Do you find that you love your children more deeply than your spouse? I find this tendency to be more prevalent in women, who I often hear claim to love their children more than their husband. Please let me know if you do/don't. And if you don't mind, please state your gender and age. I appreciate it.
2007-07-20 07:01:47 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am female - age 44.
I don't love my child more - I love my child differently than my spouse. I am protective of my child - my husband being an adult - can fend for himself in most situations. I have my husband's back so to speak. But I don't have to champion his cause like I do with my young child. I have to be more aware of what I am doing and what sort of example I set for my child - he emulates my words and actions - and that is not the case for my husband. .... I don't know that love of a spouse or significant other is comparable to love of a child. Either way, I'd die saving either my husband or child. Here's a difference for me: Honestly, I could probably survive the death of my spouse - but if my child died they'd probably have to euthanize me. I don't think I could hang on to reality at all - so it'd be better for everyone if that happened. But it's not because I love my child more. ... Again, the love is different.
2007-07-20 07:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Barb B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. When you are getting married and in love, you think you can't love anyone more than your husband, then you have a baby, and you find out you were wrong. I still am very deeply in love with my husband, but the love I have for my daughter is so deep, it is hard to explain, I mean, she is a part of me. I know one day my children will grow up and move on, so it is very important to maintain a strong and true love, friendship, and partnership with my husband, because someday we'll be alone together again, and we have that for him. I guess you could say I don't love any one more or less, but instead it is a different love, like romantic vs. maternal, because that is a good description too. I also think my love for my child is unconditional, where my love for my husband is more conditional, if he cheated on me, or we were dicorced for some reason, I could turn that love off, where my love for my child is never going to change, no matter what. I am female, 31 years old.
2007-07-20 15:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am feamale and 40 yrs old. I have four children that I love to death. The love that you share for your husband is a whole different love then the love you have for your children. Your children will one day grow up and leave the nest your husband should be there forever. I love my husband and my children very much. I dont see what you are getting at because there is no competition. We are called a family.
2007-07-20 15:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its loving them more but in a very dif strong way. You have to realize that with a husband or wife you know they can take care of yourself. If I had to choose say between a husband and my children for some reason I would def. choose my children. They need you much more to protect and nurture them. I really do not feel that its loving them more but having a strong sense of protectiveness and love. Hope this helps.
BTW I'm 38 with 2 daughters ages 13 and 15
2007-07-20 14:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by FoxBelle 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmm. Good question. OK, I think it is not possible to love your children in the same way that you love your mate. We only have one word, "love" but there are many different versions of it. Your love for your children can be very strong because they are totally dependant on you, idolize you, and are under your control. This type of "love" is not really healthy or usually even possible with another adult. Plus, women have a very, very strong maternal instinct that makes them especailly close to their children. In nature, it is necessary for the child's protection. I know more than a few women where this maternal instinct has totally taken over their personality, wheterh that's totally healthy or not I couldn't really judge, but it's true.
Male -43
2007-07-20 14:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by dirtyrubberduck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with sparki, it's a different type of love.
Sometimes with women who don't feel they have a good marriage with their husband, they pour all their love into their children. It's not bad to love children lots, obviously, but not to the detriment of the spouses' relationship. Children need to grow up with loving, married parents who daily LIVE their love - they need to know they are secure in the arms of their parents.
I'm 46, f, married almost 18 years.
2007-07-20 15:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 31 year old woman. I find that the love I have for my daughter is a completely different kind of love than I have for my husband. The love I have for her is a overwhelming, heart-wrenching,- I love her so much that it hurts sometimes! The love that I have for my husband is a soul quenching, comfortable,-I never want to live without it kind of love. Both are equally consuming, but completely different feeling.
2007-07-20 14:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Amy B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not married yet but been together for 9 1/2 years with a four year old son.I feel almost a different love for each my boyfriend i chose to love him for who he is and what he does but my son it's like the love was just there from day one.I cant say i love one more than the other. I am female 30yrs. old
2007-07-20 15:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by jenn p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't necessarily say that I love my child more than my spouse. I love them both more than life itself, and would do absolutely anything for either of them. I will say that my daughter is my top priority, and that I almost always tend to put my daughter's needs before the needs of my spouse. I think that any involved/attentive parent would feel the same way.
2007-07-20 14:08:48 · answer #9 · answered by mattz_grrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say, I love both my husband and my child so very much. My daughter was once a part of me at one point, the pain and work I put into bringing her into the world makes a very different kind of bond. So I guess you can say it's a deeper kind of love. Also the love is different, I desire my husband, lust for him, while the love for my daughter is...nurturing and protective, it's harder to explain. However, I would actually do anything for either of them to keep them safe and happy. I would be devastated if anything happened to them. I love them both so very much, equal in amount but yet different.
2007-07-20 14:16:08 · answer #10 · answered by spottychan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋