I am a nice guy, and I have never had any success with girls. On the other hand, dudes that treat girls like a piece of $hit seem to get a lot of girls. I thought it was just dumb girls who go for bad boys. I am currently attending a college whose students were top students in high school. So I assume the girls here are pretty intelligent and smart. The girls here also seem to go for so-called bad boys. Man I don't think I can be abusive to girls. I can talk smack with dudes, but I just can't do bad things to girls. Am I hopeless? Do girls really like bad boys? Do they like to be abused?
2007-07-20 06:21:12 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be a stubborn bastard in the begining...women like men like challenge...once you've got her ...then be nice to her, if she starts slipping ...then act like a bastard again.
2007-07-20 06:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by ?????? 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
No they don't. To answer your question though, I do see what you're talking about. They do seem to go for the jerks. Maybe it's just the physical attraction that they're looking at. But, as far as I know, girls don't like to be abused, they probably just stick around because the guy probably has a popular status. But never do that to a girl or anyone. It's wrong. Just keep being yourself. I think the bad boys tend to have a certain look that girls are drawn to. But there are smart girls out there who go for the nice guys. Just give it some time. And remember, the bad boys aren't marrage material. If you have a nice personalitiy and you're smart, you shouldn't have a hard time for very long 8^)
2007-07-20 06:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of a relationship because the boy was "too nice." Really the problem wasn't that he treated me right or that he didn't abuse me, the problem was he never took initiative. I always had to choose and he was always making sure I was happy. If i am always happy, then that means you aren't making yourself happy. First you have to be happy with yourself before girls can like you. Also, the boy always was afraid to make a move. All he worried about was others feelings so I had to kiss him. I was talking with my girls and they all agreed there are basic neccesities for a first date. Open the door for her, pay for the meal and hold her hand. If at the end of the night though, she is still standing on her front porch, YOU KISS HER! If you are always worried about everyone else, it is not attractive, you have to care about yourself too. Also when a girl feels more like a man that her man, its not attractive. When you take longer to get ready or you are the more sensitive of the two, it becomes awkward. When my last boyfriend and I broke up, we got into a huge fight and he finally said F*** YOU. He just was mean to me when I deserved it and it was a huge turn on. I am not saying be rude or snappy all the time but when your angry SHOW IT! But no, never abuse or beat a girl.
2007-07-20 06:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by chismr26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, nice guys finish last always. You don't have to abuse girls and smack them around to have that bad boy image. What you should do is be extremely confident and not be a pushover. Another thing, when you are around girls, just treat them like you would any guy. Say what's on your mind, and be straight.
I'll give you an example. a long time ago, I was talking to this really hot girl. I could never really seal the deal, but we were friends. We would talk on the phone everyday, and she knew I liked her. I made that apparent.
One day, she called me and acted like a total b****.
I told her that I had been nothing, but nice to her from day one. I said I never want to see you again, and our friendship is off.
The next day, she called me and told me that she was sorry, and that she wanted me to be her boyfriend. She went out of her to make up for her actions. I don't kiss and tell, but you should figure out what happened next.
Well, hope this helps you and good luck.
2007-07-20 06:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by hannism 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong - there ARE women who like the good guys and like to be treated well. During college, some women have fun w/ the bad boys but believe me....later they realize the bad boys are NOT r'ship material.
The reason some girls are turned off by "nice" guys is because some nice guys come off too needy or trying too hard. While it's important for guys to be nice, it's also important for them to have self-respect and not let the woman walk all over him. No woman likes a man that she perceives to have no spine. I'm married to a wonderfully nice man who treats me like a queen, but believe me....he isn't afraid to set me straight when I start acting like a brat! :) It's a balance. Nice guys have to be careful they aren't SOOO nice that the woman thinks she can take advantage of him b/c then the power shifts and the woman doesn't have any respect for the guy.
2007-07-20 06:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all girls like to be abused. It seems that most who are in abusive relationships have very low self esteem and don't think they're worth better. I don't think there is anything wrong with you. The time will come when you'll find someone who appreciates and loves you the way you are. It might not happen until you're out of college. I would just focus on school and building friendships now. Have fun and enjoy life.
2007-07-20 06:30:03 · answer #6 · answered by alisjohnst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your talking about. But I'm a girl, i see that some girls like the 'whole bad boy' image and seem to like being pushed around. Not all girls are like that. Not me, anyways. I'm sorry, I'm a girl and i can't even help you. But I will say that not all girls are that way, and nice guys are a great catch.
What do you mean talk smack with the dudes? :p Sounds cheap and shallow.
2007-07-20 06:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women want to be treated like scum, so they don't all like the "bad boy" types. I personally like the "nice guys", but usually choose the bad guy for a few different reasons.
The difference I've found between nice guys and bad boys is that the nice guys are pretty sweet and caring and all that, but they aren't as aggressive as I'd like them to be and the challenge of getting them can be fun, so I lean towards the bad boy sometimes, even if I don't get treated very well...
But don't be discouraged...one day you'll find a great gal that likes you for you, and you won't have to change a thing.
2007-07-20 06:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't EVER abuse a girl. No girl likes it. They stay w/ that guy bcuz they are afraid they will get hurt if they leave them. Girls like a bad boy attitiude. Not a bad boy who steals and abuses. You aren't hopeless. Just don't try to be something you aren't. Plenty of girls would prefer a nice guy over a bad boy. In my opinion, girls like bad boys because it brings out another side of them, plus they might feel more secure. BUT! you can make a girl feel safe without being bad.
2007-07-20 06:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by Strider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! not all girls like the bad boys. sure, the rebel, do-whatever-you want image can be alluring, but when it comes down to it, it's how the guy treats the lady is what closes the deal. Confidant, fun, funny, and smart guys are the total winners. You're in college, with i'm sure a vast amount of ladies. Not to mention, smart guys definitely don't want one of those not so smart chicks, who wanna be abused/mistreated by a 'bad boy'. I'd imagine a smart guy like you ;-) wld prefer a smart girl one that can hold her own with you...like me =) don't worry you'll be fine, just be yourself, be happy with you, make friends with tons of females (no girl can refuse a charming lady's man, who don't necc have to be bad boys, think double 007 like instead) and the word will spread about how great you are!
2007-07-20 06:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by platinum66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand...but you can not let this discourage you in any way...it comes from a broken house-hold they were raised in..in some cases they like it because it's a part of the life they lead...also I'll add that most of them had their heart broken by nice guys so now they want thugs...and they like being abused to them it's better than a broken heart...they say a physical wound heals faster and better than a broken and stepped on heart any-day...they prefer it to be physical than it being mental...it's not a good thing but to them it's not a bad thing...they like the excitement about it...seeing stars and colors,especially when they know they "themselves know they deserve it" hey man I could go on..but I'll stop right there..I hope this has given you some understanding on the ? at hand...I wouldn't recommend men hitting women but I wouldn't just let a women run over me.....so just try to look for a church girl who's all about the good things in life and you'll feel better..good-luck
2007-07-20 07:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by capricorn-saturn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋