I was just wanting to know.. is it bad if i were to get a guy room mate? like a best friend or is that wrong to live with a man in the house thats not your husband?
2007-07-20 09:59:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would advise against it. Even if there is nothing more than the sharing of bills and no sex, it looks bad and the bible says to stay away from even the appearance of evil. That would appear that you two are living as a couple without being married.
God Bless.
2007-07-20 10:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of two people of opposite gender sharing a home without a covenant of marriage between them is not exactly a sin. There was no commandment "Thou Shalt Not Shack Up!"
There are, however, some things to consider, from a Christian standpoint.
This first one is, will there be any sexual activity between the roommates? If so, then this is sinful. Just because God will forgive sins does not mean you have permisson to go ahead and sin all you want. One condition of being saved is that you repent of sin. Repent means to turn away from sin and not do it any more. If you don't stop, then you have not repented. You are just willfully sinning, and that appears to be rather irritating to God, so I wouldn't put any bets on your being saved.
Another question revolves around the appearance of sin. This one is tricky, but it means does it look like you are in sin? If so, then you are giving a false impression to others. If you claim to be Christian, yet give the impression that it is OK to be sinful, then you are wrong. This is bound to be a stumbling block to other Christians who will see your example and try to follow it.
Lastly, there is a practical question. Why put yourself in a position to be tempted? You and your friend may have the purest intentions right now. Somewhere down the road, however, situations will arise that will lead you into temptation, and not just sexually.
Two people living together will begin to depend on one another, and a form of love grows.
But remember, you are still free. What if you get a new boyfriend and your roommate gets jealous? What if he gets a new girlfriend, and invites her over to spend the night?
The situation can be even worse if you merge bank accounts, share cell phone bills, and other practical things.
Without the covenant of marriage to protect the two of you, you are both vulnerable to the other's bad choices. There is a huge potential for hurt and heartache for the two of you.
Aside from the Christian Covenant of marriage, having a legal marriage is essential when the time comes to go your separate ways.
Without a legal marriage, not even the law has much to offer you if one or the other tries to get more than they ought to out of the remains of the relationship.
One of you might take all the cash out of the joint account and leave the other with the rent to pay, bills to pay, and no cash.
One of you might run up a big cell bill, then skip town.
One of you may claim ownership of things bought together for mutual benefit, leaving the other with no furnishings.
One of you may claim that money spent for the benefit of the other was actually a "loan" and take that other to court to collect.
A legal marriage in these cases provides a way to divide things fairly.
So, no, it is not necessarily a sin to have a roommate of the opposite gender, but it may not be an entirely good idea, either.
2007-07-20 17:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barry F 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From a biblical standpoint there is not one big reason, but several little reasons to not live with a person of the opposite sex (in a roomate or premarital situation).
First, this can create some sort of temptation for both or one of the parties involved. God calls us to "above all else, guard your heart." so even placing yourself in a situation that could lead to something is tricky.
Secondly, it is about how you appear to those around you. You are giving an example of your life to others, especially those that look up to you. Even if you are okay in the living situation. Someone else may be influenced to follow suit.
I don't know, just giving you my thoughts, hope it provides some help
2007-07-20 17:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by devilrayboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says to avoid even what appears to be evil.
If you have a guy room mate, people will assume you are having sex with each other even if you are not.
Pastor Art
2007-07-20 17:23:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wrong because of the temptation factor. Read Galations 6.
I know you shouldn't care so much what people think of you but, do you want say, the elders of your church to know you live together. Most people will assume you are living in sin. There has to be a better arrangement for you.
2007-07-20 17:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lulu, I had a male room mate and it was totally platonic and good...as long as you are not engaging in pre martial sex it is a question of your comfort zone...my friend was a great friend and guy..he respected me and my privacy as I did him...we lived together for two years..he married a nice lady and moved on..I married a stupid man and moved on...got out of that and have a good life now..the hardest part of living with a male is other peoples opinions of it...but I knew what I was doing and it was nothing wrong and God knew it too..so go ahead...but stay true to yourself...
2007-07-20 17:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by rowdysunsetart 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it's going to be a judgment call I'd say avoid temptation not just for you but for him also... even if you don't have any feelings for him he may have some for you and it is important that you protect his heart also...
the Bible also teaches to "avoid even the appearance of evil" so even though what you are doing is not wrong you should avoid doing it if it will cause others to think you are in sin or tempt others to live with their boyfriends because they think that is what you are doing.
2007-07-20 17:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by Andre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy roomate and it was the best. I would never have another female roomate. We just fight over the littlest things.
Just don't turn it into something more. then you just open the floodgates of useless arguments. Once you cross that line you can never go back.
2007-07-20 17:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by alana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen.....first and foremost....are you a Christian....?....if you are is the guy who would live with you?....If he is not then you should not live with him....further more even if he is....living with a member of the opposite sex....can be and will lead to temptation....the appearance of evil in a Christians walk needs to be considered in ALL things....i would advise you to consider a room mate of the same gender and play it wise...†
2007-07-20 17:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by implumbus 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is your relationship with the guy. and second you have to make sure you are not creating a stumbling block for you or others. sometimes perception is reality. finally, better safe than sorry.
2007-07-20 17:07:29 · answer #10 · answered by The true face of religion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋