There's this girl that I met at a picnic. We had a really good time. The chemistry was there, and I could tell that she likes me too.
I made the mistake of not asking for her phone #, and I thought that I'd never see her again.
But, I kept thinking of her, and decided to look her up on MySpace . . . and found her. I left her a message, and got a response after one month (she's not online all that much).
So we added each other as friends, and decided to meet for coffee sometimes. She's very busy with school.
There is also this girl on my MySpace that leaves me somewhat flirty messages, but we're just really good friends, nothing more. Plus, she's not my type, and she's seeing so many other people. But, I do enjoy her as a friend.
My question is, do you think that the girl that I like, thinks of me less because of the messages that my friend leaves? I really don't want to mess things up. What should I do?
2007-07-20 10:57:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her (the girl you like) about the friend up front, at the very beginning of the relationship! Just come out and say "don't worry if you see messages to me from from this girl; we are just frends, we have communicated for ages; you have nothing to worry about!" You really, really don't want this to be something she "discovers" later on in the relationship or she will think you are trying to hide something! re-assure her that she is just a friend and that there is absolutely nothing going on between you, and that she is welcome to look at the messages you're exchanging; maybe even send her some messages! If you girlfriend still can't deal with your friend its her problem!
2007-07-20 11:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she does... maybe not... Well id find it funny, and some girls might actualy be drawn to it. It will look to her like theres another girl going for you, but shes the one YOU WANT! id like it :P
I wouldnt bring it up if she didnt ask... or delete the realy... umm graphic or seriously flirty questions coz she may just think ur friends with a bunch of h0es which isnt good.
If she asks about it... tell her its just ur funny/wierd/horny or wotever friend and she doesnt mean anything to you. Explain that the fact u never deleted the comment was coz they wernt important to you and they didnt seem to matter. Their just stupid! I dont even know if u can delete messages on myspace... i use bebo
2007-07-20 18:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first.....make it so that your myspace comments have to be approved before you put them on your page.
If I was a woman who was interested in you and seen flirty messages from another woman, how would I know that is just your friend, unless I crossed check?
Now....Once you and your friend go to have coffee, get to know her more, she could like you but remember her schedule is pretty busy with school, and other things don’t push anything, if she wants to get to know you better, she will be able to ft you in.
Just take it slow and watch where it goes.
Take Care
2007-07-20 18:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the one you really like directly and ask her out on a casual date, see where it goes form there, Yes the other flirty messages from another female could hurt your chances with her.
2007-07-20 18:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by labadala l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the messages that your friend leaves. Just be yourself and go out and have coffee or something with her. If it is meant to be then you will end up with her. Good Luck
2007-07-20 18:03:02 · answer #5 · answered by chris m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl that you like is secure with herself she shouldn't be bothered by the comments left by your other friend. If you doubt that she is completely aware of how much you like her then you should mention that the comments left for you do not peek your interest and that you have someone else that you would prefer to become involved with.
2007-07-20 18:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that flirty girl is just a skank isn't she? Besides, does the girl you like know about the skank and the messages? The skank is your friend I'm sure she wouldn't be jelous as long as you don't flirt with (okay I'll say it one more time) the skank.
2007-07-20 18:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by tabluvr2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but tell her casually that you dislike that your friend leaves those kinds of messages on your myspace.
2007-07-20 18:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the girl you like shouldn't think less of you because your getting hit on by another girl.... as long as you dont flirt back to your "friend"... she should see that....
plus.....you cant help that your getting hit on......
Just continue on with the girl you like... try to develop a healthy relationship.....
2007-07-20 18:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by DJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man this is a simple one, just grow a pair and tell her you like her and want to take her out.
2007-07-20 18:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by orno11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋