for example someone is sick and you buy them stuff and do all the things they needed to do trying to be nice and then had them not only not help you when you became sick, but purposely be rude to you and try to make you feel worse.
that's just an example, but have you ever been a situation like that? what are you supposed to do? Are you still supposed to be nice to them even though they hurt you when you are at your weakest, or next time they are ill or ask for your help should you just not help them? Because it seems like a pattern for this person to do this to me... and one more thing what if this person was your mother?
2007-07-20
09:53:52
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Maybe you miss understood. I wasn't being nice because I expected something in return. I was talking more about them being purposely cruel to me when I was going through the same type of situation. I didn't expect anything from them, but I was surprised at how horrid they acted towards me.
2007-07-20
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I never really thought about it. I don't help people with an expectation of being repaid in the future. I do it because it is the right thing to do. I have already been rewarded when I helped them in the first place. And if they needed my help after being "rude' to me, I would help them again. My compassion does not depend on their actions.
2007-07-20 09:58:57
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answered by Pangloss (Ancora Imparo) AFA 7
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Yes I have had this experience. I just try to do what the Bible says and don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Also it says don't become weary in doing good. Trust in the Lord for your reward and not in the person that you are doing it for. Do it as unto the Lord. Keep pressing forward , my friend. If this person is a parent, all the more reason to just keep honoring and blessing them. It doesn't hurt if you take your hurts and feelings to the Lord in prayer. He will deal with the offending party. You just keep being what you know God wants you to be.God bless!!
2007-07-20 17:00:56
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answered by BERT 6
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This situation is considerd to be normal in any state. I am totally moderate person, so in this situation, i just simply never try tod odoanything good to them, except they are just simply lucky to have my generosity. But never like an intention to be good to those kinds of person. Anyway, the way we do, the way we got the result. It doesnt bothered me at all, since i realised that i have more potencial to give than to receive, even when i am sick and no body around. Acceptation is the greatest generosity at all.
2007-07-23 04:29:13
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answered by tresyabedkowska 3
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Good news everyone!
The best example is my own brother. I do favors for him whenever he asks, but I don't see anything in return for it. He was sick once for over a week and I practically took care of him that whole week, but a little while later, he went back to being rude and offensive towards me.
2007-07-20 16:57:02
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answered by Professor Farnsworth 6
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this kind of thing happens all the time. But that's not why you do it. You dont' do for others expecting them to do for you. You do for others UNTO GOD - as a gift unto the LORD - when you give to others, often others will give to you - but USUALLY what happens is that the person you give to is NOT the person who gives to you. Usually someone ELSE is the one God uses to give to you. You should do good always and not expect anything back.
If this is your mother - then you are probably manipulating her. You probably need to confess your impure motives and ask forgiveness.
2007-07-20 17:01:07
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answered by art_flood 4
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Yes i have had someone be mean when i was nice. The situation for them was very close to the one i was going through
2007-07-20 16:59:37
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answered by friend f 1
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Sure, that happens quite often. But just keep on being kind to people no matter what, and don't look for rewards or reciprocation of any kind. After all, if you're waiting for a reward you're not *really* being kind to them in the first place, are you???
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OK, I see what you mean now. I think you should still help them, but don't go out of your way.
2007-07-20 17:03:07
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answered by Lyle the farm cat 3
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Of course. It is human nature!
Genesis 6:5 "And GOD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually."
2007-07-20 16:58:47
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answered by Anonymous
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Our behavior should not depend on how others treat us. If we are helpful to others only when we can be assured of the same treatment, then nobody would be helpful. The importance of having compassion and being generous to others is for not only for our personal well-being. If your mother is harsh to you when you are ill, forgive her. If your mother is sick, help her. Yes, it is difficult to maintain a humble attitude, but we develop these spiritual qualities for our own sake, and for the sake of others.
2007-07-20 17:07:46
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answered by Anonymous
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I think there are toxic people who will do nothing but bring you down. I am very willing to kick those people out of my life. don't get me wrong sometimes I over react, but I would rather have a few true friends then a bunch of crappy ones. I don't hang around people who treat me bad. You show people how to treat you and when you allow them to run all over you, you are inadvertently telling them that it is okay to continue treating you like that.
You deserve what you put up with. I truly believe that.
2007-07-20 16:57:21
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answered by alana 5
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