I agree I did some wrong stuff, broke some rules, was a bit disrespectful. Lasr week mom got a bit mad at me and decided to punish. I apologized sincerely. This was good, she accepted, was even nice but said I had to learn to follow rules. So for 2 weeks I spend the day doing some chores and learning things I don't enjoy, like cooking, embroidering and sewing. My grandma comes everyday to teach me to cook and one of her friend comes to teach me embroidering. Mom got me some cute frilly aprons and I gotta wear them all day long, a kind of uniform. I hate this, but mom said this will teach me to follow rules. A t night I spend quality time w/ mim, we talk a lot. She's been nice, we sit on the couch she hugs me sometimes even coddles me, but said she'll keep my punishment to the end. Saturday and Monday afternoon I can go out and have fun. These days have been kinda boring, but at least our relationship wasn't damaged and mom said she's kinda happy abut how I'm taking my punishment.
2007-07-20 07:48:45 · 35 answers · asked by Sonia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Mom believes I regret my mistakes and is happy I'm learning my lesson. But then, why keep my punishment to the end? I don't understand
2007-07-20 07:50:58 · update #1
Sounds like you have a mom who cares about you!
2007-07-20 07:51:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzie A 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I don't see where the punishment is. You say you are learning to cook, sew and embroider, three of the most basic requirements for a young lady. I think your mother is to be commended for her efforts in having you trained in such feminine skills. There is to little emphasis on feminine skills in todays' cross gender thinking. I have baking days with my two nieces and we wear our cooking aprons in the kitchen and then change into our frilly pinafores for our girls party. As for your relationship being damaged I think quiet the opposite. Your mother obviously loves you and wants to give you the best upbringing she can. If I was in your shoes I would be putting on your apron first thing in the morning and asking your mother if you can help her with some chores before you go to school, also after supper you could do the dishes.
2007-07-21 00:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by G G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping a punishment to the end shows that one keeps their word. That they stand by what they believe in . By setting a punishment and then taking it away shows the parent isn't really that serious about rules to begin with. The grounding that your mother created for you wasn't really that bad. At least you didn't have to clean the toilets for 2 weeks. Plus in the end it brought you and your mom together. If you were able to complete what was considered wrong, why shouldn't your mom be able to keep your punishment to the end. Just because you apologize doesn't mean you should be rewarded. I would have taken you mom's punishment any day over what I had.
2007-07-20 08:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by CraftyG's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were true punishment she wouldn't allow you to go out at all and have fun on Saturday and Monday. I think the punishment is not that bad. Learning to cook is not so bad. You will cherish the times you spent with your grandmother someday when she is gone. It is important for your mother to keep the punishment until the end or it would teach you that if you get in trouble you can get out of it easily and that would not be good! I use to let my daughter out of punishment early and that was a big mistake. She just kept doing things over and over because she knew she wouldn't stay in trouble too long.
2007-07-20 07:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom loves you! She only wants what every good mother wants for her kids: To grow up knowing what respect is. The rules don't stop when you grow up. Its important to know that there are rules and laws to be followed and when they're broken, you suffer the consequences. She's right to have you 'carry out' your punishment until the end. If she were to give in now, you might think she'd give in every time! You will remember this experience and think about it next time you consider doing wrong, breaking rules, and being disrespectful.
2007-07-20 08:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by mattz_grrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was too lenient on you. If my child broke the rules the my child would not be doing anything but school and home and it sucks to be grounded during the summer, I am a firm believer of the old adage spare the rod, spoil the child so when my child does something he knows he's not supposed to do I punish accordingly. Your mom should have grounded you for the disrespect alone but you also broke the rules, sis you not know better?
2007-07-20 08:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by outtaonesmind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a nice punishment. The reason she is sticking to her word is because exactly that .....you are not going to learn to be manipulative and as you grow older you will see there are prices to pay for being bad.You sound like a rally sweet kid.My daughter is all grown up and is a nurse but smetimes I just wish I could have my "little girl" back.Love your Mom & show respect and you will go places in life. Not many girls get a chance to learn the old sewing things and you get it from your Gram. So lucky.
2007-07-20 08:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by lighthousecastle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats pretty fair. Punishment should be a learning experience, as humans tend to learn through their mistakes. Look at your punishment this way: you're learning some skills that many people would like to have, but are just too unmotivated to get. I can cook and sew, but I'm not very good at them. But at least I have them, and when I need to use my skills, I can. But your punishment sounds fair. Have fun!
2007-07-20 07:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Kevin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sounds great. She has to keep her promises to you, even if it's in punishment form, so that you can trust her to do what she says she'll do. Enjoy the time with her and the other women. It will be over soon and really that's too bad. You're learning things most girls never learn today and believe or not, it's actually worthwhile stuff. I wish more mothers would love their daughters enough to do what your mom's doing.
2007-07-20 07:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by SpursFan123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a good mom......I am glad that you have her.......
here is a story for you......
This teenage girl got into some serious trouble and she was about to go to jail for stealing.......the judge asked her mom some questions and found out that mom wasn't too involved with the child.......the punishment that the judge gave the girl......to be handcuffed to her mother.....her mother had to go everywhere with her.....now she says that she is glad that she has a relationship with her mom.....
I believe the girl was about 15 or 16 years old.....
You will end up being well rounded and will love doing the things that you are learning right now. You wait......You will be glad.......Blessings!!!!
2007-07-20 07:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only 2 weeks? Feel lucky that your mom loves you and is trying to teach you a good lesson.
I don't even call it a punishment if you get Saturday and Monday off.
2007-07-20 07:52:54 · answer #11 · answered by sierra33ok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋