Well do you think this is awful? I have a sister that was in a relationship for 4 years with a gentlemen and they broke up a month ago, and I always remembered her playing around saying that she would get with his son if their relationship didnt work out. My sister called me last night and said that she had slept with his son I couldnt believe it but they are 2 grown adults his son is 20 and she is 26 years old but its like come on nobody can ever EVER know that she went there because they would think that it was done on purpose just to get back at her ex. What do you guys think out there, I need feed back to give back to her.
2007-07-20 06:44:59 · 53 answers · asked by Kinani M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your sister truly liked her ex's son then no one should be allowed to condemn her acts, though it lacks a great deal of tact and self control. This all depends on whether she slept with him because she was attracted to him or if she slept with him because she wanted revenge. She was in a relationship for 4 years with his father. To simply sleep with his son mere months after their relationship ended, leaves doubts as to whether she really cared about this man. You can't do anything for her. She made a choice and now she must live with it.
2007-07-20 06:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by Help 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If she does not want anyone to find out about this, she already knows what she did was wrong. I am marryed to an older man, that has a son around my age. There is no way I would ever think of him in a sexual way. That is just wrong any way you look at it. She was in a relationship with her ex for 4 years, she had to form some kind of relationship with his son. This is only going to cause problems between father and son. To me it seems like she already had sleeping with him in mind. If she felt this way about his son, she should have never had the relationship with the father for four years.
2007-07-20 06:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Cristy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone is being a little harsh. So what if she slept with the son of her ex-boyfriend. They are two consentual adults and so there is nothing legally wrong with what she has done. It will make family reunions a little awkward but the son is also to blame. Everyone makes their own decisions in life. If it was just to spite her ex, well, she did a great job of it and if she really likes the boy then good for her for doing what makes her happy. In ten years, honestly, the fact that she slept with this guy isnt going to matter unless you know, she gets pregnant or marries the ex. It sounds like she should just distance herself from this family and move on.
2007-07-20 06:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by chismr26 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if the son is 20 his dad would have to be at least 37 or 38 so he was a lot older than her she probably has more in common with the son any ways. i guess the son must have thought she was fine or he wouldn't be with her..so let her and him have their fun and don't worry what everyone else or the world thinks..iv known of men that have left their wife and married the step daughters. yep its sad but it happens...ppl..need to worry about their own marriages and problem and not worry about what others are doing that don't affect them.
2007-07-20 06:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now we all know this is very wrong of her. Tell her it would be easier to find a new man rather involve herself in such a outrageous love affair. This is not only a relationship doomed to end, but she is going to destroy what friend ship the son and father had. Tell her that is morally wrong and hope that she hears you out.
2007-07-20 07:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister did almost the same thing except she she was dating the son and left him for his dad who is like 20 or more years older than her. I think it was awful because she was dating the dad before but it sounds to me like the son was closer to her age anyways so its not that bad.
2007-07-20 06:54:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's not with her boyfriend, the son is an adult and there's only a six year age difference so, it's not like she raised him as a stepson.
I agree with you though, if anyone finds out about this, it will look as though she used the lad to get back at his father and if he were to ever find out, he'd most likely feel very hurt.
That aside, they're both consenting adults and it's no one else's business.
2007-07-20 06:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is was the boyfriend??? If he has a 20 year old son, he has to be at least 36-38. She is probably better off with someone nearer her own age. My first wife was 14 years older than me, and as the years went by, we became less compatable because of the difference in age.
2007-07-20 06:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by ncbeachman28403 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
tell her that sleepin with a man will not make them like you or respect you..sleeping with an exs son..is wrong..if she was like a step Mom to him for 4 years..she needs to get out of that family. sleeping with someone for revenge or validation is wrong in the end shes just going to feel terrible about her actions.
2007-07-20 06:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she enjoys sex ... a lot ... maybe too much ... she should move on and find somebody else ... the drama that will happen isn't even worth the sex ... tell her good luck and grow up ... take responsibility for her actions and make better decisions in the future ... !
2007-07-20 07:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋