My poor boyfriend has to put up with my "evil" mother and it's driving me nuts. His family loves me and treats me awesome, hello hugs and goodbye hugs, while my mom will not even acknowledge his presence when we're at her house. I finally confronted her, she apologized, saying she was wrong. But.... why are mother's like this?
My boyfriend makes nearly $60k for his job that he learned while serving in the US Marine Corps and he takes great care of me. But, it's not enough. She doesn't like it that I'm on my own (I'll be 23 next month) and don't rely on her anymore. I just don't get some parents.
2007-07-20 11:02:34 · 11 answers · asked by gratitude monster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like she raised you to be independent and now her success is coming back to haunt her. She might feel scared about not being needed anymore. Tell her that instead of just you needing her that someday you will have a husband and children that will also need her, that needing her will never stop but the types of needing will change.
2007-07-20 18:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you dear and she has devoted 23 years of her life to you and your welfare and it was a 24/7 job. Now you are grown and have a boyfriend and that means her job is at an end. She misses you and she is probably having a hard time adjusting to the changes this causes in her life. If she is alone then she is also probably very lonely now. Be kind to her and perhaps she will be less "evil" Good Luck and God Bless
2007-07-20 11:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely have a terrible mom in regulation, and believe me, this could better than possibly be the way issues pass to any extent further. My mom in regulation pulled tremendously lots all the comparable stuff at my wedding ceremony, and lots lots worse. in simple terms clarify to her, or extra suited yet, have her son clarify to her that that's in fact no longer her wedding ceremony. although, if the mummy in regulation is the single paying for those products you do no longer somewhat get too lots of a vote. end consisting of her in issues inclusive of customer record making plans and cake procuring, if she isn't around whilst those issues are happening there is way less of a probability she would be able to meddle in them. different than that, in simple terms forget approximately her. are not getting nasty or slump to her point however. I definitely have utilized the "kill them with kindness" approach. even though it hasn't replaced her habit it makes me look extra suited, and it additionally supplies me the satisfaction of understanding that she would be able to't turn me into somebody i'm no longer. i understand that I habit myself respectfully, inspite of ways she chooses to act.
2016-12-10 17:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by matheis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having that problem but the other way around. His family dont accept him and they lifestyle we have picked (to get married young, hes 21 and im 20) but there sweet to me. I just dont understand some parents thats all!!!
good luck!!
2007-07-20 11:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get some parents?
Sounds like you hit the nail on the head.
I think you figured out why she does what she does. A little 'empty nest syndrome' perhaps?
2007-07-20 11:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her. Especially if you plan on marrying him. Is there something you have done that makes her upset? For example, are you living together and she doesn't agree with it? There is probably a root to the problem, keep searching.
2007-07-20 11:05:50 · answer #6 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like my wife's parents. Sorry,
both me and my wife refer to my family as Mom and Dad, and to her family as "The in laws" because even to her, my parents are more like parents then hers ever were, makes me appreciate my parents even more.
2007-07-20 11:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah unfortunatly we cant make people see things the way we do. or make them think in a certain way. it sounds like she likes you to be more dependent on her. but your growing up and she feels left out. you cant do much about it... just understand it.
2007-07-20 11:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We mothers feel threatened that you (or him) will take you (or him) away from us forever. We do not know why we do these tings, it is sometimes a subconscious action.
2007-07-20 11:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that NOBODY is ever good enough for our children. That is because we love them so much, and want only the very best for them. I don't think it is intentional that your mom is this way.
2007-07-20 11:06:31 · answer #10 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋