I have just found out that the father I was raised by was not my blood father. My mother was in a relationship

Question

with my father for 6 years. She fell pregnant, and gave birth to a baby boy (my brother whom I have also just found out about, and we have met and are getting on great). Sadly her family made my mother put her baby up for adoption, and only now has he found her again. My mother got back together with my father and 2 years later fell pregnant with me. Unfortunately my father decided he didnt want the responsibility and they split up. Because of the problems with my brother she didnt want anyone taking me from her so registered the father as unknown on when she registered my birth. When I was 5 years old she met and eventually married the father I grew up with. She tells me that he never legally adopted me but declared himself as been my father and the birth certificate was then re-issued with his name next to the father. Is this possible without having to provide medical evidence. It would have been in the late 60's or early 70's.

Answer 1

I don't have any idea about the legalities of which you ask. But do know that if this man raised you as his own and treated you as a son that you should be grateful and continue to love him as if he was your blood. Sad fact is that you are not alone with this story and many before you can relate to the tale of which you've shared. Your mom may have made a poor life choice regarding the relationship with your natural dad; however, she did bring you into this world and has continued to love and support you without hesitation or resentment. So if you have the opportunity to meet up with your sibling that is great but please let both the parents that raised you know how important they are in your life and that you do and will continue to be grateful and love them for who they are and how they raised you.

Answer 2

I don't know which country you belong to or the laws regrading such issues prevailing there. In India, a man doesn't need to medically prove himself that he is the father of a certain child in order to put his name as the father of that child in the child's birth certificate. His declaration to that effect is considered sufficient for the purpose.
Although modern laws have dispensed with the necessity of a child to be identified with his/her father for any official purpose like birth certificate or school admission, it was mandatory at the time when you were born. Nowadays a mother's identity can serve the purpose.
Therefore, I am somewhat confused as to what the word "missing" in the space against your father's name in your earlier birth certificate implied or whether that was possible at all. And even more surprising is the fact as to how the "missing" was substituted by the name of a gentleman 5 years later. Some questions were bound to have been raised at that time. But a lot of things are possible as long as there are pliant officials and one is willing to grease palms.
The gentleman whose name is indicated as your father in your birth certificate doesn't need to adopt you formally or legally after he gives a declaration that he is your father and the same declaration is not contested by your mother or your biological father. Needless to say he doesn't need to appear for a medical (DNA) test either. Such a test could have been necessary if the officials had raised questions about the declaration given by your present father at the time he decided to put his name as your father substituting the word "missing" in your birth certificate. Or if your biological father had raised objections.
However, if you want you can contest on the issue in a court of law after consulting a good lawyer. But I personally feel that it would be better for you to let bygones be bygones and bury the past. You know the truth after all. And your adopted father hasn't been bad to you either. So, as the bard said, what's in a name?

Answer 3

I know that when my friends "babies daddy" declared he was the father, even after the birth certificate had already been issued, there was no questioning if he really was. I think there is a loop hole when you claim "unknown" It works but of course small issues may come up, hence your situation. Regardless of what really went on, you know who your father is and if there is someone else claiming to be your father you just happen to be twice as lucky. Enjoy your life dont dwell to much on the past nothing you try to do can change it. I wish you the best with your new brother and may you and you family prosper.

Answer 4

Your family history reminded me of my own in many ways,but is unique as well-regarding the fact that your mother was not fearful of her family upon writing father as unknown.did that not bother the family ? many implications can be made with that info. ie.hiding real father from child ,does not know who father is,...etc.The fact that your biological father left his responsibilty would leave me to believe he had a hand in what was to be registrared,and if your mother insisted his name be there,she had all rights to do so,because he would have been considered the presumed father.Blood sample must be supplied if contested by him.Now to answer your question-anyone can be on the birth certificate,as long as it is not contested by another.This is sometimes the case when child support becomes an issue.So now at least the man who brought you up is on the birth certificate,even if he is not legally obligated to you.Your bio.father could have contested if he wished and if he could be located.Hope this helps,good luck.

Answer 5

Yes it's possible and this man is your Dad not the sperm donor who abandoned you. Being a father is so much more then the biology, it is the man who took responsibility for you, held you when you were scared, put clothes on your back, fed you, built a family for you and raised you into the man you are. Actually having sex with your mom and making a baby is the least important factor in fatherhood. it's what you do after that happens the makes a father !

Answer 6

sad turn of events indeed! But learn to live with that and do remember that your 'blood father' had abondoned you and this is the person who has taken the responsibility to bring you up. Legal options apart, he has been responsible and perhaps caring for you. Respect him for what he has done and relax he might also consider doing what he so far has not...

Legality cannot be above feelings & emotions.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

I have a young child and was surprised to discover that you can write down anyone as the father and write any last name. Remember the Anna Nicole case? They don't ask for medical proof. I was raised by my step-father since I was about 4 as well. When I was 18 I changed my last name from my biological father's last name to my step-father's last name. I feel very lucky to have been raised by my step-father. I think he has the biggest heart and love him even more for what he's done for me. He loved me like his own. Your mom was probably trying to protect you from your biological father who is no good. Goodluck!

Answer 8

Who knows. But consider this, he stayed with you and your mom and took care of you both. I understand the need to know about your biological father, but beyond the bio part, don't you already know he couldn't have cared for you.

I wouldn't blow this out of proportion. You will only hurt your parents and it won't do you any good either. If you must know somethings, ask your mother discreetly. Then let it go

Answer 9

from what i know in my country u r legally the son of ur present father as u r legally atopted.

Answer 10

yes it is possible but i want to know is do you hate your mom for what she did?