Eventually we plan on getting married. Because of our differences, he has yet to ask me. He wants to get married in a Catholic church, but I don't want to have a Catholic wedding. I want to be married in a church as well. He keeps drilling me about "Catholics don't believe in divorce," I don't either! But because my grandmother was married and divorced nine times, he feels as if I will fall into her shoes. Being Presbyterian, we don't have nuns and the Pope and rosary's or things that come with the Catholic religion. We also don't have to sit down and confess our sins to a priest. I am very comfortable being Presbyterian, as that was the way I was raised. What should I do? Not marrying him is out of the question. I can be flexible if I am convinced but I'd rather not be. SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY PLEASE!
2007-07-20 05:33:00 · 9 answers · asked by Lissa 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
We are not getting married until these differences are worked out so ya'll don't have to worry about us not being ready. Please answer the question itself.
2007-07-20 10:15:36 · update #1
I first want you to know that I think it is wonderful that you both wish to get married. Now you say you can be flexible, but what I suggest is that you be truthful. Search out the truth about both religions. Together as a team and decide together that you will both practice the most truthful religion. It may be that neither religion is right or maybe the truth is not wholly in either. Marry him and live out the love and life God is directing you to find. God bless you
2007-07-20 05:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you both take a class in Catholicism and a class in your Presbyterian face so you can learn the many commonalities between your religions?
The Catholic class is called RCIA and it's free. Some churches even require it as part of premarital counseling. That will tell you everything you need to know about Catholicim, including why we have a Pope (people need a leader, so Jesus left us with one) and what the rosary is all about (meditations on the life of Christ) and why we confess to God in the presence of a priest (accountability so we can learn from our mistakes and also the joy of being pronounced absolved by the Blood of the Lamb).
I'm sure there is some similar course that your church offers to prospective members that will explain why you all do what you do.
Typically, a couple is married in the bride's church. Your boyfriend could get dispensation to marry you in your Presbyterian church. Or, you may find that the Catholic ceremony suits you very well, once you learn more about it, and you may find yourself agreeing to marry in the Catholic church. But these decisions cannot be made if you don't have enough information about each other's faith.
2007-07-20 05:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Sparky. You could also be married in his church, but without a full Mass. Just the wedding ceremony. Him being Catholic, you'll have to do some things (meetings w/ the priest, Engaged Encounter, possibly RCIA) which can enhance your relationship with each other and with God.
If you don't get married in his church, you'd probably have to have your marriage blessed later on.
2007-07-20 06:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by lawlzlawlzduck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 04:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it Gods way and you will not end up in divorce.
Heaven on earth is in the Catholic Church for it comes from Him
2007-07-20 05:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Gods child 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The bible tells us not to be unequally yoked. You are bringing up some very serious issues. Please do not talk about marriage any more until you take the time to consider very carefully what you would be doing if you marry a person whose beliefs are so different than yours. And yes, Catholicism and protestantism are very, very different. Marriage does not make problems any easier, it makes them ten times worse.
2007-07-20 05:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Divorce does not require your belief to exist. It just does.
2007-07-20 05:37:42 · answer #7 · answered by UpChuck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Not marrying him is out of the question." Why is that. You are headed for nothing but trouble.
2007-07-20 05:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by Little Stuart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't accept each other as you are, and respect each other's traditions, you are not ready to get married.
2007-07-20 05:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋