advice please?

Question

ok so im very shy, not a good talker, seem to sulk in the shawdows and look sad all the time, not very good with talking to ''very friendly'' guys....any advice on how to gain confidence, talk better, be freindly,what certain expressions mean, how to gain control and not seem too timid to where its annoying not cute? im not ugly and guys come up to me but i talk too low and stutter and always make a fool of myself ....some lose interest

Answer 1

It sounds like you have some trouble with self esteem. Try writing a list of positive things about yourself (physical, mental and emotional) and put it somewhere where you'll see it on a daily basis.

Try dressing in ways that you feel flatter your figure and emphasize your good points. If you have large or striking eyes, wearing a bright eyeshadow can draw attention to them. Dressing up can build confidence, and you'll be able to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you look good.

Speaking of mirrors, try practicing talking in them. It sounds a little silly, but it works. Practice saying hi, hello, how are you, I'm fine. Practice with dumb pickup lines (if you can say those without stuttering, you can say anything). Try practicing your flirty smiles in the mirror, too. Then when you're in public, you can use them and know that you're looking good.

If you talk too low, try clenching your stomach muscles slightly when you talk. It will help you project and be louder without making your voice squeak or crack.

Most of all, realize that if guys are walking up and talking to you, you are HOT! You've already got them hooked, all you have to do is smile and talk to them. One sweet smile will transform you from timid to coy, and guys like coy.

Answer 2

First, find out who you really are and then be that person. Learn to really like yourself. And then learn to be a friend. If you are into "friendship" with both sexes, then romance can easily follow. Build self confidence in small steps. Success breeds confidence. Set small goals and reward your self when you succeed. Analyze the failures and make improvements. This can be at anything, but should be in the area where you feel not confident. One problem: most people set too big of goals and then fail. Make them small enough at first so you know you can do it. Later make them stretch goals, but only small stretches. Don't set yourself up for failure... most do that.

Answer 3

You've already taken the first step. You've examined yourself and found the issue that may be hampering your progress. Nobody wants to talk to a woman who is "sulking in the shadows". A quick way to reversing your downward spiral is to genuinely BE happy. What you feel on the inside always manifests on the outside. People will recognize your cheery, happy vibe and will enjoy being in your presence.

Answer 4

Hie Mama. Well to me for to overcome your shyness and want to be a very friendly person there are some tips about it and here are the tips which is from me:-

1.To overcome the shyness in you it is better for you to try to talk to by yourself first whereby try to go to a mirror and from there talk to the mirror and for sure you will able to talk to many people and when you have talk about it then there won'6t be any trouble of you talking with. It is good for you to build a confidence in you whereby when you have a confidence in you then try to go to a mirror. Many people will be thinking this crazy but it really help you to do so.

2. When you have the confidence in you then it is good to call up your best friend and try to talk to her more by rather of sitting down quietly, and for sure you will be a talkative person and from there many people will love you.

3. To build a confidence it is usually comes from the individual and it will start to have a good way by coming up from your heart and yourself to build this it will take a long time for you to have it because to build a confidence it will usually start from a person whom it will be by thinking all the person of the same way of like pots of flower or they are a mirror and for sure that way you can build your own confidence and when you have build that then it is good to have your friend to talk to.

4.. When you have this and from there you can have fun and for sure all the guys will start to talk to you and they will start to talk to you and that way you can be more friendly andv they will surely call you to go out.

This are the tips which will always help me. Hope if you try this and it might help you too................................

ALL THE BEST..........................

Answer 5

practice, first try talk to ur friends more openly, tel them about funny times and get good from conversation. also watch other people to see how they start the conversation. ull get more confident and then when guys come up ull be able to talk easily, it might not be perfect at first, but just let them in to ur world a little and tell them a bit about urself and u should be just okay. believe, it works

Answer 6

take some acting or dance classes. Even a public speaking class will help boost your confidence.

Answer 7

well just start tlkin louder and dnt be a hermit crab. start tlkin to ppl and get to no them. but while ur doin this dnt 4get to be urself. if u want try tlkin to the mirror. just dnt be shy

Answer 8

Join some clubs or something.

Answer 9

tell soom random guy that you'll never see again that he's good looking...It will boost the confidence.

Answer 10

I could type everything on these websites on here but on the actual site it will be more thorough.

http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Positive


Hope these help!