Ok, I'm 100% positive that I'm not having until until I'm married (oh and I'm almost 24). But I recently met this guy that I kinda liked and we went to ihs apartment and fooled around a bit....actually a bit too much for me. Its not like he forced me...I enjoyed it. But now I feel sooooo guilty.....like I've cheated on my future husband! :o(
We didnt do anything "Sexual", technically....
We just made out and well....I let him play with my boobs alotttt! He gave me a hickey But I was still fully dressed and he only had his top off.
I feel soooo guilty now. As if I've lost a piece of my innocence.
What do you think? Think I'll still be pure for my husband? Think that was too slutty on my part? God knows I've learned my lesson...there's noooo way I'm ever gonna do anything like that again!!! I swear, I'm not gonna do anything again, until its with my husband...or at least until its with the man I know will be my husband!
What are your thoughts? Advice?
2007-07-20 07:32:49 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he didn,t penetrate you then you have nothing to feel guilty about
2007-07-20 07:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Forgive yourself soon. You are still virtuous and loveable. You just have a little more experience than some other virgins. You learned what sex is like. Things won't be so awkward on your wedding night. I don't know why your old lover doesn't seem marriageable to you. Anyway, it's a great ambition to be pure before marraige. You can avoid lots of heartache that way. You need to protect your heart and only allow people in your life that are safe. I hope you meet somebody else who shares your desire for a pure marriage. Anybody who says that you are damaged goods doesn't deserve your love. Keep the faith. God loves you.
2007-07-20 07:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Calm down, you're already doing a big thing in waiting until you're married you can cheat a little bit just until you get to go the whole way don't feel bad. Heck, just go read all the q's about the "girls" who've slept with like 20 guys and they're only 16 and you won't feel bad. You've done nothing wrong dont' feel guilty. It was an experience you enjoyed so leave it at that. If you're gonna be a virign you should at least enjoy it as much as you can.
2007-07-20 07:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give yourself a break hon. We all have made mistakes. You are so lucky it didn't go any further. What I would do is make sure he knows how you feel and don't get into that situation again. If he pushes you to he is not the guy for you. If a man really loves you he will understand. You are a great lady for putting high standards on yourself. You can do this. Just forgive yourself and move forward. Do whatever you need to not to get put in that position again.
2007-07-20 07:38:04 · answer #4 · answered by Joni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must be getting old, in my day "60s" sex was & is a natural gift from God, trying out your equipment is all natural.To put this wall of waiting is to set yourself up for divorce, what happens when you find out you don't like sex with your husband?
When I saw this trend of being a virgin before marriage I felt that a-lot of young people are going to be unhappy.
You drive a car before buying it so do the same with sex, use all precautions- condoms etc and have some fun,24yrs is getting old and your missing out on great times. go for it there's no cheating on future anything, live your life today in the now ! !
2007-07-20 07:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by DR DEAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to set those boundaries before you get in a situation like that again. If you dont feel comfortable or you feel your concience bothering you when you are fooling around, do not hesitate to ask the guy to stop...dont feel pressured at all...
I think your husband will appreciate how much you are protecting yourself for him. Good luck!
2007-07-20 07:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... its normal to feel guilty because youve somewhat broken a commitment to yourself. you did lose part of your innocence, but you're still a virgin, which is good.. now you learned your lesson, so you can avoid it next time.. you havent cheated on your future husband - you've just had a small bump on the road.
you're still pure. and that wasnt very slutty, so dont worry about it anymore.. you cant take what youve done back, anyways, right? just move on holding on to the lesson youve learned :o)
2007-07-20 07:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Concerned 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your fine, you feel guilty cuz you have never done something like that, you didn't cheat on anybody, and its only natural to be curious and follow natural instincts.
If your uncomfortable with the situation that has happened then keep yourself out of the position so it doesn't happen again.
2007-07-20 07:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be careful...because the more you "fool around" the more it will feel good and, if/when the next guy comes along, you might have more intense feelings for him and feel the need to show it physically as well. For instance, this guy you like and let him feel you up and all...you may fall in love with your next boyfriend and feel like you have to give more physically to match up with what you're giving emotionally. It can be a snowball effect. Just make sure you let the guy you're dating know your boundaries and, if he respects you, he will not cross them. Hope this helps.
2007-07-23 19:02:00 · answer #9 · answered by jcspreciouschild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a crime to enjoy "making out". Kissing and touching is normal between a man and a woman who are attracted to each other. It is not a sin, and it defintely is not sexual intercourse. Don't feel guilty about someone you haven't even met yet. Enjoy your youth, but be cautious if you really want to stay a virgin.
2007-07-20 07:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by Lisanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable with appologizing to God, you can do that. You technically didn't give up your virginity, but you came close, and it spooked you. The best thing you can do for yourself emotionaly, is again, to apologize to God and to not do what you did in the future...
I hope what I said helped. And, good for you to wait until marriage.. we need more people like that in this fallen world.
2007-07-20 07:41:15 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋