She calls me and asks me for a favor (fix something, lift something,etc.) and then offers coffee or a glass of tea as a reward. All this is during the work day while her husband is at work. I made the mistake of doing it a few times and now I need to stop it. She is very attractive and I think she is flirting a lot, or maybe since I'm 20 years older than her, she is just not aware of it. Help!
2007-07-20 08:35:58 · 19 answers · asked by friendofsomefoeofothers 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It's hard to tell from your description of her behavior whether she's being flirty or neighborly. It certainly is within the realm of polite behavior to offer someone a drink after they have performed physical labor for you. You can always say something like, "I'd rather not go into your house right now since your husband's not home, but I'd be happy to help you with that after he gets home from work." Or you could bring your wife or someone else along when you go to her house. Let your conscience be your guide: if it's making you feel uncomfortable, there's probably a reason to be concerned.
2007-07-20 17:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-22 02:39:12 · answer #2 · answered by Silvia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not even realize the way you are reacting to her attention. Some people are just extremely friendly, flirty people by nature and they're like that with everyone. I'm that way and so is my husband but neither of us means to come off that way and it doesn't mean we are hitting on people. It's just in our nature and that's how we come across. My friends tease me all the time and tell me to quit flirting with someone when I don't see myself coming across that way at all. It's hard to say without knowing the person but I'd see if she acts the same way around other people as she does with you.
Also, when I'm working at home, I won't even answer the phone unless it's someone I work with calling. If you really don't want her bothering you during the day, or if she really is hitting on you and you want it to stop, then I'd just tell her that you work during the day and don't have time to spare until later and then just go over AFTER her husband comes home and ask what she needed help with. That may also put an end to it if it's really something other than normal friendliness when her husband knows about her calling you all the time.
2007-07-20 13:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start working part time. Extra income and a chance to get out of the house and interact with people your own age. Try to find out some of your sons friends and get together with them and their parents for playdates and barbeques or something. Join an online group. Start volenteering. If your sons school has a PTA, join that too. Sometimes you have to branch out a lot to find new people, but hopefully you will meet some other moms that you really click with.
2016-05-18 04:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by gwyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her sorry that your behind in your own work. Hopefully after a few times she'll get the hint and get her husband to do whatever needs attention.
2007-07-20 16:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she calls, tell her that you are sorry, but you're busy with your work right now.
Maybe if you feel guilty about that, you could offer to come over this evening (when you know her husband is home), and help her husband with this if he needs the help.
2007-07-20 08:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then tell her to back off.I would if I were you.Any time someone makes you uncomfortable then leave them alone.She does have a man that can fix her things around the house.You must not have a jealous wife or she would have handled this for you.I know I would have long ago....
2007-07-20 08:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you can't help her anymore because you are afraid it might cause a misunderstanding with her husband. Advise her to get professional help when it comes to chores or repairs. Stop going over to her house.
2007-07-20 14:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it obvious? She's feeling you. Of all the guys she could have over to do favors, she picks you. Be honored. Her husband isn't giving her what she needs so she's cheating on him indirectly. Pretty soon you two could end up making out. Since you're bent on stopping this, tell her "As much as I appreciate doing favors for you, I'm getting the feeling you're coming onto me"
2007-07-20 08:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-07-14 08:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋