wont do anything about it..maybe you should think about dumping him...
2007-07-20 11:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's been divorced 6mths and is still worried about what his ex thinks. Unless it has something to do with what you are not telling us about whats in his divorce papers, then i'd say that his requirements to be with you are not above-board and you deserve better, i'm sorry to say it but yes its time to move on.
2007-07-20 11:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump him for the hotel thing. Paying for your own stuff isn't bad. If you don't wanna pay for anything than expect to make no choices in the relationship.
2007-07-20 11:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What? That is ridiculous for him to do those things to you. He is probably not over his ex-wife for him to be so concerned about her feelings. What about your feelings. I would tell him to stop hiding yalls relationship and if he keeps on hiding it I would get rid of him. Good Luck!
2007-07-20 11:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him. He obviously isn't thinking of you he is thinking still of his ex wife. But you don't have to listen to me. Its up to you. That is just what I would do.
2007-07-20 11:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by animal luver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him when he wants a real relationship to call... he sounds like all he wants is a booty call... Your both grown adults and this isn't high school anymore so tell him to "Stop the BullSh**!" He is not ready for a relationship... get rid of HIM!
2007-07-20 11:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋