2007-07-20 08:48:51 · 41 answers · asked by Joe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is.
2007-07-20 08:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by abetdgreyt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on your situation. Living together is a huge jump from dating. Sharing bills, space, and reducing your "alone time" tremendously can be a serious adjustment for alot of people. You learn things about a person you never thought they could do, and whether or not you can handle these "surprises" are really up to you and how much this person means to u. That's why alot of time people say the first 2 years of marriage are the hardest (especially if you haven't lived together) cuz you're entering a whole new dimension of a relationship... new adjustments, etc...
If you live together B4 marriage, atleast there are no surprises, but then you don't have much to look forward to either,..... the newness is gone, ya know?
Both sides have goods and bads, but really, only you can decide whats right for you and your situation.
I lived with my husband for 4 years b4 we got married....And things worked out cuz we knew how to be married before we were.... and that can be a good thing and a bad thing, if you know what I mean.
Good luck
2007-07-20 08:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not , I think that is the best way to know if you two are meant to be together . Now I believe if you live together in the same house and you get married you should have already had plans to move into a new home and start new with the whole marriage thing . Good Luck and Best Wishes !!!!!
2007-07-20 08:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No!!! Compatibility needs to be assessed, and I am not just talking about on a sexual issue/basis. I suggest living temporarily (30 days minimum) under the same roof, however, sleeping apart in seperate rooms. If you choose to include sleeping together... Not having any sexual contact/behaviors with each other during this time... just evaluate each others daily living habits. Are you the odd-couple trying to make your life living together work out? How do you each handle Financial Affairs? Do your life-styles clash in certain ways which may not be willingly worked out and/or will end your permanent relationship you think you want to establish together? Consider and talk about marriage and divorce rates today, have a party with adult family and friends to discuss marital conflicts... but make an experimental game, and try to have some fun out of it. Don't give up the dwelling that each of you live in presently, seperated from each other. If it doesn't work out, at least no one is put-out and you can go back to the same life-style you once were in... Hopefully Happy, Wiser, and maybe retain a "Friends with Benefits" relationship. Good-Luck !!!
2007-07-20 09:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Cuisine Connoisseur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's wrong or not depends on how one feels about it. Some research shows it doesn't make a marriage last any longer. You should know each other pretty well before thinking you want to be married, anyway. I lived with my fiancee for a few months before we got married. we had been together for 4 1/2 years prior. We still got divorced. I wouldn't do it again. Besides for couples who live together long-term prior to marriage seperation of things is more complicated.
2007-07-20 08:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by T-La 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think it is wrong. It is a personal choice and there is nothing wrong with it, as long as you are in a committed relationship. In today's world when so many marriages end in divorce, living together is almost like a trial run. If living together will help you to decide if that person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then go for it.
2007-07-20 08:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Shadoh78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its wrong according to the Bible. But with Divorce at a 50% rate. Todays people, I believe need to get to know each other before they give all involved the heart break of a marriage not working out. Living together should be the same as pre -marital sex. Now evaluate for yourself.
2007-07-20 08:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, If you don't you will never know the person as well as you will when you live with them. Some people believe that is what makes a marriage, to wait and see how you can deal with the things you don't know. But personally I think it can break you up in a heart beat. Why would you want to wait? I believe in living with someone atleast 3-5 years before considering marriage, thats just me. I would atleast live with them before considering no matter how long it is.
2007-07-20 08:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by lash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No , not at all. I believe that living together before marriage is a good idear. Cuz when you live together there are so many things you have to get accustomed off. It's good to learn to know eachothers habbits BEFORE you get married.
Nowadays so many people devorce. I believe that they didn't really , and i mean really , knew eachother BEFORE they married. A broken home is much worser than living together before marriage.
It living together could prevent a future mistake , or in other words , prevent a future divorce , I thinks it's not wrong at all
2007-07-20 08:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, under the right circumstances living together is a good test to see if he/she is the "right one"... I dated my now husband for 10yrs. before we lived together.. It wasn't a big deal, we knew each other and had spent years together so for us it was a "no brainer"... I think that people may rush into living together too early in their relationships and that causes more problems.. I mean YOU do try on shoes before you buy them right? Then why not "try on" a person before you get married? I don't have a problem with it.. It makes sense.. Why have more commitment with shoes than a person ! I think that's a tradition that was more for.... "living in sin" with someone... which once again is out dated.. Most people have sex before they are married, hence the stigma of living together... Nowadays, it's common for a couple to be intimate before they are married, so living together is a natural progression.. Still not a problem....
2007-07-20 08:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society it is acceptable. You have to think that back in the Biblical times women were 14 when they married...so a 12 year old girl moving in with a 22 year old man would certainly be seen as bad. But the Bible did not change with the changing times we have today.
Sometimes you can make it seem like you are living together. I have lived with a BF who turned into an ex-husband. I did not see that living together benefited or ruined my relationship. It did help financially but other than that...if you are close enough to this person it'd be like you're living with them anyways.
2007-07-20 08:56:44 · answer #11 · answered by parvastella22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋