Why would any woman reject a guy because he's in a low status job?

Question

Many woman equate a low status job with low ambition. Accually a job is to make money. It doesn't tell you anything about a guy, except that he has bills to pay. It doesn't tell you if he's going to school or has another job or his own business. Besides that many guys inherit a business or get their job through connections in wich case they don't need much ambition.
I asked the question about turn offs and gave 10 choices and about half the answers (out of 26) put low status job in the top 5. One even put it above fat. Fat tells me more about someone then their job. Fat tells me you are either lazer or eat too much or have a condition that keeps you from exercising.
Besides all that what does job status have to do with dating? (unless it's illegal or immoral) I find it hard to believe that so many woman could be so shallow, stupid and materialistic. I hope the answers I got don't reflect the real world.

I'm not sure because in another question I asked if woman would date the guy who delivers their mail. Most said yes.

Answer 1

"Low status" is a somewhat relative and biased way of putting it, but I'll take a gander...

The gender war isn't over. Women make between 74 and 77 cents (depends on the source) to every man's dollar in the US. Until there's equal pay for ALL, expect some imbalances in other aspects of life. Women who are interested in marriage and a family look for men who can support them and their children, or, specifically, men who draw a sizable income.

Maybe the real question is... Would it hurt a man's pride to be with a woman in a higher-powered/profile/paying job? It was certainly a contributing factor in the demise of my last relationship.

Answer 2

It depends on what you mean by low status. My opinion of low status means it won't go anywhere, and anyone off the street could get that job. You don't have to be a high class business exec, just have some ambition to achieve more than just a minimum wage job. Otherwise you may come across just as lazy as the fat person. Having a little ambition talks about you as a person. It's not about being materialistic or shallow. But that's just my opinion.

Answer 3

I don't think all women feel this way about men. And I think women are also overlooked if their job status is low.

For both sexes, the emphasis on "materialistic" criteria tends to rise with age. Older people--way older--who are close to retirement age get extremely concerned about this kind of thing--security, stability, whether the person they're dating could become a financial burden.

The man to whom I'm married was deeply unemployed when we fell in love. I was glad that I met him at such a time, because I could see the real person, not his job status or fancy possessions.

As a woman who was on the dating scene three times in life, I can say that there are many men who judge women by their job status. In the initial stages of dating, men place job status and bank accounts fairly high, and they will overlook those matters only for women who are drop-dead gorgeous, and sometimes not even then.

All of what I've said about men is very general, but you're generalizing a lot about women.

Answer 4

I'm not sure if a "low status" job scares women off or if it is a "low income" job. If you are 18-22 and have a "low status" job, it's probably not a nail in the coffin. But if you are a 45 year old waiter, there's room for a raised eyebrow.

And if you are confused about this issue, you may not have a good grasp on reality. There are a lot of women who would like to raise a family without putting their children in daycare. If you have a good paying job, then you are an attractive mate. If your wife "has" to get a job as opposed to "wanting" a job, then it's a no-brainer.

Answer 5

Having a low status job is fine, if you can pay your bills and take care of yourself. Going on dates and having a girlfriend will cost you money...even going dutch. That's life.. the cost of living and getting by. Entertainment and dating gets expensive. Ladies ( some ladies ) want to know if a man can afford the things that are extra in life and relationships. Now some ladies prefer to have a man with alot of money just because that's the way they are. Its like a man who looks down on a lady who works in a fast food restraunt....or a low paying job.. they could think she is looking for a money man.. which is wrong. She would like to meet someone who just would like her and go out and have some fun. People should value each other and themselves in who they are.. not what they make or not make. Life is to be enjoyed, so be who you are for now. If you need to go back to school and learn something that could bring in extra income so that you can have something in life.. a wife, children, nice house, car ... just living better.. do it. Its a shame that some folks are shallow men or women....I hope you do not stay bitter about this. Cant change the world .. just yourself.

Answer 6

I'm not a chick, nor do I date guys, but I don't make much money so I can relate to what you're saying.

I think that when women here "low status job" they immediately think "lazy, and unmotivated". Lazy and unmotivated are two things that can absolutely destroy a future. A man is expected to be able to support his family.

If your job is not high paying, but you have ambition, that's a completely different story. Not many people start out from the top. You have to work your way there and any many who works for his success earns my respect.

If a woman will not date you because you don't make enough money, kick her to the curb. She's not worth the keystrokes it took to type your post.

Answer 7

Some might say that not dating someone because they're fat is shallow.

Everyone has their own criteria of what is important to them. Some might prefer to date someone who has a good paying job simply because they have a good paying job and want an equal playing field financially. Other might want it because they want to raise of family and prefer to be a stay at home mom. Some might just be gold diggers. In any case, who is anyone to make a judgement?

In 10-15 years people's answers to these same questions will change because their priorities in life will change. What you think is important now isn't so important when you've attained your personal goals and/or have reached a turning point in life.

The most important things in a relationship are very basic: intelligence, humor, having a passion in life. It's hard to find these things in one package.

Answer 8

As you said, I equate a low status job with low ambition. But to take that further - if a guy has low ambition, then he doesn't have any goals. If he doesn't have goals, then he is not likely to work hard for something. And if I am going to have a serious relationship with someone, then I want to know he is going to be willing to work hard for it and not just accept things at face value.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

I would not reject a guy that is under 25 if he is working a low status job. However, if I were widowed or over 25 and dating, I would not date a guy working at McDonalds without asking some questions.