see i am who i am and i like who i am but i have such a hard time finding someone who likes me for me... my opinion you should never change who you are for someone else... but what do you think??
2007-07-20 06:11:52 · 34 answers · asked by audrajean05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Changing for someone else will make you miserable and a phony. Be you! If no one likes you for you, then the heck with them! Somewhere, there is your soulmate-find him!
2007-07-20 06:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by aackpht 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never change who you are. You really can't. It's genetics. We are who we are when we are born, and we become what we are when we are raised. It is our genetics and birthrights which make us who we are today. Even if you wanted to, there's no way you could truly change yourself. Your image, yes, but not your personality. You'd only be masking it with another persona, and it will be struggling to get out, causing you strife to maintain your new persona to impress some guy. Be patient. Judging by your avatar, you look pretty young, so I'd say that time isn't too much of a factor as of yet. Concentrate on doing what you normally do. Pursue the guys that meet your standards, and even try some who don't share the qualities you are attracted to. You never know who is compatible, so you've got to get out there and experiment. Get a momentum going, and get searching for that one who will like you for you, not for who he wants you to be.
2007-07-20 06:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't do that. Let's say you do change who you are and you do find a guy. You won't be happy because you liked who you truly were and you and this guy will really have nothing in common because you pretended to be someone else just to get him to like you. If he didn't like you for yourself, then he's really not worth the time. When you find someone who truly likes you for you, that will be a wonderful catch, don't you think?
2007-07-20 06:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY SWEETIE!!!!
WELL I SAY U SHOULD NEVER CHANGE WHO U SHOULD NOT CHANGE WHO U R, IF WHO U R MAKES U HAPPY!!!!!!!! SO DON'T CHANGE!!!!!
THE ONLY WAY I WOULD SAY CHANGE IS IF U HAD A BAD PROBLEM, U KNOW A VICE OR SOMETHING, THEN I'D SAY HEY MAYBE IT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA 2 CHANGE THAT AND STOP IT ALTOGETHER, CUZ SOME GUYS DON'T FIND IT ATTRACTIVE WHEN A WOMAN HAS A VICE, EXAMPLE: HEAVY DRINKER, OR A SMOKER. THAT'S SOMETHING 2 CHANGE, BUT OTHER THEN THAT, STAY TRUE 2 YOURSELF SWEETIE!!!!
ME I AM WHO I AM AND A MAN WILL EITHER ACCEPT IT OR NOT. NOT MY PROBLEM. CUZ WHAT HE VIEWS AS TRASH IS SOME OTHER MANS TREASURE!!!!! SO......... I MEAN I KNOW ME AND TRUST ME I PUT IT OUT THERE. I'LL BE STRAIGHT UP ABOUT MY EVIL WAYS. I DON'T WANT 2 LIE ABOUT HOW I AM, AND THEN CUZ I LIED THEY LEAVE. SO I'M TOTALLY UP FRONT ABOUT MY ATTITUDES AND SH*T. I'M HIGH MAINT. AND I KNOW IT!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!!!!!!
ANYWAY, DON'T CHANGE LUV, U WILL FIND A MAN WHO'S WORTHY OF WHAT U HAVE 2 OFFER HIM!!!!! U AND UR CHILDREN!!!!!!!!! TAKE CARE SWEETIE!!!!!!!!!
HUGS!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-20 16:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never change who you are as a person.
And yes you will find a man.
Remember that you just have to look in the right places.
Like for example: If you want to date a Dr then get yourself job in the Medical department where they are...Or a Lawyer then find yourself a job in the Law department.
Remember that you might fin a good one or a bad one.
That is up to you...How you study that male about his what about etc.
If you have hair cut that is not make you show up your best features then that is just a physical change, not mentally change...I think you got the pic of what I mean.
I always do recommend that to get to know a person and for that person get to know you too.
Be Yourself always...And don't never go and put your heart right in front because is where we go wrong...And get hurt and most of the time end up with the wrong person.
2007-07-20 06:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. Don't change who you are just to find someone else. Especially if you like who you are already. Eventually someone will like who you are and fall in love w/ it. You don't want a guy to like you for the wrong reasons.
2007-07-20 06:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by Strider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,Why do you think that a man, any man doesn't want you ?? Are you opinionated? Rude? Tactless? Look like a hooker???Act like one??? Lazy?? Overweight?? if you can answer all of these questions with at least one no. then you should be able to find a man. If this sounds like you , then yes, you need to change your life, your attitude and your mind. Become a better person... can't do you any harm now can it???
2007-07-20 06:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i agree you should never change who you are as a person for anyone...even if its for love...if you have to change who you are then its not worth it. i know its hard but with time some amazing guy that's right for you will come along and you'll be glad you stayed who you are and not changed for some other guy...just keep an eye out for someone with characteristics that are close or even match yours!!
2007-07-20 06:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by Amber T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are right don't change for anyone especially a man you will find someone out there who likes you for you don't worry and don't change
2007-07-20 06:15:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change who you are? No way! You can never sustain trying to be somebody your not. Be patient, the right guy is out there waiting to meet you. In the grander scheme of life, your not ready yet. Accept that and continue growing you!
2007-07-20 06:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by mitscherman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋