Eg. We went to her doc's appt yesterday.My husband had to go to work from there and she would not even want to come to me and cried and cried for alsmot half an hour after my husband left and didn't even let me touch her.
Other eg; she would only have daddy chnage her diaper or feed her or take her for a walk and many more:((
I know she is just a tiny kid but sometimes this thing hurts me so much that i can not handle it. I feel bad that my own daughter does not want to come close to me.
I might be getting too emotional here but i do feel very hurt.
esp people;s comments like" Oh!she really is a daddy's girl. She dose not want mommy at all," etc
Do u think this is just a phase?is it common for small kids to prefer one of the parent to such an extent . esp dad over mom?
Thanks Much in advance.
2007-07-20 07:49:31 · 9 answers · asked by i have a question 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Thank u all for the support and great advice.I I really appreciate it. I am working full time and she has been like this for almsot a year now.If daddy is not around she is ok.
I'm the disciplinarian in the house and a little impatient than my husband.::(
2007-07-20 08:11:59 · update #1
It's 100% normal, and just a phase that she is going through. Many kids prefer one parent over another at different times in their development. In a few months, she may be all about mommy and start giving daddy the cold shoulder.
One thing that that may help is to watch her and her father when they are together, to see if there is anything that he is doing differently. Maybe he holds her a certain way when they are reading together, or he changes her diaper differently, etc. You may find a few tricks that can help make the transition smoother for both of you.
Another thing to think about is discipline. Who is the main enforcer in the household? If you are the only one that tells her it's time for bed, makes her brush her teeth, or puts her in a time out when she is misbehaving that may be the reason that she is favoring daddy. So, make sure that you are splitting up the fun and the not-so fun parental duties.
2007-07-20 07:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by knowmoremom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there two, children go through phases sometimes where they ar absolutely attatched to the other parent. My oldest was like that and only wanted daddy, it hurt me too. but wanna know something? She's 4, and right now she's a mommy's girl. Things may change.....now my second daughter who's 2, has always been a mommy's girl and now daddy is seeing what it's like.
Most likely it's a phase that will change. Especially if she spends more time with you, that could be whats causing it, she misses daddy so when he's around she clings.
2007-07-20 14:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My 4 1/2 year old daughter is a complete Mommy's girl EXCEPT when my sister is around. Then, forget about it; it's like I'm not there! Kids go through stages and this is perfectly normal especially if she's around you all the time and seeing Daddy is more like a treat and outside of her routine.
Try not to worry about it. I know it hurts. It used to hurt me to see that my daughter seems to prefer my sister, when she's around, but then I realized how lucky I am that she is able to bond with and love other members of the family the way she loves me.
BTW, I adopted my daughter as a single mom and there is no dad in the picture.
2007-07-20 15:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by Debra P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a phase. Try not to take it so harsh she loves you and she just probably gets more spoiled from daddy. My daughter wont let me brush her hair and i get upset about it cause only daddy can do it and that hurts my feelings i would love to put cute little pony tails and stuff in her hair but she screams.. Its hard specially for a mom who did all the work giving birth to take that the baby might prefer daddy but don't get upset with her that will push her away.
2007-07-20 14:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by peachescl2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can imagine how you feel. really sorry to hear.
but have u been with her from the beginning or did u work leaving her t home with daddy or a nanny.? somechilden try to be away from working moms coz they think moms dont have time for them except for working. f thats the cas try explaining to her that u must earn money for her to live a comfortable life etc..
if u r staying at home with him just try to spend a lot of time with her playing th egames she likes and doing the things she likes etc...
my son is very close to me coz i looked after him all day from the beginning without any help now hes 16 months and attached to me i play most of the time with him and let him do all the stuff he likes to do..
but they say girls are daddy's girls and boys are mamas boys..
so don't really worry about your situation or you can just ask her why she prefers daddy over u and etc...
2007-07-20 15:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by pinkcloud2015 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think this is just a phase. But you should feel fortunate that your daughter and husband have formed such a close bond. Try looking at the bright side, and I guarantee you, before you know it, your daughter will change.
2007-07-20 15:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 year old little girl is a mama's girl...
Aways wants mommy. Unless Mommy is not around, The she will settle for Daddy...
Its just a phase, I am not worried about it, and Neither should you be!
2007-07-20 14:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it! All kids go through phases like that! My daughter only wants me right now, but I know it will swing back to daddy again soon! Kids are only into what their own little feelings are! They don't know that it hurts us in the mean time! She loves you, and you'll feel it again soon!
2007-07-20 14:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Amy B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is pretty normal.
You are most likely with her the most so when dad is around it's more exciting because she sees him less.
She'll grow out of it.
2007-07-20 14:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by MyrtyGert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋