We live in a duplex and have for about 5 years now. New neighbors moved in about a year ago and we have never had problems with them until recently. At the end of the spring We tore down an old swing set that was out there and dangerous for our children. The neighbor asked (all of her children are teens but she has a young grandchild) if we would pitch in and help clean up the yard and build a sandbox, we did. The sand box is covered with a tarp and my children use it frequently. Someone is always outside with my children and I usually double check at night that it is still covered. Yesterday she was yelling at my kids (ages 7 and 3 and my hubby was outside with them) accusing them of leaving the sandbox opened twice the day before. I know for a fact that her DD had been over and uncovered it for her child (I watched her do it and we were not home all afternoon until 9 PM). I want to say something to her but am wondering if I should just let it go. Any opinions?
2007-07-20 05:46:13 · 8 answers · asked by girlzmommy 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The other thing i wanted to mention and forgot was that her daughter was here while she (the neighbor) was at workso I know she couldn't have seen the DD uncover it.
I definately like to make sure it is covered don't want the neighbor cats to use it as a litter box LOL!
Thanks everyone!
2007-07-20 06:03:58 · update #1
I would definatly say something.It is not OK for you neighbor to be yelling at your kids for something she never saw them do.Just tell your neighbor that you would rather she came and spoke with you instead of yelling at you children when she has an issue.You can also let her know that you saw who took the cover off.Good Luck!!!
2007-07-20 05:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First thing I'd do is call your planning & zoning department and get their take. Installing/replacing a fence does take a permit and these people can tell you what you are legally allowed to do (or not do). I'd also call your neighborhood association and double check what your covenants have to say about fence placement, maintenance, and all. It's not fair that you are solely having to pay for repairs & maintenance on a communal fence...this is something that should be shared equally. As far as the jerk through the alley....he's just trying to get his property re-fenced for free. If he won't split the cost of a new fence, then you can do whatever you want as long as the new fence is on your land. If he doesn't like it, then he can put up his own fence behind it. PS Just in case he gets ugly....I'd be sure to snap lots of pictures of your fence before you tear it down :)
2016-05-18 03:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would mention it to her but if she is a yeller she might yell at you too. so ask her to talk to DD and you will be villigent that the sandbox is not left uncovered because you understand the potential danger it cause to all children who play in it
2007-07-20 05:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I also am having problems with my neighbors so I know how you feel. I would definitley say something to them--because the fact the she yelled at your children, would have pushed me over the edge. Expressing how you feel to your nieghbor does not have to be a bad thing--you should speak calmly and respectfully, and trust me it will make you feel alot better.
2007-07-20 06:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would address it simply because she brought your children into it, that's not appropriate, especially when she wasn't even sure that they were responsible. She needs to bring any issues whatsoever to you, not the kids. Good luck~
2007-07-20 06:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ the first post. She has no right to yell at your kids when she doesn't know the facts. I think you should say something, but kill her w/ kindness so she feels stupid afterwards.
2007-07-20 05:58:49 · answer #6 · answered by ~lattemom~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i would go over and say i don't want there to be probs btwn us but fyi we weren't home till 9 on the day you accused my kids of leaving it uncovered. please don't accuse them unless you whitness them doing it. or come to me about it and i'll deal with them
be nice about it and calm
2007-07-20 06:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would mention it to her and explain what you saw.She shouldn't be yelling at your children anyway.
She owes your children an apology.
2007-07-20 05:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋